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 Temptstress
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 1
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I recently was getting to know this man that advertised on his profile that he wanted someone who had working knowledge and respect for the words: SINCERETY, PASSION. . .and a few others. I am a person that Practices What I Preach, and I happen to be a rather passionate person by nature--> I am a scorpio. I sent him a message thinking that he would probably not respond, but I told him that I would move to FL for that! I was impressed with his picture and the words that appearently came from his head, and not his heart. . . .He turned out to be a manipulative, extremely perverted a**----, that wouldnp't know what passion in love was if it hit him in the heart. He is a complete lie, everything he says, he has no desire to love, because he does not love himself. So I am pissed off, because I was serious about getting to know the person in the profile---I could have really moved to find all of this out, I am very glad that I didn't. I am still willing to move for MR. Right! Shoot, I suppose I more or less am just ready to move! So---If you read this and you think that where you live is better than Texas, let me know and let me know why. . .Thanks
I would like to remind everyone that even though it seems good, nothing beats taking the time to find out what lies beneath---I would not have moved out there anytime soon, but what if he held all of his falacies until I got there?


Thanks---Temptstress---yes I know it is misspelled on my Profile--
 Coastergal
Joined: 7/24/2005
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So, there are plenty of fish in the SEA!
Posted: 3/24/2007 8:37:03 AM
Ok.. 1st you need to realize that a profile is like marketing.... It's to attract others.
2nd.. YOU only know what the other person tells you!

At least you were able to figure it out through your conversations.
NEVER tell someone before you've even really gotten to know them that you'd be willing to move for them! That is way too much presser on another person!

Honestly, I live in Cali now... and I mess the men in Texas. Dating didn't seem to be all about games in Texas... they seemed to have different morals and values.
Remember the grass isn't always greener!
 Temptstress
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 3
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Posted: 3/24/2007 10:59:27 AM
Funny thing is I was actually being sarcastic. I would move for a lot of reasons, I am really sick of TX, I have lived here my whole life, but I do not plan to move tomorrow---maybe in a few months--a year, who knows, I just know that I am outta here! I have even considered other countries---few, but I have. Maybe I should have made myself clear in the previous post--lol, I am not nuts!

Thanks
 Rayene
Joined: 11/26/2006
Msg: 4
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Posted: 3/24/2007 5:34:53 PM
Umm... off subject but how did you get all those cute little fishies swimming at the bottom of your post?
 Temptstress
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 5
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Posted: 3/25/2007 1:58:04 AM
I just clicked on the cute little fishies a whole bunch of times. . .They are at the bottom of the screen--NP
 sassyfox
Joined: 4/29/2006
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Posted: 3/25/2007 6:47:03 AM
Gotta do what ya gotta do. Just make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons. I used to put other people's needs before my own, but not anymore. I don't want my life to revolve around anyone else's. My Mr. Right will just be a compliment to mine.
 Temptstress
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 7
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Posted: 3/25/2007 12:35:30 PM
I still wish to move, nothing revolving around anyone. . .Just looking for the right place!
 onesimpleneed
Joined: 3/7/2007
Msg: 8
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Posted: 3/25/2007 7:03:14 PM
Teptstress,

Do plenty of research before you move. There are plenty of databases for researching things like crime rates, average property values, quality of life, etc. This way you know you will be happy when you move and that you didn't actually make a mistake.

The job related thing is a biggie. Depending on what you do, realize you may have to live on one of the coasts (I really belong in like CA, OR, WA) with what I do, but I chose to go where I felt I would be alot happier than Michigan (god what a wasteland) but if I lose my job? Nope I chose right, I'm happy! My decision is that I will work two or three jobs if I have to instead of moving!
 Coastergal
Joined: 7/24/2005
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Posted: 3/25/2007 7:15:43 PM
If you don't know where you want to live then don't concentrate on finding a man right now!

I HATED living in Houston... I knew I wanted to leave there. I met a wonderful guy. We dated, talked about marraige... then I got a call.... on a job I had interviewed for a year prior to meeting this man. It was to move to the San Diego area... My family was all spread out... CT and OK.. now all in San Diego area. So I felt I needed to take the job and I thought he'd come with me!

I ended up hurting someone very deeply. So make sure you're where you want to be....
and happy with yourself!
 GoneFission
Joined: 10/2/2006
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Posted: 3/25/2007 7:41:10 PM
Hi Temptress,

Firstly if you want to correct the spelling on your username you can do it by clicking the links MAIL/PROFILE then EDIT PROFILE then edit more details... HERE. After you click the link HERE it will show you your user name. Correct any errors then go to the bottom and click the UPDATE PROFILE button.

As far as the liar factor all I can suggest is to treat people positively unless and until they show themselves to be of poor character---then write them off quickly and move on to someone else who may be decent. There may be many dishonest people here but there are also many who are basically honest and looking for happiness in their own way. If we focus on the negative people I'm sure there are enough of them to block out all the good guys/gals.

To put it another way we can either lament that the rosebush has thorns or delight in the fact that the thornbush has roses.

Good luck fishing
 BigDog60
Joined: 10/12/2006
Msg: 11
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Posted: 3/26/2007 11:04:00 AM
Coaster makes and excellent point as does Sassy...

Make sure you move for you and the right reasons, not someone!

One last thing, there are liars everywhere, so be careful!

And remember the grass is always greener... But, not really!

I think if you really wanna be happy, find yourself first then figure out where you want to live!

Good Luck
 Temptstress
Joined: 12/27/2006
Msg: 12
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Posted: 4/13/2007 11:05:28 PM
Well, I have not looked at this in a while...so I guess I am really responding to everyone...I have about 5 places I would like to live, if I move it will be a place that I like...with or with out someone "special". I figured if I happened to meet someone that is already there, then so be it...
I happen to be in a position that my career will not be effected by my choice of residence.
I do want to tell the guy who instructed the name change...Thanks! I would have never tried to figure it out...
I am getting really good at writing off the losers by the way...
 sweetnsmarttoo
Joined: 3/25/2007
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Posted: 4/14/2007 2:46:38 PM
As far as the liar factor all I can suggest is to treat people positively unless and until they show themselves to be of poor character---then write them off quickly and move on to someone else who may be decent. There may be many dishonest people here but there are also many who are basically honest and looking for happiness in their own way. If we focus on the negative people I'm sure there are enough of them to block out all the good guys/gals.


I agree with the above!

As for fish...I don't go overboard when talking to someone even if it's weeks, I believe if I am meant to meet "the fish" I will. I spent too much time looking for Mr. Right to find out that there really isn't a Mr. Right, and there is no Mrs. Right. I think it all has to do with taking the time to learn about the person; his good sides and his bads, as we all have our faults. We have to except them for who they are not what we want them to be, and visa versa.

You will find who you are looking for when the time is right, good luck to you
 loves8
Joined: 3/9/2009
Msg: 14
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Posted: 12/7/2010 10:06:06 PM
theres alot of fakes out here i almost married 1 they know how 2 talk good & tell us everything we want 2 hear but thank god he reveled the real him the day before the wedding but he wasnt from this site thank god 4 his protection u should 2 could of been worst
 jimsel
Joined: 6/10/2010
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hello
Posted: 5/6/2011 7:40:26 AM
well do like this site. i hope the right girl comes along soon ime pretty lonely.
 OutMind
Joined: 2/13/2007
Msg: 16
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Posted: 5/6/2011 8:33:56 AM

He is a complete lie, everything he says, he has no desire to love, because he does not love himself. So I am pissed off, because I was serious about getting to know the person in the profile---I could have really moved to find all of this out, I am very glad that I didn't.


And good for you.


Take everything in a profile with a grain of salt. You never know if it's the truth, or what they would desire. For instance, a lot of women put "no players, or players not apply" and those women keep going out with the players. Or the "I want a man that makes me laught". I went out with a girl that had that in her profile. She was a banker and was soooooo dry, to make her laugh was like pulling teeth.
 Coma White
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 17
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Posted: 5/6/2011 5:23:22 PM
Outmind: I can relate to your story. There sure are plenty of "LOL's" in the sea. I think I'm one of the few people that has an honest profile. What you see is what you get. I'm a pretty easy-going person and it's exhausting trying to keep up with all the drama you come across in the world of online dating.
 valenciacityx
Joined: 3/10/2009
Msg: 18
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Posted: 5/9/2011 1:07:41 PM
do you believe commercials too ?
even the extended infomercials?
hold on, cuz you know we cant do this all day.
The profile is at best a self mirror propoganda billboard.
If you wanted a real assessment, one of your long time friends of the opposite sex should write it for you - then you might get some hard honesty.

Until then, you can print anything on paper, doesnt mean its the truth ,
doubly so for the internet.
 notaphoney
Joined: 9/17/2011
Msg: 19
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Posted: 11/27/2011 8:52:26 PM
You should put that scam artist on that site dontdatehimgirlfriend. Save a ton of usfrom wasting our time and yes the site does exist. Sometimes u gotta kiss a lot of frogs before u meet your prince, so hang in there and Good Luck to you!
 carelesswhisper00
Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 20
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Posted: 11/28/2011 9:40:06 PM
OP, don't come to St. Louis, MO as there aren't any men here that I have met that were worth spending a cup of coffee with........so far. I would move to TX in a heartbeat, use to live there in the 80's. Loved it and visit when I can. Texas people are so kind, life seems to be in the fast lane there....at least I think so, plenty of places there to meet people, way more than here I must say.
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