| Same person, different site, different results...Why?
Posted: 3/27/2007 9:33:59 AM | OK, I haven't decided yet whether to give up on PoF. I'm not coming on here to say it "sucks," as other disgruntled users have done, but to say maybe it's not working for me, but should I give up yet or keep trying? Could it be that different sites attract different types of members? Not that PoF is bad, really, but just not a good match for my personality.
On two different free sites, I have a similar profile (worded as much the same as possible, allowing for different format). I have the same pictures up. I am equally active on both sites. And now I'm beginning to think that PoF is geared more toward the party animals out for a good time, while the other site is for people who actually are looking for love and have a serious committed relationship as their goal.
Here's why, among other reasons: the other site features online journaling, where I can say whatever I wish and--wonder of wonders--actually be responded to! Even if I'm feeling gloomy, I am emotionally supported. There I am making friends, while here I am virtually ignored. No one e-mails me, no one answers my e-mails, and my forum posts go mostly unacknowledged. And I am not allowed to vent these frustrations, or it is a self-pity thread and will be deleted.
I'm half expecting any response to pretty much consist of, "Well, then leave," before the thread is called self-pity and deleted. But I'm giving it one last shot. You see, some time ago I met a young man who had survived jumping off a bridge. He says there were people around, and he would not have jumped if even one of them had noticed him and asked him not to. I'm not nearly suffering the same degree of pain and isolation, of course, but I'm in a similar frame of mind. I'll give it a couple of weeks. If even one person responds to this post or comes to my inbox asking me to stay, I'll stay. If I'm instead met with "Don't let the front door hit ya where the Good Lord split ya," or I simply get indifferent silence, or this thread ends up deleted for self-pity because no one wants to hear how I really feel, I'm gone. I am not bitter against PoF yet, but I'm watching to see what happens. | |
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