| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:11:27 AM | | I have a difficult time believing that it is purely animalistic. In the 36 years I have been around I have noticed similarities between guys after the fact that is a bit unnerving to me. women ok at least me have a desire to claim whom they sleep with cozy up and keepem close men on the other hand can be the most silver tongued romantics and it suddenly leaves their systems as soom as they have reached their objective. My question are all guys like this?? dont lie!!! and seriously if so, do you wonder why women play hard to get? It's like in the back of our minds how can we help but think as soon as he gets what he's after he'll be gone anyway. does marriage and monogomy exist any more or are we going backwardsto primal insticts? | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:15:28 AM | ^^^^^^ Isn;t she cute~~
Well, basically; I think they just want to go to sleep. They want to be able to survive for another day.
Maybe, in order to do it again. ? | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:17:46 AM |
do you wonder why women play hard to get?
A female player, thats enough to turn most men off because we are not all players and as hard as this might be to believe some men really dislike female players just as some women really dislike male players. Stop playing. You seem to think thats mens objectives are all the same, ie tar us all with the one brush, perhaps if you changed the type of man you target you might find what you are looking for, another way of putting it is - change yourself and then you might find someone that falls in love with you. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:40:40 AM | | I have not been with anyone in a long while Player my butt I have walked away from proposals of men with way too much money because with me it is Love the real thing or nothing the point that I was trying to make is a guy can seem like he is madly in love with you and instantly change whether you date him for a week or a year as soon as sex enters the picture unfortunate because some women would truly love to be in a commited relationship where they can give themselves completely to one man without the fear of them moving to the next conquest | |
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shrex
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Joined: 3/16/2007
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 1:48:31 AM | | From a guys perspective,It is not that the guy changes because hes got what he wants, its maybe because the lady changes her attitude towards him once hes done the evil deed.I have been in that position.women seem to feel happiest when emotionally secure and if in order to feel that way they have to bolt everything down it can be scary for the guy.Some women maybe also have a fear of feeling used and need to perhaps force commitment from the guy in order to feel secure,for me this frightens the hell out of me .I feel also that a lot of men are not honest about their feelings either.some modern women have modern attitudes towards sex and relationships and dont want commitment or a relationship.There are a lot of guys who probably feel rejection when in the morning the girl just wants her out of her life forever.I feel in these modern times both sexes feel much the same things its just an issue of guys not expressing their feelings ,and also an issue of compatability,horses for courses and all that .But I think your more likely to upset a girl by not kissing her than you would from kissing one that did'nt want to be kissed | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:16:14 AM | I don't really get what you're talking about... I mean, I'm a man... I have a penis... allegedly...
and I don't go around acting one way one minute and then change because of sexual intercourse (see penetration.... in other worlds... penis being inserted into a vagina... et cetera and so on...) . Chances are... if I have sex with someone, it's because I'm into them.. and not someone else. I believe in the formation of a special bond... and cultivating said bond into something strong and central to my life.
I'm no fool, as I understand not all men and women think the way I do.
If they did, however, life would be a better place... Full of rainbows and lollipops... and unicorns that frolic in your front yard... and you have to shoo them away because you can't get your hover craft off the ground because of their latent magical essence making the technology in your vehicle stop responding. So you use your animal empathy powers to communicate your intentions to them and they just, 'get it'.
Then on your way to work (which is coming up with ways to bring back star trek and discredit the teachings of dianetics) your wife calls you up on your cranial implant and informs you she will be teleporting into your hover car... She does and then because your car can drive itself and happens to be a transformer (who consequently beats you in poker every week because his poker face is made of highly refined metal and ceramic alloys, while yours is comprised of unshaven mantasticness and that pimple/zit that won't seem to go away no matter what you try), you are able to have glorious hover car sex that leads you both down the path of explosive mutual orgasm.
This leads to a great day at work where you debate the merits of having a economy not based on money, but on how kick ass you look in a black leather jacket. Phil doesn't agree with that kind of an economy, but that's only because Phil looks like a douche bag in a black leather jacket. Which when you think about it, is kind of sad because a black leather jacket is sort of like a simple black suit and tie... in that it's really hard to screw up... But Phil is that guy who only wants to carpool on days he's not driving and thinks Zubaz were a really good idea... consequently, Phil is rarely, if ever, invited to anything and everyone steals his food from the office fridge.
You end your day by figuring out the 'Theory of Everything' and getting a victory BJ from your wife... that leads to 4 hours of the most totally awesome sexual experience you have ever had in your life (which was accomplished in less than 1 hour, because of advances in the understanding of time, space, and relativistic sex practices)... which, considering this is how the world should be in my mind, happens at least 3 to 5 times a week... not counting other sexual awesomeness that may occur in between... which it is pretty much guaranteed... because, like I said, this is how it should be.
Later that night you win the lottery and get the Nobel Peace Prize for being kick ass.
...And, you get some sweet, sweet shower sex because your wife is so hot for your hairy back.
The next day you covertly start spreading the rumor that Phil has genital warts and all is right with the world.
the giggleparts - I wish I may, I wish I might, have this wish, I wish tonight. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 2:56:51 AM | | Without sounding like an intellectual snob , I took advanced sex education courses in college. The lady that said men want to go to sleep is right on.There is a reason for that . It is an evolotionary reproductive reason . You see men generally are on top so once they cum , fatigue sets in. They slip deeper inside the woman when this happens to further insure the semen is locked in and can penetrate with the eggs to eventually become a fetus. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:04:45 AM | without sounding like a ***ch
I think my original intent is not to focus on the five minutes following sex (im am hardly that ignorant)but rather the next day or week I love you, how was your day I miss you and then nothing is it a conquest thing the end justifies the means or should I be part of some study of certain individual magnetic fields in relation to quantum physics | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:25:12 AM | You know, if you act like sex as the most important thing you've got to offer then naturally, that's going to be the prize.
Sex is an inefficient way of getting a husband. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:25:22 AM | | I would imagine that probably is the sitituation (wrong guys) I am so reluctant to let myself care about anyone because it seems as soon as I do they run away if I remain aloof don't call don't act like I care they are there 110% as soon as I show interest back they are like scared puppies I have a strong personality refuse to dumb up and be someone I am not I would assume this is why I attract men that are players. loud and nothing to lose IMO | |
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| frusteration or education
Posted: 3/28/2007 3:38:41 AM | | seriously I wonder do people naturally assume a person is so shallow? up until recently I haven't dang kissed anyone in two years I do not understand what the heck people are reading I thought I wrote something to the effect of A man will show every sign that they are in love with you and then nothing.... ok the ones I have been around.(all4 in the past 20 years this includes dates for those of you who have come under the impression that I am a harlot) maybe just the wrong ones who knows but geez where do you find good ones? please people don't assume to know who I am by one question I asked trying simply to understand something I do not. | |
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| frusteration or education
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:12:30 AM | I think it's like that enzyme found in turkey dinners that makes us guys sleepy!!
Seriously now! Some men like to roll over. Others like to get up and have a smoke. Others say, " Give me two minutes and I'll be ready to go again!!" Still other's throw the money on the table and leave without a thankyou!!
Then there are those who like to savour the moment, and it can carry on into the next day, where they can't wait for the next time they share and show their affection and love with her once again, only to fall blissfully asleep next to her.
Hope that helps!!! | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:19:54 AM | Wanted... if that answer qualifies you as a sex therapist.. that means all men are advanced in sex education.. it just made me feel sick..the way you explained it.. and you didnt sound like an intellectual snob.. if you take the s off that's what you sounded like... you just by passed the girls question.. she is asking about love..feelings which most of you men not all! are totally void of..  | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:32:52 AM | Nothing changes in their brains. It was the objective from the get. Something is wrong with men over the age of thirty. They no longer seem to have that goal of marriage and family. In our twenties we had our pick, we pretty much knew who was in it for the sex and who was a keeper. After thirty, when men, and women, have years of being hurt, and used, they become the same.. It's that old " strike before they strike" thing. I am no longer involved in this game. After my husband died it took three years just to think about not being alone. After one week of talking to men on this site I withdrew. I'm no longer interested in anything but being a friend. However if I EVER met someone who made my panties fly off, I would still hold my heart back and just be in it for the sex..
I find that most men on this site are so afraid you might cost them a dollar, so afraid you might take something from them, that they don't want to committ to a relationship. Well, fine.. damaged goods everyone one of them. So change your thought process and deal with what's out there. I don't need a man to take care of me, I don't mind solitude, so if I want some sex one day I can go get that too. I still feel dating web sites are the wrong place to meet. The rate of success is around 1% | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:43:50 AM |
Nothing changes in their brains. It was the objective from the get. Something is wrong with men over the age of thirty.
Well, fine.. damaged goods everyone one of them.
Double OUCH!!!!!! | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:45:16 AM |
Nothing changes in their brains. It was the objective from the get. Something is wrong with men over the age of thirty. They no longer seem to have that goal of marriage and family. In our twenties we had our pick, we pretty much knew who was in it for the sex and who was a keeper. After thirty, when men, and women, have years of being hurt, and used, they become the same.. It's that old " strike before they strike" thing. I am no longer involved in this game. After my husband died it took three years just to think about not being alone. After one week of talking to men on this site I withdrew. I'm no longer interested in anything but being a friend. However if I EVER met someone who made my panties fly off, I would still hold my heart back and just be in it for the sex..
I find that most men on this site are so afraid you might cost them a dollar, so afraid you might take something from them, that they don't want to committ to a relationship. Well, fine.. damaged goods everyone one of them. So change your thought process and deal with what's out there. I don't need a man to take care of me, I don't mind solitude, so if I want some sex one day I can go get that too. I still feel dating web sites are the wrong place to meet. The rate of success is around 1%
Is there another man alive who would NOT be highly offended by such a bitter, jaded, totally one-sided outlook on us as a group? Whenever younger people cite older people are bitter and angry I wonder if it's not because of encounters with people who spew this sort of crap, nonsense and BS? Sorry lady----your sad experiences do NOT make all men---OR women---the same. You should be ashamed to think like this let alone post it for all the world to see---embarrassed in the minimum! Geeesh!
Like has been suggested men do have a physical reaction that sets in after our orgasm that usually triggers the need to sleep. It is documented that a chemical is released which brings this about----it's NOT because we've lost interest or were out for one thing only (STILL laughing at that BS). Hell it happens even when we've "self gratified" ourselves----does that too make us selfish?!?!? LOL
It helps to maybe understand the physiology of the opposite sex if we want to avoid thinking the worst of them. Why do women want to cuddle after sex? Shouldn't that be lumped into this discussion, too??? | |
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mogrl
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 4:57:13 AM | | Maybe you are just expecting too much too soon.Just because sex is involved doesn`t mean anything.Unless its bad sex than it should stop right there. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 5:32:15 AM |
What Changes in the male mind after sex ...... I don't think it's something that happen's AFTER sex (and this applies to both male and female), it's considered BEFORE sex. If a guy/woman feels they may want to pursue a relationship, they usually decide this before the event. If on the other hand, sex is all they desire, this is also decided before hand, though they may fail to mention it to their other interest.
Occassionally sex will change a person's opinion about the person they are having it with, but these occassions are few and far between. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 5:38:30 AM | | Wow...OP....try using periods and punctuation! That's hard to read and follow when it all runs together like that. I'm still not sure what the real point is here. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 5:42:12 AM | Heidibear ~ I think you answered your own question when you said (above): "I am so reluctant to let myself care about anyone because it seems as soon as I do they run away if I remain aloof don't call don't act like I care".
Honey, you get back what you put out there. If you want someone to care about you, you have to leave yourself open to the possibility. Guarding your heart is one thing; closing yourself off to a world of great guys is another. | |
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| What Changes in the male mind after sex
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:15:58 AM | Within the first few seconds of meeting you, before you even open your mouth, a guy will have already decided if you're good looking enough to sleep with or not. (that is not to say look s are the ONLY requirement, but he has already decided if you pass that hurdle or not)
Once he's slept with you, that objective is gone like a veil has been removed from across his mind - goal achieved. Now if he also wanted a relationship, he will start to think more deeply about how compatible the two of you are and all will probably go well. If he didn't want a relationship, his mind now sees and registers every flaw and doubt in his mind about you, and he'll panic and try to distance himself from getting into something he's afraid he doesn't want.
This is a generalisation obviously, but it's true for 90% of guys. | |
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