| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:47:53 PM | | Hey this is a weird and a bit embarissing for me. I recently started to really get into giving head. My questions are: #1 Why does a guy always want a woman on her knees or prone in some way? #2 Whats with swallowing? Don't get me wrong I'm not opposed to either really, but I don't know what the big deal is is it a submission issue? Just curious. Thanks fo your insite | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:53:26 PM | It's a porn fantasy.
When she looks into the camera, she's looking you in the eyes. Accepting that she has a penis in her mouth, and preferrably enjoying the fact that she able to please. (Sexual attitude and willingness is my #1 turn on.)
However, during past BJs, I'm not really caring about her eyes one bit....I'm busy.
Swallowing....it's more complete. It finishes the job uninterrupted. It's a form of acceptance as well. Spitting is rejection. And not even going that far, is a lack of acceptance.
When it's wet, and exposed to air, it gets cold, ok?
The reality however is, I don't really give a damn WHERE it goes, as long as it goes somewhere.
Nothing to do with submission here. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/28/2007 6:58:35 PM | | Well i'm just guessing here but for me I think that the whole kneeling thing is that it prolly is the most comftorbal while giving head, I mean i'm sure that men would be fine if they lay down on the bed or floor or whatever and have the woman over them and giving head, I know i'd enjoy it that way. But it prolly is comftorbal with the guy on the edge of the bed or chair or something and the woman on her knees, if her knees get sore just get a pillow for her to kneel on lol. Personally if a woman wanted to give me head i'd let her do it whatever way she wanted to. As for swallowing it is partly submission for some guys I guess but for myself I would have to say that if she wanted to go ahead by all means, its less messy and less clean up afterwards. But if she didn't want to swallow then she dosen't have to and i'd just make sure a towel would be next to me to clean up lol. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/29/2007 2:32:24 AM | | Personally I like being on my back and her over me like Blargal said. Regarding swallowing... After I cum I like it if she slows down to a stop rather then just stopping, and by swallowing she can do that, the interuption of spitting just makes it not as good. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/29/2007 3:40:35 AM | Yeah this thinking your #1 question is all about submission and other sorts of control doesn't hold true for most guys I'm sure. Truthfully if a woman wants to do that to me I'm highly flattered and would NEVER think of it as her "submitting" to me. Now, if she LIKES to feel dominated and being "forced" into kneeling that's fun----for her IF that's her preference. Whatever her preference is always top priority for me.
If it's a matter of comfort for both then whatever position works is best. When giving or receiving if an orgasm is going to happen I prefer to be fully supported in case it's a good one---don't want to be distracted with have to remain standing up or so on! LOL
The swallowing part is great IF she doesn't mind and can "milk" it to the finish. Just like an orgasm when inside the motion and action make that so much more pleasurable for the man. The thing about spitting is a real distraction since it does seem to be a form of rejection I guess. Mostly it's because it doesn't allow us to enjoy our orgasm completely.
For myself there's nothing better than feeling an orgasm I've caused orally and I'd NOT want to miss one second or one drop of a womans juices---it's just tooooooooo good to go to waste by spitting!!!! | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/29/2007 3:52:24 PM | | Your question is not insignificant, and you shouldn't feel embarrassed for asking it. You've discovered that you enjoy giving oral to a guy, and you're asking several valid, legitimate questions. A guy wants a woman to perform oral on him from the position in which he receives the best sensation and most pleasure. Speaking for myself, the technique of being orally pleasured from the kneeling position isn't one of my feeling dominant, nor would I expect or want her to feel submissive in that position. Depending on the individuals involved however; it could become a matter of domination and submission. Receiving oral from a standing position is not only erotic from a visual sense, but it seems to increase and heighten the sensation and pleasure. A woman with a skilled mouth and tongue performing oral from a kneeling position will drive many a man absolutely crazy, I would think. Swallowing is the ultimate culmination to a very sensual and pleasurable act. Swallowing prolongs and intensifies orgasm and sensation. Just a fantastic feeling! Perhaps, you can equate it to being eaten by a man until you feel that intense, tickling sensation, and the man continuing to do so despite your trying to wiggle away, or being eaten right up to and during the time you climax, and having your man continue to lick you endlessly! Have fun! Both giving and receiving! | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/29/2007 4:01:42 PM | >>is is it a submission issue
Yes, it is. Sex is all kind of tied up with dominance for most guys. It doesn't mean we can't be very tender and affectionate, or that we are into S&M or anything (some are, but I don't think most. Definitely not me).
Sorry for giving away a secret, fellows...I see every other guy on this thread is denying it. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/29/2007 8:34:37 PM | I've asked several men this. The answer..a unanimous yes, its a submission issue. Apparently, having a woman knelt at your feet with your****pumping into her throat can produce a great rush of power, of dominance.  Whether its perceived that way by all, couldn't tell you. That's just the answer I've been given.
As for the second question..spit, swallow, gargle..whatever blows your skirt up..whatever you're comfortable with. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:17:44 PM | | I'm sure most guys (at least sub-consciously) see swallowing as a form of submission. However, dominant and aggressive women will use swallowing as a show of power or method of control. All depends on your point of view, really. As far as position goes, not all men want to see their women on their knees (which could be looked at the same as swallowing) or prone. I, like many men, prefer the woman to be above me while she's going down. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/30/2007 12:34:51 AM | | Men are visual, powerful creatures....they do like the whole submission thing and they like seeing it. Nothing is more exhilirating in their eyes, than seeing the woman's breasts in front of them, the curves of her waist and her butt cheeks, all the way up like that, as she kneels to give him the best pleasure he can receive in that moment. The swallowing thing is a fetish of both people involved.....for the man, it's like he " owns " her or has " marked " her in some way. For the woman, it's all about making him " weak " in the knees and busting all over the place, uncontrollably. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:32:13 AM | Is it a Submissive thing? It could be, if you consider the man to be the submissive. Think about it, who is actually in control in that scenario? The man who is receiving oral, or the woman giving oral? Is this not the time that you, as the woman, have absolute control over him? He'll do anything to continue, say anything as long as you don't stop. You even have control over when he orgasms.
Control is an illusion. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/31/2007 5:40:42 PM | stangsandthangs has a point about who is really in control.
After all, if you have his c0ck in your mouth and all you have to do is bite down.... Yeah, you're the one in total control!
sv | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/31/2007 5:45:59 PM | Position:
has to be able to see the TV
gets a good angle down your throat
can watch your boobies bounce
depends on hidden camera set-up
Swallowing:
less mess means less laundry
feels better to cum inside
postpones talking about relationship as long as possible
seems more loving somehow | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/31/2007 7:42:12 PM | Personally I don't prefer the kneeling posture some women have adopted when giving oral. Although it can be just as pleasant, it seems a little detached to me. The classic kneeling-girl-with-eye-contact posture is definately a porn cliche, and hence a deeply imbedded fantasty for many men I imagine.
I prefer a position which allows her to simultaneously pleasure me, and also allows for significant body contact and maybe reciprocal pleasuring, if she can handle the distraction and focus on the job in hand (er... in mouth?) | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:17:25 PM | On the knees or any other position that allows us a good view of what you're doing. Because it stimulates us and we love to watch your beautiful lips against our...well you get the picture.
As for swallowing, i personally think it's because it partially ruins the rush when you take it out and finish us off manually. Imagine the sensation of our warm tongues pleasuring your clitoris to the point of orgasm, the warm rush, the shaking and tingling sensation drawing from you're head and quickly crawling down your spine and stomach, reaching closer and closer till it touches your hips and inner thighs. And just as it's about to hit, we stop and begin to pet your clit with our palm. That's only part of it lol. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 3/31/2007 11:07:40 PM | Personally, I don't care what position she's in. If a girl wants to then great, but I don't even ask since it doesn't tend to feel as good as the front-door thing. As far as swallowing, it gives him the feeling that you really want to do that. If you spit it out then it can give the impression that you are disgusted by the act and can sort of cancel out the good feeling it gives.
You can basically avoid negative effects by talking with him about it first. Come to a aggreement on how it would be good for both of you then try it. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 3:16:25 AM | i believe its the whole trust and acceptance factor when it comes to swallowing.
in terms of the kneeing, guys generally like to feel empowered once in a while.
in terms of submission, just be careful. will he respect you more or less? | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 3:35:19 AM | You are correct. Position has to do with submission.
Think of it this way, when you are on your knees, that is generally a submissive position, as in pleading. When you are on your knees performing felatio, it gives us the sense that you are submitting to us, that you are not only giving us head, but will let us have sex as well.
The whole swallowing thing is about acceptance and rejection just like a previous poster stated. One thing an ex girlfriend taught me. She had me add a teaspoon of cinnamon to my oatmeal every morning as she stated that it improved the taste of my, uhm, juice. I have continued to use the cinnamon and have been able to get each consecutive girlfriend (that was into felatio) to swallow without complaint.
By the same token, girls that eat a lot of fruits and veggies taste and smell better down there than those that eat too much meat, pasta and fast food.
Never be forced into anything, and if you don't like it, don't do it! | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 7:44:35 AM | I'll be the first to admit that I enjoy the game of control and submission during sex. But just the act of her giving me oral sex doesn't mean it is a control/submission situation. It can be but, more often that not I don't view it as submission on her part.
Personally I enjoy a woman on her knees between my legs as our body contact is then limited and very focused. It just makes it that much more erotic. (Try having your guy go down on you and touch you with his tongue and ONLY his tongue some time).
As for swallowing, I enjoy it but will defer to her preference always. Another poster nailed it for me, it was the fact that when a woman swallows a) an orgasm without pulling out is soooo much better and b) she can come to a slow end rather than an abrupt one, like a grand finale 
Clone | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 7:51:30 AM | If men think you're being submissive while you're giving head .. they need to think again. Who has all the power?? They are totally at your mercy .. lol ... you have their package in your mouth ... it's a huge power trip for me.
As far as swallowing .. I have no idea why anyone would even thing about spitting it out. That's just gross .. kinda ruins the mood if you ask me. "Wait, excuse me while I spit..." Just swallow it .. it ain't gonna kill you..... | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:03:43 AM | This is definitely funny ......
Position:
has to be able to see the TV
gets a good angle down your throat
can watch your boobies bounce
depends on hidden camera set-up
Swallowing:
less mess means less laundry
feels better to cum inside
postpones talking about relationship as long as possible
seems more loving somehow: | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:25:52 AM | Swallowing is not a porn fantasy. It's simply more enjoyable. Think about it. If a guy is giving you head and just before you cum he suddenly stops and backs away, is that as enjoyable as if he continues through the climax? No.
If a BJ is done correctly, the woman won't even be conscious of swallowing. The d1ck will be so far down her throat when he cums that it just goes right on down.
I find more and more each day that most people know little about sex. It's a shame. | |
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| What's with position and swallowing?
Posted: 4/1/2007 8:52:12 AM | | I think it's because any man wants to see you while he is being made to feel so good, don't look at it as a bad thing, this I think is something that would be in your favor. Just think how much better the favor being returned to you is when you can put your hands in his hair, and look into his eye's while he pleases you. | |
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