| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/29/2007 9:24:29 PM | Hi all,
If you were browsing a profile and you saw that they had 0 Roses, would you contact them or would you not. I looked at a profile tonite and she had 0 Roses. My first thought is she found someone she really likes and is not readily available. Am I wrong in this thinking?
Satarel
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:09:52 PM | I wouldn't think anything of it. I have friends on here (both girls and guys) who send me roses, and I send them roses, and it doesn't mean anything lol. I don't think I've ever actually sent a rose on here to someone I was interested in, come to think of it.. lol.
I would have no problem contacting someone with 0 roses, in fact when I contact someone I don't even look at that part lol. We get 2 roses every 30 days, maybe once you contact them, they'll be sending all those roses to you!! Ya never know unless you try :)
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/29/2007 10:40:25 PM | | I have to agree with SUGAR....if you are looking into all of those silly aspects of a profile and worrying already...maybe they aren't right for you, or you for them. Any doubt is not a good lead to a lasting relationship....And being a rose robber is not yet legally wrong on here! Best of luck to all .... | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/29/2007 11:05:32 PM | | Exactly you dont know till you ask.. dont be afraid ... if you dont ask you may have lost out on someone really nice and maybe your soul mate .. one doesnt know... she could have sent them to friends .. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:24:57 AM | I agree with Sally..... any doubt is not a good lead to a lasting relationship..... A person never knows what may come if there is no trying....  | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:33:20 AM | Hey there is a button below your post that sayz "Delete Post"
Kinda odd
OT: Roses are like flirting, someone sends roses to make a message more significant, if they have none left you know they are looking and you can get a word if your brave enough | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 8:58:28 AM | | I would say if someone has no roses left and the profile says not looking ...then if you were to contact for the intent of seeking a relationship with this said taken person ya kinda useless to contact for that purpose. I only contact someone off POF forums if they have said something witty, remarkable or have ticked me off.....lol....The roses idea is cute, mine have always gone to the same person of course with what is written accompaning the said rose. But to each their own I guess... | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 11:36:02 AM | I feel as you do, msg:1, 0 roses gives me the impression there maybe some interest there so I back away, rather than taking the risk others mention.
The new (delete) option, no double posts anymore **yeahhhh** BUT - can I delete someone else's messages? I didnt want to try that but if someone wants to try to delete this post let me know what happens. I think you should only be allowed to delete your own words. *my opinion only of course* | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 1:03:37 PM | Good question. For myself, I haven't sent any roses. And I have wondered when looking at profiles, if the fact they had no roses left, meant they were already involved or if they were just the 'suave and debonaire' type.
Now, seeing that some view them simply as tokens of friendship rather than a romantic gesture, I may revisit how I view this profile stat. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 1:19:57 PM | If I saw a profile with no roses, I'd likely assume the person either has someone they're genuinely interested in;
or that they quickly send roses to just anyone.
I don't know if I'd bother contacting the person with hopes of dating them. Maybe if they're just looking for friends or talk/email, there's no reason to not contact them, if 'just friends' is something you'd be interested in.
I just sent my first rose a few days ago. (something I didn't think I'd ever do) Shortly after the person emailed back to acknowledge it and thank me, I changed my profile to state that I wasn't currently hoping to meet anyone else. If I was interested in meeting anyone else at the moment, I wouldn't have sent the rose. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 3:06:17 PM | | I am quite sure that having 0 roses does not mean much. I can't see the giving of a rose online to someone on this site as meaning a 'a passionate love' but rather token to perhaps gain a bit more attention over others that may have contacted that person also. I would not really feel to concerned about it, but, thats my opinion. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 3:15:20 PM | i gave my two roses last month to two great women that i have met online and have met in person!!
LOL so much for the theory of " she has met the love of her life" | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/30/2007 5:06:50 PM | Not completely understanding the delete post stuff myself...just came across it last night....
But being supplied those 2 roses almost shouldn't be "advertised" statistically in some sense. My bro was dumped from a woman he met on here and one of my first thoughts was to send him one to try to cheer him up a wee bit. I'm not in the "single" market in here, but you don't know the reasons for why people have sent theirs out ...unless you do attempt to contact them.... | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/31/2007 8:04:29 AM | Morning Sally
haha I'm more worried if they send me real roses...
i don't see any problems with it .. this is a dating site if you worry over something like that..errr please don't mail me to neurotic and paranoid. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/31/2007 1:40:27 PM | well, the admin take on the roses is that they ARE to signify that the person sending them is *interested* in whoever they are sending them to.
i'd think twice about contacting someone with zero roses. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/31/2007 4:18:12 PM | I sent a rose to someone just to say hi and have a great day it wasn't that I was romantically interested in the person. So h_ll yea contact who ever you want even if their roses are all gone.   | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/31/2007 5:23:05 PM | I gotta agree with Rollergrrrl
admin take on the roses is that they ARE to signify that the person sending them is *interested* The roses do say "be mine"
I haven't noticed any alternate roses available to send that say "hi" or "you're a good person", or "thanks for being a friend" or anything else.
If someone wants to send them to friends of the same gender, because they're really good people, or wants to send one to someone to say 'hello', I guess there's nothing really wrong with it. But they shouldn't be suprised to learn that people may bypass their profile, assuming that they're already interested in someone. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 3/31/2007 6:27:13 PM |
If someone wants to send them to friends of the same gender, because they're really good people, or wants to send one to someone to say 'hello', I guess there's nothing really wrong with it.
So I guess some people look at the roses like screwdrivers. Sure... the primary use of a screwdriver is to drive screws, but it can also be used to open a can of paint. When you don't have a paint can opener around, then using the screwdriver will suffice. Likewise with the roses, when there's not a "handshake" for you to send to someone who you're just chat buddies with, you just gotta send them the rose instead... it's the only option at one's disposal.
Wouldn't it be funny if they were handing out condoms instead? "What did you do with your 2 condoms?" "Oh, I gave them to my friend."
Ultimately, yes... the roses are intended to show one is interested in something more than just a little bit of chat. There's nothing stopping a person from contacting someone who has given all their roses away, but to those who understand the concept of them, it sends a message that the person already has serious interests elsewhere. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 4/1/2007 12:20:20 AM | Me, personally have by passed profiles due to no roses, as most have likely done to mine. It wouldn't suprise me since I am on here to look for that significant other or my soulmate. Most people do go through life for that purpose and others just have the best luck and find that right one right away. I like the idea of the roses, it kinda gives something else to your message instead of "Hey, I like your profile etc. etc. etc." or "Hi, was interested in you, but I don't have anything to show you how much I am interested, until the admin comes up with roses.".
But the roses thing can be used for any ol' purpose in my opinion. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 4/2/2007 8:53:59 AM | i guess what's frustrating about this rose thing is that the Admin added this feature with a specific intent & only a percentage of users are "getting it". of course people are free to do whatever they want with them, but that doesn't change the fact that people who respect the intended purpose will make assumptions based on who has roses & who doesn't.
i highly doubt that a first contact email containing a tacky picture of a rose with a caption that reads "be mine" will net a "soul mate"...it's just not an effective way to say "i'm really interested" to someone that you don't yet know. in fact, i'd suggest that it has the exact opposite effect. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 4/2/2007 6:58:33 PM | the Admin added this feature with a specific intent & only a percentage of users are "getting it". I think that the reason that many people may mis-interprit, or mis-understand it's intended use, is that some other sites use simple minded first contact tools such as "winks" or "flirts". (Which in my opinion aren't really any more deep, or personal than mindless emails that say nothing more than "wanna chat")
Those first contact methods on those sites are limitless, and used abundantly, therefore they're meaningless.
However, the roses on this site are not abundant, and are meant to be used sparingly. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 4/5/2007 6:20:02 AM | | No, I wouldn't contact someone that has given roses. To me, it means they are more interested in at least one person so how would they even notice me? I don't get into bidding wars when I buy real estate, I walk away from the deal instead & that is my policy. I don't get into doing the same thing with guys either, so if they have given roses that means someone else has dibs on them & I would have to try to "outbid" the competition to get the guy's attention - that is just not me. | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:15:46 AM | People, people, think about the power that BigFish/admin has.
He could institute a rule - wastes roses - and you could be flagged as a rose criminal! Maybe it's already there! He doesn't have to tell us about all the rules he's created! | |
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| Would you contact someone with 0 roses
Posted: 4/16/2007 12:12:04 PM | | I have 0 roses....I sent the roses to friends who needed cheering up...nothing wrong with that...And I'm still available...0 Roses could mean many things...Never presume without asking... | |
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