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| Lost parents to drunk driver, have you lost a loved one and how do you move on?
Posted: 3/30/2007 5:33:44 AM | Hi there, I have a thread on relationships going right now, and a few people said I should open a discussion on here about coping with losses, and I know we started one before Christmas around the anniversary of my folks death, but I agree maybe it would be good to hear peoples stories and maybe it would be therapeutic for everyone to talk about it...A lot of people know on here that I lost my parents around Christmas 3 years ago to a drunk driver, and sometimes I am fine and other times it just is so hard to get over, just wondering if people out there who have lost parents, children, friends or whomever wanted to talk about their story and what they do to cope or deal with the situation even after years of it happening? Sometimes hearing what other people have gone through strengthens your own heart and helps you deal with things, so let me know your story and how you are coping? | |
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| Lost parents to drunk driver, have you lost a loved one and how do you move on?
Posted: 3/30/2007 6:09:53 AM | | I have wondered sometimes how we survive the loss of loved ones, but it IS possible. I lost my 16 year old daughter in a tragic accident in 1998. She was hit by a car 3 streets from my house, 2 days before Christmas 1n 1998. My neice was driving the car that hit her. They were just being teen agers and clowning around. The only thing that kept me going was my younger son, who was 6 years old at the time...if I folded...who would raise him ? There is absolutely nothing I can do to bring her back, and thats the hard part. Then Christmas, 2005 I lost my Mom to complications from Alzheimers..and that my friend is THE lonliest day of a childs life, no matter how old you are. Thats not all...I lost my boyfriend this past Christmas...well, Dec.6th, 2006 when he was hit by a truck on his scooter. I met him here at POF in 2005. Two weeks later my aunt passed away. Some days I wonder how I HAVE survived, but you WILL..and you DO. Death is a part of living and we will all have to do it sooner or later. We always think that "if only" they had done something different that day or taken a little longer leaving the house that day or.....But rest assured that they were exactly where they were supposed to be at the "time". We don't leave this earth not even a minute before we're supposed to...God bless you...I will stand on the promises of God and believe I will see them again one day. Phil. 4:13 | |
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| Lost parents to drunk driver, have you lost a loved one and how do you move on?
Posted: 3/30/2007 7:15:29 AM | | Almost two years ago I lost my mother to cancer. She was my best friend the one support that I had in life. After she passed away, my life went in a downward spiral. I was also raising my son who had alot of questions about her death that I had no answers to. I am not sure if people ever "cope or deal" with the loss, but I think that you just get use to it. Holidays and special occassions are the worst and the hardest. What my son and I do when we miss my mom is we will cuddle with something of hers or we will talk about silly times we had together. It seems to help my son alot. For myself, well I am just trying to move ahead which is not easy. All I can say is good luck, stay strong and keep the memories! | |
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| Lost parents to drunk driver, have you lost a loved one and how do you move on?
Posted: 3/30/2007 8:12:41 AM | I lost a very close friend suddenly on Easter Sunday in 2004. I remember and think about him every day, but the pain/sadness usually resurfaces about that time every year. I can relate to what you say when you say "Sometimes I am fine and other times it is just so hard to get over". I've learned to embrace those waves instead of fighting them - or trying to "get over" them. I just ride them. I figure they are there for a purpose. I think of grief as a sort of scar. It's always there and it's a part of you and you remember it. I don't allow it to engulf me, but I do recognize it and I do honor and celebrate the memories - both the death - but most importantly - the life.
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| Lost parents to drunk driver, have you lost a loved one and how do you move on?
Posted: 3/30/2007 8:47:46 AM | | Hello all, I've got to say , my heart goes out to every one of you. My son was killed in a car crash 3\17\o6 he was 22yrs. and my best friend. It had been just me & him since my wife split in 99. I fell apart, my world fell apart, even now as I type this, tears are running down my face onto the keyboard. As you can see, my world is still apart. I always believed I was still on this earth for him. Now I have no idea why Im still here. I dont want to be. I just moved here from Atlanta , thinking the change might help, but really, I dont think anything will. Bless you people, I know what your going through.... | |
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