| Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/12/2004 9:13:31 AM | Okay I have to ask this question because I am curious. I have been on a few of these dating sites and I get contacted ALOT by Married men lokking for 'something more'. I even had a guy question my ethics about being on a site for married people looking outside their marriage I politly told him I didn't know it was for married people than I question him, hey buddy does your wife know you are looking for 'something more'????
Another Married man and I got into this subject and he got offended...thought I was pulling a DR Phil on him to 'save him'. I apologized and told him I was just very curious as to why married people are on these sites.....
So I point that question to people out there... If you are married and looking why? I have always believed that if you are with someone (marriage, boyfriend, f*ck friends whatever) if you want to sleep with someone else or persue something with another person, then break it off with the person you are currently with.
Every single guy I have ever dated or was engaged to has cheated on me and I used to be offended, but in the discussions I have had with cheating men they say, they don't love these girls they are cheating with, and they don't love their partner any less, but that they just can cheat. it's there and they do it.....
BUT and this is a big but...if they EVER catch their significant other cheating or on one of these site then thats it, they are pissed right off and hurt.
What's good for the gander is good for the goose right??? Or am I wrong?
I would love to know what your views are on this.....
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| Re: Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/12/2004 9:29:49 AM | It is sad that we as a people have turned this way but it is the truth. The grass is always greener on the other side, the forbidden pleasures or what ever you may call them. This is what people want now days, they want to do what they are not suppose to cause its cool in there eyes. To most people now days its easier to start anew than to fix something that will take time, its sad but true. Trying to figure out other people will not help you, stick to your morals and carry on, cause when it comes down to it, would you rather be known as the one that didnt or did? Hope you find some one that has those same morals that will help you keep them and you them. It is not something found to offten intodays world.
Gado
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Posted: 8/12/2004 9:32:46 AM | yeah your dead right, i cant stand dishonest people either. but what puzzled me is who and why on earth would anyboby cheat on you. i mean have you seen you. one more thing when you said f##k buddies have you ever had a relationship of that nature
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Posted: 8/12/2004 9:40:08 AM | my ex and I were like that after we broke up mainly because I was comfortable with him, but then I made the decision that I didn't want to go on like that.
Why do guys cheat on me???? well the only one I have ever asked was my ex fiance and after saying how much he regretted it blah blah blah he said I was too old fashioned and seemed to good to be true and that he thought I was too good for him so he did it before I would do it to him...lol...I find that funny because I have never cheated on someone...and as soon as I started to think about being with someone else I sat them down and ended it. No matter how much it hurt to break up with them I would rather do it on that note than have them hate me because I cheated. (I only ever had to break up with one guy for that reason -and I found out later who else he was sleeping with beside me) | |
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Posted: 8/12/2004 9:57:33 AM | | you really do seem to good to be true stunning honest telligent. while we're discuss stuff can you tell me something, cuz i relly want to know, how did you descide to go with your b/fs, i mean what did they say to you or was it totally down to you and it was anything they said, because i'm always the funny guy but nothing, like that average joe programme. so is being the funny one getting me nowhere or do girls really like it or is look a major factor when the girl are looking for a man | |
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Posted: 8/12/2004 10:08:35 AM | I don't know...Poeple look for certain things in people. A comman factor in any guy I have dated is that they have really nice eyes, and I can joke around with them sarcastically and we don't take it seriously. And I can be myself. I don't do the be on my bast behavior for three months then be myself. I am always myself. My humour, how I look at life and my opinions....and if a guys likes that and he can be himself around me....great....there also has to be physical chemistry....I have to be attracted to him and if we take it furhter we have to connect...
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Posted: 8/12/2004 10:51:12 AM | big sigh i get it alot too..it really makes me angry..
there is soemthign seriuosly wrong with your marriage buddy..if you are on the prowl..
i talk to them also..and they get mad at me when i get all dr phil on them too. I just tell them i have zero respect for cheaters..BUH BYE!!
i have a wonderful boyfriend that i met from this site..and he was stanidn behing me last night as i cheacked my inbox.
2 messeages from intersted guys!! he mailed them back and told them ot take a flying leap!!lol.. | |
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| Re: Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/12/2004 11:00:46 AM | Question for you....if you have a boyfriend now, why still here? Of just looking for new friends...
It's nice to have a guy stand up for you... (lil old fashioned me) I love to feel as though a guy could protect me if needed to and he would stand up for me when needed (not many out there that will do that) | |
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Posted: 8/12/2004 11:04:47 AM | LOL the question everyone is looking for the answer to, the question of WHY. I really do belive they can not answer them selfs. Most are a simple answer of selfishness. Its a bad thing but is very common all over now days. It is rare to find some one that is not, even more rare is some one that will take there life down the road of unslefishness.
Do not worry, one day you will find some one to be old fashion and treat you like you want to be treated. Just keep looking, many people are out there that will.
Gado
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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| Re: Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/12/2004 11:10:07 AM | im a moderator..i came to this site 5 months ago. I have made some really great friends..plus the admin GAVE ME A JOB TO DO..TO LOOK AFTER THE SITE
i would be homesick if i left..the ppl i have gotten to know i would miss them.
I met the love and my soul mate on this site a month ago. We have made some pals together..and come i nto say hello.
in our profiles there are pictures of us together..and we say TAKEN.. we are 100 percent committed to eachother and get a kick out of coming i nhere and chatting it up with our buddies. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2004 11:15:26 AM | That's kewl...
Congratulations.....Now if only the rest of us can be so lucky
Good luck to you and your soul mate. wish you both the best.
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Joined: 3/18/2004
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| Re: Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/12/2004 11:21:37 AM | thanks so much!!
if anyone wonders if this site works it does. I was very very lucky to find him. It was a complete fluke. We were looking for ppl to go to the merritt mountian festival. WE ansered eachothers threads..and it took off from there.
its been the time of my life.
oh i have met some creeps off the net..but keep on trying. The magic will happen one day if you just are patient and dont settle for second best. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2004 11:11:08 PM | | Married and Looking??? Doesnt that spells disaster? Never believe in getting involve with a married man. Never has and never will be. Have we not ead enough about being the 'other woman'? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2004 9:15:50 AM | | Thats what I always thought too...it a relief to know that there are other people that are out there who think the same way...but to those married ones out there, I haven't heard any response from any of you....don't worry you won't get belittled its your opinion and I am curious to know how you stand on this topic.... | |
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Posted: 8/13/2004 9:35:34 AM | | i'm going to say if both people know, then they know the consequences. but going back princess, when you carried on seeing your ex as your ff, why, does this means girls get sexually frustrated to (horny) or was it because of some else | |
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Posted: 8/13/2004 9:55:46 AM | | and as no one seems to be answering my thread or what ever you call it, i would like to know how you feel on men and virginity | |
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Posted: 8/16/2004 3:59:26 AM | While waiting for my daughter to call, I would like to put my two cents in here. I've noticed that you are young and I could say that, you will learn all of your curiosity and question in time but just to answer couple of your questions... in my opinion of course. :)
I don't think it's fair to say that, men are the only ones that are looking outside of their marriage. There was an article that I read before indicating that, women are becoming more "players" in their marriage. Also, I've experienced this study and facts for myself since, 30 to 40% of the women I meet in clubs are married and they do admit their marriage where most men don't. Just this weekend on Friday night, I've met a beautiful married woman who appreciated my humor and even though she was recently married (last October) she was very affectionate toward me. Was she missing something from her 2nd marriage? I don't think so; rather; she wanted to feel desirable and really needed to laugh and have fun.
I think most of us know that, as time evolves, things change and so does everything else in your life including, how you think and how you feel. Most us know it's not right to look outside of marriage and some people that is excitement they are looking for. Almost getting caught like a spy and getting away with naughty behavior which brings their youth back to their life. Most men like to trad-in their old model for new one but personally, after time invested in someone already, it's hard to start all over, least for me it is.
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| Re: Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/16/2004 11:00:35 AM | | Here is my two cents also.I have been married for 38 years tomorrow.I am always looking for someone who can give me that spark back and make me appreciate my wife even more then i already do.She is the most caring best friend you could ask for, unfortunately she is not sexually driven like i am. So what do i do throw her out for a new model, who most of the time [new model] is only looking for what she can get,instead of what she can give to someone.The reason we married men look is because we can find [new models] them very easy.Always a women looking for short term affairs to make them happy.Tell me who has the most experience a single are a double[married] man.women like that because mm have more patient,attentive more to their needs,and will do just about anything they ask you to do.I know of a lot of married women who have prop. me in the past so its not just a man thing anymore.I know i can usually sense in a woman when we meet what to expect, and if she is looking too. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2004 3:25:15 PM | You are right shamatso on a few points... I am young, yes, hence why I am asking this "concept" is new to me.
I agree that today more and more wowen are the "player's" in the relationship.
Thank you to all the married people who replied. I really found it interesting to see your point of view. I am not saying I agree or disagree, because Everyone is able to make their own choices and if you are happy with the choices you make then why not do it right?
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Posted: 8/16/2004 8:25:25 PM | | A very good insight Rurede...always nice to know the other side of the coin..the more I understand what motivates certain behavior the less shock and dissapointed I am about life..but I also realise that that that only comes with age and experience... | |
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Posted: 8/16/2004 9:04:08 PM | Hi, my name is Ashley and I am NOT a CHEATER
I think men who want to be with other women other than their wife should not be married. Get a damn divorce. That way that website that is advertised on t.v can be shut down. It totally goes against all things that a marraige should be. Unconditional love and COMMITMENT!!!
I have been hit on by a very attractive married man. It can be tempting but even single people not involved have to be considerate. If you were in love so much with one person that you married then and wanted to be with them forever. Would YOU want them to betray you love and TRUST?
I say that anyone who is tempted or curious about it don't fall into the lies that man or women may say. ex... its over, we will get a divorce some day, its in the process, she doesn't please me sexually but i find u attractive. dont fall for it, dont pitty them
It something they need to figure out. You could be the victim of someone revenge! plus who wants to ge involced. How well and how much can u trust someone who cheats and lies. Or maybe they say that there spouse knows!!! sure thing, hahah dont give in!!! it will be a big mistake. I have no respect to people who do this!!! on either side of the fence.
Just send them away. You will find a trusting lover of your own, maybe you are looking for more, but I garentee you dont want to be a part.
well thats my two cents, take care all xoxo
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alura2
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| Re: Married and looking???????????
Posted: 8/17/2004 11:08:30 AM | hmm cool goddess..i agree..
never pity a married man who is lonely..or woman as well. They will pull a poor pitiful lonely me shit. Some ppl fall into that spiderweb... and get eaten alive after. It almost never ever works out.
I have zero tolerane and zero respect for cheaters. Thats my 2 cents and my opinion. I have been cheated on.. and its worse than being shot i n the chest. Its the ultimate betrayal. | |
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Posted: 8/17/2004 2:41:07 PM | The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence...
I want my cake and to eat it to...
We take for granted that which is dearest to us...
The easiest path is the one of least resistance...
Simple minds make simple people...
Pick your cliche, they all work
Fret not, for there are men who actually have morals and do not compromise them for sex | |
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