| | Materialistic things? How are we judged?Page 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | Im wondering what the ratio of gals would be to judge a guy of a potential relationship by what he owns? As far as livin in the country I mean, so a vehicle is a must but should it be a piece a shit? Should it be nice? Or should it be what he can afford? Also along with everything else that pretains to materialistic things.... | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 12:18:09 PM | You are young, and you probably date young women. For many people, it takes years of experience to realize what is truly important. There are some who have that sense of priority from a young age, but I suspect they are in the minority. So, protect yourself by getting to know someone thoroughly before you let the relationship escalate. Some things last a lifetime, like character. Other things come and go, like cars and money and appearance.
A woman concerned with what a man owns is looking for the man who is concerned with how she looks. They deserve each other. As they climb the escalator of life, constantly keeping an eye out for the next rung, people with character deepen their love and affection over the years regardless of their circumstances. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 12:19:53 PM | I would be happy with a man who had only a bus ticket...
I have never cared what they had or own or might have.
LOVE is the treasure! | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 1:35:33 PM | Hi Steerwrestler....
In my younger years it use to be a top of the line SUV..... now, lol... as long as it gets me there and back safely I am fairly happy. Actually, I buy vehicles that have replacement parts that are reasonably priced as I fix my own vehicles -how cheap can one get....lol.
There are some ladies that truly want to be with the man no matter what material wealth he has -On the other hand some ladies want to retain a life that is on a different level. There are some ladies that have told me that wealth has pushed apart once was a cohesive loving family.
Men and women alike are both judged......
Personally, if merely hopping on a horse would get me around that would suffice.
Wishing you the best -you might want to ride the steer..:)
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Posted: 4/3/2007 1:45:44 PM | its funny when someone asks for an invenory of personal possessions.... what else could it possibly mean??  a good rule of thumb is to assume they are all looking to steal and otherwise gain some material advantage from association with you.... get used to the idea
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Posted: 4/3/2007 1:50:33 PM | | its unfortunate in this world that people judge other people so much, i dont judge , u never know what other people have been through in their life, its not right to judge | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 1:56:27 PM | Well as one of the "gals" - No. A person should not be judged on what he/she owns. I believe it is so much more important to find out if the person has a good heart. If you meet someone who is interested in what you do have, i would definately move on and find someone else. I sure as heck do not want to become a "Sugar Momma" for anyone. Heck - if you got two hands, two feet and a heart beat then i suggest you get out there and provide for yourself and not attempt to hook up with someone just because they have a nice vehicle or home or ???
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Posted: 4/3/2007 2:33:12 PM | | I realize that women that are interested in guys cause they have nice things are possibly gold diggers but I am wondering what a gals first impression might be if a guy was to go on a date with em n he proved to be an average joe? Not a big spender. Im just curious as to what the ratio might be of these gals who like someone who is a lil on the cheap side or a lil on the spend big side? | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 2:37:09 PM | | If you have a job, if you have an education (it does matter to most), if you have goals and dreams and a healthy work ethic.....doesn't matter HOW MUCH money you earn. That's only for the princess' of this world. The rest of us look and see what lies beneath financial wealth. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 2:39:25 PM | It all depends on the girl you are with.
Personally, if they have a car and a steady job thats a plus right there because it tells me that the person gives a shit about their life and how things turn out. An education is an even bigger plus, although I suppose I can't really **** if someone got to the position in their life without education. Splitting dinner is cool in my books, being taken out once in a while is cool, but I hate a guy paying for me all the time, I feel guilty.
Basically every situation will be different, every girl will have different qualifications for what they want in a guy, and those qualifications will change from guy to guy. Girls NEVER know what they want. :)
You can go ahead and say that I am young and that I don't know what I'm talking about, so be it if that is your opinion, but I guarantee you, you can go ask any woman on this site and they will tell you their "ideal guy", but they truly don't know what they actually want in their SO. The ideal guy is just a picture perfect illustration of all the good and not so good attributes of their experiences in life, it will never come true, no matter how hard they look and try. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 2:48:18 PM | | i dont judge someone by what they own it has nothing to do with who they are, what they have to offer me emotionally and their personality is whats is important to me, as long as they can pay the bills i dont see a problem | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 3:07:37 PM | well, i consider a car very convenient (not a necessity but. .) i live outside the city and can't drive (medical reasons) so if he has a car, it'd be much easier to see each other. i would prefer that the car be something he can afford. whether that be a chevy sprint or a lexus 300, it's up to him. if it gets me safely from point A to point B, it's good to me.
also, if necessary, i'll take a bus to the city to see the right person. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 3:22:41 PM | | Cheap and spend big is relative only to each situation. If by cheap you mean within your means, that's wonderful. If spend big means trying to impress a woman with your wallet that's yucky! I went out with a man (I refuse to call a gentleman) once that was of upper middle class. We had decided to get burgers and movies and watch them at his place. We went to Dairy queen and he asked what I wanted, so I ordered a cheese burger and small fry, he got so angry because the cheese was 10 cents extra. I paid my own ticket and took my meal home. He actually called me high maintenance. Now that is cheap. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 3:29:21 PM | | LMAO!! 10 cents is high maintenance??? Damn....what would 10 bucks be then if ya wanted 2 cheese burgers n a blizzard?? I guess ya cant git much cheaper then that. I have never thought anything of treatin a gal to somethin nice every now n then, but I dont want to make a habit of it cause then they might expect it all the time....everyone can grow accustomed to it and its nice once in a while but when times are tough times are tough if ya know what I mean. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 3:36:46 PM | | We all have tough times sometime, Steerwrestle. It matters more that the treatin you do often are the kinds that melt her heart. A kiss, a touch, a call in the middle of the day to say I love you, cooking her a meal with candlelight and wine, these are the treats that will keep her. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 5:21:36 PM | Same reason rich guys want hot women. Shallow people go for other shallow people. Some people have agendas instead of being genuine.
You have to bring something to the relationship. That can be a variety of things. Many not something you can go out and buy. Everyone is a total package. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 5:28:26 PM | | Sam Walton used to drive around town in a beat-up old truck. But, he parked that truck in a nice garage with a lovely home. I know it's pc on POC to tout that money and possessions mean very little, but ask yourself this; all other things being equal, would you prefer a pretty woman, or an ugly one? Same holds true for money and possessions. All other things being equal, the one with the stuff goes home with the prize pig. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 5:41:59 PM | | above is true,also,if theres a choice between a man with a prize cucumber or gerkin,why not take the cucumber?just a question of preference,ive never had any complaints | |
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Posted: 4/3/2007 6:02:22 PM | | This debate does bring out the difference an men and women. When you are single and are going through the dating game, the usual prejudices are abound! I heard someone tell me once that when a man and a woman have had a first date, the woman's girlfriends will ask her "what does he do for a living?" and the man's male buddies will ask him "is she hot?" This can be the case, but its quite special when a couple can bond on some level, and people need to look beyond this superficial crap when deciding to be with someone. | |
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