| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 12:45:28 PM | I know this is probably a hard topic to understand, or even define, but I would like the help of everyone to help me and everyone else understand what it is. How do you define it? What does it feel like, taste like, smell like.....can you even use those sense to detect it? Im not sure what it is. I think I may have had it once, but I was young, and for all I know, it wasn't love. Though, I dont think its much of a coincidence that if you and a first love reunite, that it can come back together stronger than ever. No one ever really gets over their first love. And the following partners tend to mock, or copy the first. So I suppose, the closer you get to the first, the happier you can probably be. But thats just my thoughts.
Also, you like someone for their strengths, but love them for their defects. And I still smile remembering her yelling at her dad to take his meds....
Everyone called her bossy, but I loved it the most. | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 1:11:10 PM | ....baby don't hurt me....don't hurt me....
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 1:26:59 PM | | Love...love is a deep sense of need for someone else that is in your life. Its passion, happiness, serenity, and pure blind devotion tied into one big knot. It's the way that one special person can make you smile no matter what, and the way you know that no matter how much fun something is...it would be better if they were there with you! Thats the best definition I can give you I guess...its pure driven emotion! | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 3:28:04 PM | | "Love is the master key which opens the gates of happiness." | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 3:38:12 PM | 
Message #2....I could see that one coming a mile away! | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 3:43:09 PM | One definition:
Love is acceptance of a person as they are and as they are not.
This allows me to love everyone unconditionally. It does not mean that I have to be around, tolerate a particular behaviour,live with,or anything else with them.
That implies that love is a choice,not an emotion or feeling over which you have no control.
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 3:47:27 PM | | The instinct to love is evolution's way of getting our genes into the next generation by being compelled to care for next of kin or for a partner who will give us kin. lol, sorry to burst the bubble of any romantics out there. | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 3:58:12 PM | It starts with a smile , grows with a kiss and ends with a tear drop.  | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:00:50 PM | | "How can somethig that feels so good hurt so bad." | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/9/2007 4:40:21 PM | MARY E. HOTVEDT, C.M.F.T., PH.D. President, American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy
When clients ask, usually with a touch of sarcasm, "What is love?" I try to understand the underlying circumstances. Have they equated love with unconditional acceptance and so become paralyzed by feelings of resentment? Or has love been so highly conditional for them that they are unable to tolerate another's idiosyncrasies and imperfections, expecting instead that the perfect person would enable them to open themselves to love? By contrast, some couples struggle to stay current and honest with each other. They can trade off on giving and taking, accept their own and their mate's imperfections even laugh about them--and cherish the complexity of their lives together. They never ask, "What is love?" I think they know.
MICHAEL W. ROSS, PH.D., M.P.H., M.H.P.Ed. President, Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality
Many psychologists distinguish between "passionate love" (an intense longing for union and strong physiological arousal) and "companionate love" (a deep attachment and commitment to an intimate partner). Sexologist John Money draws the line between love and lust: "Love exists above the belt, lust below. Love is lyrical. Lust is lewd." There is general agreement on the intensity of the experience of love and lust, which often become separate entities about six months into a relationship. Culture and society, however, provide a heavy overlay, and definitions can vary across gender, age, culture and class, among other variables.
ELIZABETH S. RADCLIFFE, PH.D. Executive Director, American Philosophical Association
Love between human beings is the emotional bond of those who find meaning and value in the same aspects of life. Although one can love parents and siblings without sharing their perspectives, ideal familial love is based on common values too. Romantic love can spring from infatuation and sexual attraction alone, but the deepest love between partners depends on shared emotional resonance over features of life they both consider most significant. The irony of this loving relationship--commonly identified as friendship--is that the two persons often find their common value while searching for value itself; they discover themselves in a meeting of minds engaged in the same quest. | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 4/11/2007 1:58:03 AM | Hey...this is an age old question. You're 21 and still have lots of life to learn through experiences. Some folks never really understand it. Some think they do. Some think they are experts. You can love more than one person in a lifetime. Some have been lucky enough to know what *their* love is. Love comes in many different shapes and forms. The love for your parents is different than the love for your girl. The love for your children is different than the love for your neices/nephews. Love is an emotional need. But the person you love is because you want them in your life. You want what they are and are not. Love is NOT obsession. Love is NOT ownership.
Love is a gift we allow ourselves to live.
LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! Then when that happens, you will know what love is. | |
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| What is love?
Posted: 6/1/2007 11:42:47 AM | | lmao I thought the same. | |
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