| waiting untill marriage
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:48:00 PM | I know this is probobly an old subject but im a christan and am looking for a good christian woman but from all the profiles and discussion on here it leaves me with a question.
does anyone wait for marriage anymore? | |
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| waiting untill marriage
Posted: 4/9/2007 7:12:16 PM | I've known people who have waited and who are waiting. They are few and far between but if it is important to you, then do it. It is your decision and one you can never change once done.
I waited til i met my ex husband, we weren't married but we married later on. I have no regrets, even if we are divorced now. It was when i was ready, on my own terms, and when we were both safe and comfortable and feeling completely in love. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 7:12:59 PM | | Yes there are still girls out there that wait til marriage. I am one of them I am 24 years old and I have a strong group of girl friends that all waited til marriage. So I know of like 10 girls that I am good friends with that all waited. We are still out there you just have to look hard sometimes it seems. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 7:17:41 PM |
I know this is probobly an old subject but im a christan and am looking for a good christian woman but from all the profiles and discussion on here it leaves me with a question.
does anyone wait for marriage anymore?
If it's important to you, than stick by your morals. I have a g/f that is 33 and a virgin because she's a christian and waiting as well. You aren't alone, but you aren't the majority either. | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 7:18:30 PM | | well im divorced but i was only with my ex wife, im not necessarily looking for a virgin but if a woman is also in my shoes (divorced etc) im mainly looking for someone who also beleives that sex is only for marriage | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 7:20:49 PM | | one more thing thanks for all the good answers and i commend all the women standing up for themselves and for what is right | |
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Posted: 4/9/2007 8:28:35 PM | | Some women do still wait but I think your divorced status may put you at a disadvantage with a majority of this group. I would think that a christian woman who saves herself for marriage would take her vows very seriously, including the 'till death do us part' bit. I don't know the circumstances of your divorce but I would think that these women would be less interested in a man who got a divorce. Some virgins also expect the man they marry to be a virgin too so this may complicate things as well. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 6:34:08 PM | I agree with you, OP. I wish more people waited until marriage. Fortunately there are still many women who wait, so it's not impossible to find one.
I also understand that many people today make mistakes and nobody is perfect. It's very difficult to wait these days with all of the pressure from peers, media, the internet, etc.
The thing that upsets me the most, though, is when people try to make premarital sex seem like the norm, or when they act like there's something wrong with waiting until marriage.
Keep up the search. I hope you find the one. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 6:35:45 PM | | Statistically,it is estimated that only 9% of people are virgins when they marry. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 6:52:03 PM | I am divorced and plan on going that route. Became a Christian after my marriage. My ex was not interested in the Christian walk and the marriage ended due to decisions he made. Nothing I could do about it.
I am not looking for a virgin, that would be silly. But I would love to find another Christian - a man willing to step up to the plate and be who God intended him to be as a husband - who is waiting for marriage as well.
And I bet I get far less email from POF'ers now. LOL!!! | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 7:30:49 PM | | Why would anyone wait? Before you buy the car you should take it for a test drive. Or two or three or a hundred. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 9:23:35 PM | "one more thing thanks for all the good answers and i commend all the women standing up for themselves and for what is right"
You know, your choice is your own and the fact that is unnatural is not something we'll throw in your face if you keep your sanctimonious institution of man, not God, to yourself. But since you didn't lets delve into reality for a moment: If you want to wait fine. If it deludes you into making you think your better than anyone else so be it. Is living one's life by an imposed but entirely unsubstnatiated morality composed, edited, and rewritten by dozens of men over centuries "right?"
"Christians" wonder why some of us have problems with them. This post from the OP shows the problem to be rooted in such sadly prevalent self serving, arrogant, and arguably fictional drivel.
Noithing wrong with being a Christian...as long as it doesn't preclude your humanity. | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 9:49:39 PM | I used to think I was going to wait until marriage, but then as I got older I started to realize that you have to test drive the car before permanently parking it in your garage.
With that said, that's only my opinion. Stick to your morals, stick to your guns. There are women out there who feel the same. Keep searching and ye shall find!
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Posted: 1/4/2008 9:50:55 PM | I don't think there is any one right or wrong answer here, it's up to you. I'm just wondering if you've thought long term and what would you do if you did get married only to find out you were not sexually compatible with your partner? Then what? I hope you're not that naive to think it's not a big deal, because it really is. 
Pink | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 9:54:58 PM | | Well, I am 37 never married. I can't imagine how frustrated I would be if i was still "waiting". I am a christian also, have good morals, and treat people the way I want to be treated. You may have cut your selection of women to date down to almost zero if you are looking for a virgin. Besides, you are defiitly passing up many good women who would be excellent partners. To answer your question, most people probably do not wait untill they get married. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 2:30:18 AM | | i love being in a relationship where there is no sex, ive had it a couple of times......one scary thing tho, w this one guy i was totally into, we finally got intimate and it sucked!!! id love to wait for marriage but can u imagine gettin real bad sex on ur wedding night?!! i wanna do things Gods way, but what gives?! | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 4:43:39 AM | Re the OPost:
I personally usually wait until the divorce! lol lol | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 5:16:29 AM | Statistically speaking, the percentage of people that have premarital sex is the same between Christians and Non-Christians.
I am Christian and I know of many girls that are waiting until they are married (and most of them are over 26, so they are very unlikely to change their minds about this). Let's face it though, there are far less men waiting until marriage than women.
I have made the choice not to wait until I am remarried for one simple reason. I do not want to marry the wrong guy just because I am crazy horny. I am watching two friends of mine facing this exact dilemma right now. They've been dating a couple months, she's a virgin, he's not. He's all happy to wait for her, doesn't pressure her or anything. But the thought of marrying her is always on his mind and it probably wouldn't be if they were sleeping together.
They are out there.. but your chances of finding them on here are slim to nil. You're best bet is look in your church, join a Christian Single's group, go on retreats etc. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 11:46:43 AM | Why are some people on this post so mad at the OP? He's looking for a woman who shares the same values and beliefs as him. Why wouldn't somebody want that?
"but from all the profiles and discussion on here it leaves me with a question. does anyone wait for marriage anymore?"
He's actually right about the discussion and profiles on POF. Who can blame him for being discouraged? He also makes it clear that he is not necessarily looking for a virgin - just someone who shares his belief that sex is for marriage. It looks like he is a reasonable guy. He wants to find a woman who shares his values and beliefs, but he also understands that human beings are not perfect and many people today unfortunately lose their virginity before they marry the right person. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 12:16:39 PM | wow, that is great that you have those kind of morals. keep at it, you may see friends trying to get you into their kind of life styles, I have a few times and they have tried to get me into having sex with some chicks they've met. Nothing happens, because they end up just playing head games, and i do not like that.
as for why a few people get mad??
do not know, maybe as way to make themselves feel good for something they do not have anymore.
PS: Op, I am a 25 year old virgin, but not because of religion reasons. More like having to do with the fact that women ignore me or just end up being friends with me in the end. LOL
but that is another story
just keep hope op. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 12:22:18 PM | | It seems like no one does wait, people who want to wait are seen as wierd, weak, etc. Tells you how badly Satan has warped so many people's minds. If you're a Christian I really wouldn't recommend this site. Be true to yourself and congrats on being one of the few who aren't lost. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 12:28:33 PM | wait??
are you saying that sex is satan's idea ??
wow, that is deep...and kind of harsh.
And I've notice that the most shallow women are christian women. They judge people, heck!! I once even saw a group of christian women judging this more mature older lady, who was dressed in the 60's style of clothing and these women were just brutal and making fun of her. You know how I notice it? I was right next to this lady and she was an acting student in one of the acting classes I tutor.
Lost you say??
when christian women can be so judgmental..that is being lost. | |
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Posted: 1/5/2008 1:38:08 PM | By wait...do you mean sex?
To answer that question...I hope not...imagine the terror of marrying someone...then finding out sex is horrible... | |
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