| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:44:30 PM | | Ive just been chatting to a male friend of mine and hes going on a date tomorrow night and said he likes this girl but hes feeling really sick! said he was actually sick lastnight and had its getting closer,hes so nervous.He said the main thought of it is,about whos going to make the first move? He said that men and females are now equal and he shouldnt have to make the first move,said the female should? | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:53:15 PM | The first move in what?
buying a drink.. opening a door.. holding a hand.. planting a kiss.. how /when/ where?
Too much anticipation and expectation.
Whats to be nervous about?
Surely a first meeting should be just that, with none of those things?
Only when you have got through the first meeting will you know, if next time you have reason to be nervous. | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:56:31 PM | I get sick, even going for an interview, so its even worse, going to meet a girl for the very 1st time. what goes though my mind is what Im going to say to her, & how she is going to react to seeing me on what i look like, its not untill half way through chatting on what ever comes into my mind, that i start to feel a bit more comfortable, even after the meeting things are going through my mind, on what i have said, or what i should have said
yes i worry no wonder im still single !!!
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 3:05:40 PM | tbh i dont think about it too much until im actually a few mins away from meeting her, otherwise i would just worried about it. being sick from meeting a girl does sound a litte extreme though, but the more he does it the easier it will get.
and yes to your original question men get just as nervous as women do | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 3:50:02 PM | | I think that the problem is that men fear rejection more than women do. Personaly when I meet someone for the first time it goes from a feeling of excitement until about and hour before, and then all these thing go around in my head and I get realy worried. I know its daft, afterall its just two people meeting to have a chat, and after I think what was I worried about, but it happens every time. | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 3:55:25 PM | Yes I do believe men get very nervous! Just as much as us ladies do...
My fella was apparantley cacking his pants at the thought of meeting me (god knows why, i mean im such a doll )
And my brothers do too, although theyre happily settled now but i remember when they used to spend hours getting ready for dates, and getting mum to iron several tops so they had a choice!!!  | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 4:06:10 PM | | I think if the date is important anybody will be nervous. If its someone you really like the nerves kick in although Ive never been sick. Thought I was going to be sick on my driving tests (all 5 of them!) | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:12:55 PM | | from my male perspective, one thing I find tricky is reading behaviour - I am generally ok at reading people, so to explain what I mean i will give an example -went out with a lass a while back, wasn't sure if it was a date or not, we had a wonderful night, but when it came to that point I asked if I could kiss her, as I wasn't sure if the night was heading that way and didn't want to ruin it (and yes, I felt a complete a*** afterwards - "excuse me, would you mind awfully if I kissed you?" -"oh, not at all old chap") | |
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CFCJ
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Joined: 4/1/2007
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:24:50 PM | | I dont get nervous and not because I am supremely confident its just that I dont have high expectations. i do not wish to put myself or the person i am going to meet under any pressure, i also dont think the women i meet from here are going to get any better anyway so there's not much point in getting nervous anymore. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 4:44:28 PM |
i also dont think the women i meet from here are going to get any better anyway so there's not much point in getting nervous anymore
It definitely wont get any better after that comment - do you realise how that sounds | |
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CFCJ
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Joined: 4/1/2007
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/14/2007 5:19:11 PM | It definitely wont get any better after that comment - do you realise how that sounds
lol you what? I can't help it if i've met some great people on this site that I don't think can be improved upon by anyone else, that's all. I would be staggered if somebody could prove me wrong whether or not they are taking my comments into account. That's probably when I would start to get nervous. | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 3:02:21 AM | I would normally get nervous if meeting someone for a date, mainly as i would be wondering if they really are the person they portray themselves as.
However, seeming as I'm only here to make friends "Male or Female" as I've recently moved up to Midlands from London, I have no need to feel nervous. Having said that, It's Sunday and I get to meet someone on Monday :S | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 3:08:49 AM | whos going to make the first move?
Msg 1..Why would your friend be worried about whos going to make the first move?
so worried that it is making him sick before going on his date...
I would be more worried about wether she felt comfortable and was having
a good time in my company and if she found my jokes amusing or not.
Maybe im old fashioned and should be a bit more modern thinking! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 3:51:36 AM | lol admittedly, i dont think about it until the day that i'm supposed to meet her, thats when all hell breaks loose in my head lol. Everything that i should've thought of a week before the meeting etc runs through my mind and i just get lost, next thing i know i'm standing infront of her with a dumbfounded look on my face thinking "what shall i say? is she quiet because she's expecting me to say something first? if she is... what the hell do i say?" lol i feel stupid for being like that but it's just how i am.
But if i was to meet sexysamantha78 for the first time... god help me on how i'll react if i met her lol. I'd probably just kiss her to begin it all with and then want to run away from embarassment of being so blunt and upfront  | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 4:07:42 AM |
Ive just been chatting to a male friend of mine and hes going on a date tomorrow night and said he likes this girl but hes feeling really sick!
He must be dating his sister | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 4:15:29 AM | | I think men get as nervous as women do, they must have the same anxieities, will the date go well, will we get on, will the conversation flow etc? | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 5:12:16 AM | | I was really suprised when my ex admitted well into our relationship that she had been a bag of nerves all day before our first date, It certainly didnt show. We clicked straight away and had a great night. I dont know if its because I have lower expectations or something these days but I rarely get really wound up for a date. Maybe I should!!!! (starts panic mode) | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 12:45:10 PM | nervous?
i would get nervous visiting the doctor or being summoned by the Police.
to have a date with a woman is one of the best thing a man can ever "suffer".
and as for the first move i would recommend your friend being quiet and fine, enjoying the company as a woman is the best company.
why do you or your friend mean by saying "the first move"? are you talking about bedding her? the first move before having sex? to kiss her?
please tell your friend to enjoy the company being fine and quiet and is things are to happen, then it will happen | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 1:14:39 PM | | I get quite nervous when I got to meet women from the internet. I have only been to a few meetings so far though over the past few years that I have been using these sites. | |
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djb65
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Joined: 3/4/2007
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 1:20:47 PM | I don't get nervous for one reason.
I'm only on this site for friendship, NOT relationships. I've had enough of them. | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 1:28:53 PM |
He said the main thought of it is,about whos going to make the first move?
I am still confused about what you mean by the first move..
A kiss, a cuddle, a?......
If someone doesnt get a little nervouse meeting someone for the first time, then maybe they have done it so may times it must come as second nature to them..
I get nervous doing most things for the first time.. | |
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| do men get nervous too?
Posted: 4/15/2007 2:45:21 PM | Before I answer let me just have a peep, ok yes I’m a man so what I say is gospel.
A women wants a man to take control, be strong, masterful, dominate, confident and assertive.
Real men in a mans world would simply go through the motions and get the job done.
Weak limp wrested Mommies boys feel sick because they have none of the above and when there in a relationship they let the little women walk all over them. | |
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