| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 3:15:29 AM | | She dresses carefully to attract his attention, and he wonders what she looks like without clothes. She wants to look deep into his eyes, but he's looking down at her chest. She imagines dinner with candles, and he imagines them writhing in bed. She is ruled by her heart, and he is ruled by the vision of two legs spread wide apart. She is honest and sincere, and he puts on an elaborate act. In the end--if he plays his part well--he gets what he's after. And she...well...she hopes this time it will be different. What is it that women don't seem to get? Or are they, too, just playing a part? | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 3:35:43 AM | | “Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk anything, you risk even more.” -- Erica Jong | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 3:42:28 AM | We as women could ask the same question about why guys don't 'get it'. That's why they write books about it. We're different... we have different hormones that dictate some behaviour and how we view things in this world. We want the package, not just the physical satisfaction... why is that so hard for men to grasp? We want someone who can be a friend, companion and lover, but as is evident from your post OP... a lot of guys have sex on the brain and are getting pretty good at playing the emotional card to get it, only to all too frequently say 'next' once they've gotten what they want.
We are animals... but we as humans have (although sometimes it's questionable) a conscience. We're not here with the lack of awareness of our own existance, we're not made to JUST go out and procreate. Women are built to nurture, and not built to only nurture children, otherwise, on the whole ~ we'd just be looking to have sex with anyone for that purpose and wouldn't be that choosy.
If a guy doesn't get that and is out to just have sex, then be honest about it from the start. If a guy wants nothing of substance, that's his perogative, but be truthful about it and stop the game playing. There are some guys out there that want it all too. While they may still be ruled by the vision of two legs spread wide apart, some want emotional and mental stimulation as well. I don't think it's that hard to figure out. Men and women are different. We all know it, it's a matter of what we truly seek and how we can work together with those differences to achieve what we're after. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 3:52:58 AM | its just the difference between venutian and martian thinking!!.
martians love a sexy walk in the earthlight dust, and venutians want the whole of the moon plus saturns expensive rings  | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 4:06:58 AM | I like that quote, it sums it up nicely.
Yes you must take chances some times when you're moved to do so. When you're moved like that you must act, those women who are worth it know that and act on it....ignoring some obvious things sometimes. Maybe thats why some get fed up with us, cause of those who dont understand what may be going on and acting in a way that spoils it for us all.
Not that there isn't enough of those women who just want to get pounded either mind you. But either way the clues are always there. Listen to things that are said by her, things she reacts to (either way) and in particular, comments that are made by her to you.
You'll know if it's love she wants and just trying to go with it in hope things go that way or just wants some good times. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 4:39:11 AM | Oh, boy! I just love this stuff!
She dresses carefully to attract his attention, and he wonders what she looks like without clothes.
Hope you're not headed into "one is right and one is wrong" here. She's dressing to look nice so she can turn his head. There's female fishies everywhere and we gotta compete, dang it!
If he wants to to imagine the two of them writhing in lust instead of just appreciating her lovliness, so be it. But it doesn't mean they're on the same page, just cause she attempted looking nice and stealing his eyes away from the other fishies for a spell! (Cause really, at this point, that's all she's doing.)
And she...well...she hopes this time it will be different.
Oh please---that's pure folly, if not insanity! How's it gonna be any different when she plays the game the same way, time and time again?
What is it that women don't seem to get?
What they don't get is that they're placing a value on their vagina that is all about controlling their relationships. They think they can use it to buy exclusivity and committment, never realizing they're feeding the very behaviors they detest. They don't understand why some men expect them to drop their panties just cause they (the men) dropped a lil coinage on them, yet they expect men to commit to them just cause they gave him a of their prized kitty. What kind of madness is that? Until we stop placing these values (of expectation---"I do this for you, you do this for me") on our vaginas and start making love simply because we wanna make love, without expectation, this craziness will continue.
Or are they, too, just playing a part?
Of course they are. It's called "I do this for you, you do this for me" and it's NUTS! | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:05:48 AM |
She is honest and sincere, and he puts on an elaborate act.
Really? You do this? I've found that most men are honest and sincere. Some women insist on hearing "I want you forever" just because she whipped out the vagina. Some men think that way as well. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:47:28 AM | You can think you've won and fooled a woman perhaps mentally, but unless you just raped her.... she wanted you physically too!
There is great risk and vulnerability on both sides the first time you make love with someone. To take advantage of it and deceive someone to get it is just very sad and pathetic and a man that is not worth having. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:42:15 AM | i don't think the OP gives men OR women enough credit.
i don't dress to impress him. i dress to feel pretty. sometimes i like feeling pretty. yes the guy looks at my chest (i mean, DUH, it's hard not to notice it) and i look at his too! i like big guys with big chests and shoulders. i don't care about the "package" but i bet women who do check that out too if they can.
and i'm pretty sure there are guys out there looking to fall in love every bit as much as women.. and i'm totally guilty of imagining a guy in bed. doesn't everyone do that sometimes? i mean, yes, i'd like to find love.. but a satisfying sex life is certainly on the desirables list! | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:48:58 AM |
She dresses carefully to attract his attention, and he wonders what she looks like without clothes.
I wonder what he looks like without his clothes?
She wants to look deep into his eyes, but he's looking down at her chest. She imagines dinner with candles, and he imagines them writhing in bed.
I shake my boobage and check out his package!
She is ruled by her heart, and he is ruled by the vision of two legs spread wide apart.
Sorry not ruled by much of anything ...anymore!
She is honest and sincere, and he puts on an elaborate act. In the end--if he plays his part well--he gets what he's after.
Act? Schmacked! No acting here...he "get's it if I decide he gets "it"
And I always hold out for gifts...evil hehehe!
And she...well...she hopes this time it will be different. What is it that women don't seem to get? Or are they, too, just playing a part?
Shaadup! YOU are assuming that he was good at it
She hopes this time it will be different? OMG Too funny! | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:49:43 AM | I guess I don't get it.
From your post... all I get is that men are pigs.
Oh wait... I already knew that!!
(Not all men!!! Don't want that tangent to happen!)
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:55:42 AM | Belive it are not, not all men are like that, some want a life with them.
Didn't mean to shock you, but some even get married, and have a life and grow old toghter. Now days its rare. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:10:03 AM | WHOA !!
PLEASE do not lump all men into that catagory of muff divers you seem to indicate we all are!!!
As one writer to another I appreciate how well written that posting was, but the content was rather appalling to me as a man.
There is an old joke that says "A woman has to be in the mood, a man has to be in the room"
Well I don't know and I can not speak for all males of the species, but I personally have evolved long past that point of Neandrothal behavior.
And that's my two cents worth on this thread. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:23:25 AM | Posts like this make me scared of men, and doubt everything that comes out of their mouths. For men it's easy to fake emotions, but it is impossible to fake having sex, so the only way to protect your womenly emotions is not to have sex (or to only have meaningless sex, which not all women are capable of).
So to all those men who say "Not all men want sex, or just think about sex, we want relationships too"....well now maybe you can see WHY women doubt your intentions, because we get fed stuff like this. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:31:29 AM | | You're only dealing in cliches and stereoytpes OP. What is the point you are trying to make here? People are a lot more complex than being put into one of two boxes, and come in lots of different flavors. When you try to lump everyone into a nicely fitted category, you are doing them, and yourself, a disservice. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:37:49 AM | Well if you are saying that every single man only cares about whats between a womans legs and nothing else.....that women are only an object for all men.
Then no I guess I don't understand. I have a father...and he doesn't seem to treat women as you say all men do. He seems to respect my mothers goals and desires, he seems to respect me, and my intelligence, wouldn't I see my brothers out hound dogging it with everyone in a skirt, hitting on all my female friends. See them treating me with zero respect.
I certianly think OP that there are some men who see women as objects and thats all...And OP thats your loss. Because we are more than the hole between our legs, and if you stopped your pretence and opened up beyond your own member you might see what it feels like to find real caring and affection you might enjoy it. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:43:55 AM | it's not the "object!"....but rather, the "objective!!"
clitical thinking started with the caveman! His lack of linguistic grunts gave us clittle to go on as far as learning goes! Now where's my cave?? | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:46:03 AM | I too like that quote.
I can proudly say - “getting in her pants” has never caused (and never will cause) me to lie to her. Any pants - any her - any time in my life.
While I will admit to - wanting in her pants was part of it all - it was always HER I wanted. I’ve always wanted all of her. Her as a friend - her as a buddy - her as a female - her as my best friend - her as “my girl”.
Misleading someone to have sex with them is a crime. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:58:26 AM |
She dresses carefully to attract his attention, and he wonders what she looks like without clothes. She wants to look deep into his eyes, but he's looking down at her chest. She imagines dinner with candles, and he imagines them writhing in bed. She is ruled by her heart, and he is ruled by the vision of two legs spread wide apart. She is honest and sincere, and he puts on an elaborate act. In the end--if he plays his part well--he gets what he's after. And she...well...she hopes this time it will be different. What is it that women don't seem to get? Or are they, too, just playing a part?
I really hate it when guys will put up posts like this. All statements like this do is make women think men are after one thing only. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 9:10:20 AM | | I always go in knowing the program and actually trying to enjoy my part---- and yes sometimes I fall for the idea of something more ---- and although I believe the magical connection could happen, I prepare for the heartbreak just the same. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 9:18:53 AM | | I am thinking after this post OP you won't have to worry about it too much, the emails in your inbox will likely slow down so you won't have to worry about whether women "get it" or not. | |
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| Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they?
Posted: 4/15/2007 9:18:58 AM |
clitical thinking started with the caveman! His lack of linguistic grunts gave us clittle to go on as far as learning goes! Now where's my cave??
Mandrake..you caveman,you!Where's my club?
We get it.
Men like sex.
Women like sex,too(surprise,surprise!)
But,why an elaborate act?
If you honest about it to begin with,there should be no repercussions.
Either you get laid,or you don't.
If you feel the need to B.S. your way into a sexual encounter,then do women a favour,and keep your pants on. | |
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