| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:28:56 AM | For example; Would it bother you if...
A woman instists on paying her half of the date?
Liked to drive 1/2 the time?
Made more money than you?
Would rather try to solve and issue herself before she would accept help?
Just curious about what men think on this... | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:36:05 AM | At this stage of my life I couldent care how much money she made, though later in life I'd like to be more successful than the woman I'm with. Being refered to as "Mr. Susan Jones" (random name) at a dinner party would be a little undignified I think. But the rest of those things I'd have no problem with at all. Not having a car I'd expect her to drive 100% of the time, unless we we're getting the bus  | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:43:43 AM | | I own my own home and successful business. I am a single mom of a 17 year old boy, live way out in the country and maintain my home alone. I didn't think I would have to list these things for you to take my word on being a strong woman. | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:45:33 AM | | wow if you find a woman like that .. please let me know.. i dont think i ever had a woman mention helping out on the bill for diner.. would be nice also if THEY came and picked me up wow this sounds amazing already.. im ready to be wined and dined half the time | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:45:50 AM | | I'm glad you asked this question. It brings the total of identical threads to an even 1,000. Your prize will arrive by parcel post. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 11:46:21 AM | No i love that fact you make more money than me and not intimidated by it..
everything is good as long as your not trying to control me or make me do thing that aren't manly.
I need to be the man in the relationship even though your wearing the pants | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:54:04 AM |
I own my own home and successful business. I am a single mom of a 17 year old boy, live way out in the country and maintain my home alone. I didn't think I would have to list these things for you to take my word on being a strong woman.
These are marks of success, not of character. They do not speak to how you came by them, nor maintain them. Sorry miss, but strength and independance belong just as much to the poor and principled. I suggest putting down the Ayn Rand and picking up something else. | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 11:58:53 AM | | It's all good, perhaps rather than it being a question of would you mind this , that or the other, it should be about whether or not men are prepared to accept any difference, whether it's a quality of strength, sensitivity, being a wage earner, a pauper, brunette, blonde, black , white etc. etc. etc. Perhaps we should all be trying to look somewhere beyond the material and the physical and asking 'are they kind, caring, considerate, loving, giving etc. Whether they're the Queen or on the streets. Trust me, money as an issue in a relationship is a byword for 'hollow disaster' well, in my opinion anyway.... | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 12:10:58 PM | I own my own home and successful business. I am a single mom of a 17 year old boy, live way out in the country and maintain my home alone. I didn't think I would have to list these things for you to take my word on being a strong woman.
WHAT A SECOND!! Something is not jiving here. Your profile states that you are 29. Did you adopt a teenager or did you have a child at 12?
But to answer your original question, then a woman that have your traits is very attractive. Odds are that you can carry a conversation about other things than shoes or today's shopping extravaganza. | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 12:11:21 PM | ^^ happy, Wow. Now we know the kind of answer you want to hear....
Only answer if you like the question. I get a whiff of somthing other than strong....
I think a number of MANLY-MEN will have better things to do shortly...
Belay that last. Since we are speaking in this thread in happy terms, could you define what you think a manly-man is? Thanks. | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 12:22:55 PM | I think it is absoutely wonderful if a woman is self reliant and making it well for herself, but here is where the issue clashes in a lot of relationships:
If the woman is so head strong that she does not take any advise from her man and thinks everything he says is wrong then the relationship will fail because he will feel inadequate.
I dated a woman that was on her own for 2 years before me. She owned her own place and paid all her own bills. She was never married and had no children so every penny earned was by her.
She was having problems with her bathroom being so cold in the winter months and when I used a lighter to find drafts around the windows she freaked out making statements like, "Your trying to burn my house down", and "why are you playing with fire", etc.. If the womans independance does not allow for a mans input then it will not only be a turn off, but undesirable in a relationship.
Bob
Jonesport, Me
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 12:34:52 PM | I agree with Something Simple. I appreciate your insight.
You are among the few men today on the post that are not showing aggressive signs of insecurity.
I also want to say that for the couple of men on this thread that are totally being jerks no wonder you are single. It takes a really good person to sit on the computer all day just to bash other people. It that what really turns you guys on?
I thought the whole objective of these forums were to help one another out, not cut then to pieces? | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 12:43:14 PM | I beleive that it is only polite to "offer" to help pay for whatever if it was a "meeting for the first time" sort of thing. If he asked me out, I expect him to pay...if I asked him, I would certainly offer...but honestly wouldn't expect a MAN to let me pay. I teach my fourteen year old son that a true man, gentleman, never allows a woman to pay...that he would/should feel like less of a man if he does so. By the same token I spoil men rotten and if a woman wants to drive, handle the table saw or treat him to the Superbowl for a special or even non special reason...very cool...
Old fashioned? Perhaps. BUT there is a lot to be said for manners or the growing lack thereof....what paying for dinner, sharing driving the car, etc...has to do with being an independent and strong woman has me a bit confused....I'm all of those things and still expect a man to behave like one...personal opinion...it's mine and I'm allowed it. | |
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BayOne
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/16/2007 1:03:12 PM |
emotional strength is what matters, not home and sucessful business
Couldn't agree more...
Nice guys and independent women.. apparently the new leppers of society.. lol!!
Please.
Can one person answer this type of question? Of course not.. we can only answer for ourselves..
That being said, I think if you accept and respect yourself.. your strengths AND weaknesses.. then why wouldn't someone else? | |
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