| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:12:06 AM | | Recently broke up with my EX after 7 years b/c I didnt change for better. She got with a new guy a week later. Has anyone got back with their EX after dating with others? How was it the 2nd time around? | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:17:40 AM | I did, and it wasn't worth it. The break up was worse the second time around. You're eventually reminded of why you broke up in the first place. Then, you resent the person because you think of the time you wasted when you could have been with someone who could've made you happy.
Chris Rock said it best: She's not mad because you cheated. She's mad because of all the d**k she passed up being with your @ss.  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:18:43 AM | I have actaully done it on occasion. Mind you, the reason I left in the first place should have been a sign. I mean, there was some major issues, and well I left him - dated a few others. I ended up going back to him just about a few months later - it was good for the first few weeks, after that everything went back to how it was and the reason why I left in the first place.
Honestly, I think they become a ex for a reason and that reason only. I mean if you can't fix the issues before splitting up, what makes it better that you spilt up and then maybe get back together?
I figure, just let em be x's
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:21:15 AM | Sounds like she got a rebound guy and you got, well, jealous. Textbook break-up case here.
Go ahead, give it a shot. See you back here in a month when it doesn't work out again. Then you can give advice on these same threads.
(Sorry, feeling a bit cynical today. But it IS a pretty typical case, here.) | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:56:01 AM | | msusnicknel - You just made my day. You made me laugh, and well you pretty much got it dead on 100 percent. Typical case.... | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:57:48 AM | | I have, and it wasn't the best idea. Things went good for about a month, than everything went back to the old ways. Never again.... | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:08:26 AM | I did. And it worked for a fair few years until "yet" again, when we hit a snag, I think the grass is greener on the other side!!
My ex had faults when I met him and like most women, think we can change that, but we can't!!
Trouble is, I then joined several dating sites, met a few different men off of them, only to find they were bigger a***oles then the ex. Difference is that when you are older, you then end up thinking that sometimes its better the devil you know than the one you don't. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:15:05 AM | Yes I did and it was the biggest mistake I ever made -
whats done is done- do not go backwards - go forwards
We were together for ten years then another three years-
The second time in the beginning was great- but he ended up
doing to me the same thing he did the first time around-
I would not advise it - I dont know your situation - everyone told
me not to do it and I did - and well - It was a big mistake - | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:32:39 AM | Yes another one of those who has done that!
However slightly different!
Met him when I was 19 he was 25, the relationship was on and off, both of us were dating others and at times still seeing each other (which we knew about the others, the others didn't know about us), until I was 22 he asked me to move in with him which lasted 7 years and a daughter born in that period. Just after the split we spoke of reconciliation, and dated few times after that during the first year of splitting up. Now upon reflection, I am glad I didn't get back I feel I have moved forward in a great direction.
Ex's are that for a reason..... and should be noted as to why they are Ex's in the first place.
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:35:52 AM |
everyone told
me not to do it and I did - and well - It was a big mistake -
Interesting... since my break up with my ex just over 3 years ago, people keep telling me to give him a chance if he wants to come back at some point. I guess the difference in our case is that we didn't break up for any of the typical reasons people would. The relationship was amazing, we were like two peas in a pod, it was just a matter of a difference in life experience being that he was quite a bit younger. But ever since then I've been told that we were really meant for each other, that he'll come back one day and what a shame it was that we aren't together now.
For awhile I listened to them because I wanted to have hope, but not anymore. I've realized after all this time that we'll always be at different points on our life experience scale. Heck, I don't even know if we'd get along in person anymore ~ a lot of time has passed and we've both grown ... we're not the same people we were 3 years ago, so I have to wonder if we would even be compatible now.
I think that our ex's were meant to be in our lives for the time they were. When it's over, it's over. Be grateful for all they brought to your life (even the bad), because it teaches us about ourselves and gives us experience to know what does and doesn't work, what we do and don't want. I'm grateful for mine. I found out how it can be, what I deserve and that I won't settle just to be in a relationship.
I've never gotten back together with an ex no matter how badly I thought I wanted to. Quite frankly I realize that the initial panic/need to want to be back with them might result from a habit being broken. It's hard to suddenly live your life different when you were in a routine and that person isn't there anymore. But with some re-focus on yourself and priorities it gets a bit better every day. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:50:49 AM | Second time around try THREE...first time after we were apart for a year.. he left me for a deaf ballarina who offed herself in his garage...(you can't make this stuff up) Yes I have a soft heart WHAT???.That lasted all of what?...three months.
Cut to eight years later he had just divorced wife number three ..(ya you know!!!)
That time we lasted a whole year and a half even woohoo! Twenty-two years Yep I still think we have one more try in there someplace!
Never take a THIRD bite of a chit sanwich | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 9:15:41 AM | I did and it was very helpful to our children.
My exwife and I divorced and while I was away in my "new life" so to speak, she ended up having a baby with someone else. After two years of being her ex-husband we decided to get back together and I adopted her little girl. It was the best thing that could have ever happen for the girl as well as me because I love being her Daddy.
My exwife and I are divorced again (the second time around never works), but this time we are friends instead of just ex's and that is very important if there are children
involved.
If you have kids, give it a shot, but put your best foot forward and try to make it work.
Bob
Jonesport, Me
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:28:54 AM | | No children here~ maybe in the future. But for now life isnt that great~ The thing is she is still with the new guy she met. I guess im just having hope that one day well back togather. Also, do you guys think this is for real or emotional attachment. I mean after 7 years could she really get over me that quick?? I know that she wanted that emotional stuf but i guess i wansnt always lovey dovey with her. and now that she can get it from this guy shes with him.....I dont know whats going on. what do yall say? | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:46:36 AM | yes, he got ahold of me from being in ohio for 3 yrs right before I was getting married, was I knocked for a loop... got ahold of him he came to see me and then went to see him we both thought it was love again but boy oh boy I do not know what happen but we just stopped talking and I got married and now he is married again , but if I got the chance to see hom again  ,,,does anyone know this feeling?? have u tried to forget ur real first love and he keeps coming up in ur mind?? let me know this question thanks for listining to me  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:22:01 PM | I did once.. Worst 3 years I ever went thru. I told her we'd try one more time if she'd go to Marriage Counceling with me.
I ended up reading books for my Marriage counceling that she bought for me. Her anger never subsided. And toward the end of the 3 years a friend told me that a man told him that she asked him to join him in her bed.
My friend was wondering if I had an open relationship. I guess the Divorce proved to my friends that I wasn't into open relationships. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:25:48 PM | Nevah.....
Ok, this one time, I did....because, seriously the guy could kiss and then after a couple of days the alarm went on and it was like "DING" OHHHH, THAT'S why I couldn't hang out with him anymore!" DOH! Yeah...I have that "no ex's" rule....and now I hold fast to it!! | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:31:59 PM | Indigo...LOL I have been on this thing forever reading post and even once in a great while I even spout off a time or two...but damn I sure get a kick out of your post at times.
I wouldn't recommend it twice...not sure I recommend men and women living together the first time...LOL but hey I'm a sucker living in a nightmare.... | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:45:43 PM | NEVER GO BACK! You broke up for a reason! Move forward...
All these posters are right....it eventually becomes the same ol crap you dealt with before.
I just made this mistake and have left the relationship, never to return. OMG...what a mistake!
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:53:27 PM | | In my language we have a saying "never lick where u spited" (is not applicable for sex). And hey...there r plenty of fishes. Why to try something u already had? :) | |
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