| Im bad at talking
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:40:33 AM | im realy good at watching people and understang them. but i have a realy hard time talking to anyone overall. im realy smart but my jumbled thoughts make me sound like i dont know whats going on.
Do you know of a way to make me look as smart as i am. (id dont mean fassion)
what would make you think "That guy know what hes talking about"? | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 4/24/2007 1:09:36 PM | I think someone posted something similar about talking to people.
They said something about classes that you could take to learn to speak to people. You are not the only one who gets tongue tied when speaking to people, phone the college or look in the yellow pages maybe there is something that will help.
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:07:30 PM | | I'm very assertive and outgoing but I can get tongue tied as well and things come out jumbled when I feel shy. I don't get shy often but when I do my words get jumbled and I get embarrassed and I stumble with the words even more. It can be quite unnerving. As for help for this, I'm not sure. I'm usually fairly articulate and I absolutely hate it when I talk like a moron. | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:42:23 PM | | what would make me think you were smart? how about we start with being able to spell simple words 5th graders can tackle. i mean seriously.. did you just say you were smart and then misspell really and fashion? | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:48:06 PM | | You and me need to talk on the phone for a few hours. I'll break you of the jumbled-word syndrome, lol. | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 4/24/2007 6:13:53 PM | | Have to agree with turtlewax, although she obviously doesn't realize they went over capitalization in third grade. From your post you don't seem all that smart. But to answer your question, if you have trouble talking to people, try joining Toastmasters or another public speaking group and try talking to people you run into, like the bank teller, the grocery clerk and what not. Once you get used to talking to complete strangers and develop some more speaking skills it won't be as hard when you meet someone you like. | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 5/2/2007 12:48:52 AM | | As TurtleWax and wpg_chick_84 were saying. I do have the language skills of a 2nd grader. (also wpg_chick_84 its TurtleWax not turtlewax, since you are so keen on capitalization). It's frustrating to see people make fun of me because I can't spell or talk right. Somtimes people who speak the same language as me say "I can't understand you". I am smart in the ways of Math, Science and, Logic. Just not English and Writing. | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 5/2/2007 4:38:14 AM | That's ok, just run all your stuff thru spellcheck for mistakes and then post...not all are great at it, but there's plenty of places to get help with it, if you want to give a better impression.
As for talking, when it comes to women, you really can't be bad at it - take a public speaking class or get into something like sales, consulting or seminars/workshops where you have to talk constantly around people, you'll get past it. It's mostly something that's just in your head and it's definitely something you can overcome. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 7:57:29 AM | Just a little heads up for all the IQ meter measures in the thread that think the size of the word you can spell is directly proportional to the number of neurons firing in someone’s grey matter
two words..
WAY
and
WRONG!
Many of the world most intellectually gifted past and present couldn't spell there way out of a grade 5 spelling bee.. in fact many genius level IQ's have problems with school in general.. This because education is tailored to fit the average person with average horse power between the ears.. all those people with tricked out bain matter just don't fit in the basic construct of that is our education system... Spelling is not an indicator of weather some is Low or High IQ... more likely its a great indicator of someone’s averageness.. (new word)
and for those that say "for the love of god spell check"..for many this is irrelevant for reason I’m getting into here..
Final wisdom
*high horseus dismountmaxus* | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:49:58 AM |
in fact many genius level IQ's have problems with school in general.. This because education is tailored to fit the average person with average horse power between the ears.. all those people with tricked out bain matter just don't fit in the basic construct of that is our education system...
Actually, the education systems in North America are designed to turn potentially intelligent people into people who become subservient and dependant to the socialist state. The more you make the population stupid, the easier it is to convince them that laws that control and restrict freedoms are good for them. Don't believe me? Look up a 20/20 documentary by John Stossel entitled: "Stupid in America: How we cheat our kids".
Kids who first enter public school do quite well on the international standardized tests, but by the time they reach high school, we fall way behind. There is one example of an 18 year old who can't even spell his own name, and the schoold did nothing to help him. We spend so much on education, but it's all a waste. Public schools spend up to $10-12k a year per student where some private schools get significantly better results with only $3k a year per student. In Europe, money is tied to the children so students can go where they want to, as opposed to being told where they are designated to go. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 9:29:09 AM | defaultname105, my heart goes out to you. It's so frustrating to know that there is a neat person locked inside and no way to let others see.
I have a friend exactly like you. He is a recognized authority in his field, but he is only comfortable when he is giving lectures or demonstrations in his own arena of expertise.
This is what his therapist recommended: Find a practice partner. Read a newspaper or magazine article, a book, or watch a tv program or movie, and then discuss it with your practice partner.
We have been at it for about 4 months and he is getting so much better with his communication skills.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 9:33:20 AM | | I find that once you admit this to the people you are talking to it become easier to converse. It gets easier if you try to speak up a little more each time as well. | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 5/2/2007 9:43:18 AM | Off topic:
Don't believe me? Look up a 20/20 documentary by John Stossel entitled: "Stupid in America: How we cheat our kids".
Don't believe me? Look up a 20/20 documentary by John Stossel entitled: "Stupid in America: How we cheat our kids".
Great study, reading the latest John Stossel book currently - there are a lot of things that the American public tend to blindy buy into.
OT: I suggested spell check for impression, even if it's irrelevant to the author (which is obvious) the person reading what he sends/posts would be more impressed (or less aware). | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:15:35 AM | | I'm going to assume that you are referring to talking to women. The best advice I heard was to just act like your not interested just act normal, like you were talking to a friend or your sister. I'm kinda the same way, I can speak pretty eloquently but put me near a pretty girl and for some reason I can't formulate sentences. Its mostly cause I'm over analyzing things. "Whats she gonna think?" "Whats she thinking right now?" blah blah blah. You should go into it thinking "I don't care what she thinks." I tend to just keep telling myself "**** it." and just talk like she was a friend of mine and we've been hanging out forever. Cause women don't want to see you when you're trying to be macho they want to see the real you. One of those "Act like yourself" kinda things. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 11:27:35 AM | You just have to be yourself...If it is right between you and someone else then they are not going to care that you jumble your words. She might just think it's sweet and cute because she can see that you are nervous.
Most of the men I have corresponded with on here don't spell correctly. I usually type too fast and then do not read what I have typed before I send it. I think it's more of a "guy" thing. | |
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| Im bad at talking
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:46:19 AM |
It's frustrating to see people make fun of me because I can't spell or talk right. Somtimes people who speak the same language as me say "I can't understand you". I am smart in the ways of Math, Science and, Logic. Just not English and Writing.
At least you understand that you have a disability in this area. That's the first step towards improvement.
I agree with many of the posts here. As far as writing, spell check and proof reading are your friends. To improve at conversation you need to practice a lot. Do you have some friends you can enlist to help you practice? Perhaps you can role play with them. For example, have a friend role play a woman in a store, museum, or library that you might want to approach and talk to. It will get easier with practice but it may take a lot of practice.
Good luck to you. | |
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