| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:34:20 PM | I have never been able to appreciate music. As a child, the only times I was exposed to music were in situations that had a negative context, such as being forced to sing at school or camp.
I do not hate music, I merely do not care for it. I see it as a useful tool in cinema for establishing mood or creating suspense, but in the real world it is a distracting waste.
Without bashing me or telling me how weird I am, believe me I have heard enough of that, are there any females that can accept this fact? It has been one of my biggest limitations in finding a match so far.
Also, are there any other people out there with similar views about music? Googling around only yielded results that Freude (the psychologist) had a distaste for music. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:39:55 PM | Is it possible that your "distaste" in music is making you judge those of us who do love music before you even give them a chance?
Do you automatically think that someone who loves music cannot in turn love you, therefore sabotaging your relationship before it's ever given the chance?
It is weird to me yes, but that does not mean that it will be weird to someone else. Don't make it your "biggest limitation" and it won't be. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:45:12 PM | no, I don't believe that is the case. I have been in one relationship that lasted more than a year, and she was really into music.
I don't mind when others listen to music (although I do need to be able to concentrate when working so there are times when I can't have it around me) it's just that awkwardness when striking up a conversation and the question inevitably comes up: "So what music do you like?" | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 1:01:03 PM | If someone asks what music you like say the music of the world. Could lead into a very interesting conversation.
By music of the world I mean, the wind through the trees, people talking, birds, dogs, any sound that happens on a day to day bases. Some people prefer noises of the world to actual music.
Are you one of these people who enjoy the music of life?
real
Maybe I am weird.
anyhoo jmo | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 1:16:29 PM |
the wind through the trees, people talking, birds, dogs, any sound that happens on a day to day bases. Some people prefer noises of the world to actual music. Very good answer! I'll have to remember that one because it does fit very well. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 1:22:47 PM | You mean that you don't really find any enjoyment in music at all? Wow, I don't know what that would be like. Music is medicine for the ears. It can really help you get though some hard times. I'm sure there must be some kind of music you can enjoy. Have you been exposed to many different types?
Anyway, I don't see why someone wouldn't want to be with someone because they don't enjoy music like they do. Just as long as you don't get mad every time she listens to it. Which I'm sure you don't. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:10:07 PM | | I dated a guy once who didn't care for music. He never played it at home (e.g. he'd inherited an amazing collection of old jazz albums from his father, but they were all packed up and he'd never even taken them out to listen to them) and didn't particularly care for going out to hear live music, or that I played music in my own home when he was around (i.e. he found it distracting, he'd say). It was awkward for me because I pretty much have some sort of music or other playing most of the time, playing it first thing in the morning as I'm getting ready for work and then even falling asleep to it at night. I love a wide range of stuff and consider myself a bit of a music fiend. I guess what I'm trying to say is that you're not alone. There are indeed others out there who are disinterested in music. I don't know if I'd call it "weird". I'm not sure that it's something that I could adapt to in a partner, though, since I generally really enjoy discussing and exploring/sharing music with others. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:14:24 PM | To answer your question honestly, I would have to say if a man was apathetic about music, even tho I could appreciate him as a person, I would not be able to have a relationship with him if he continually told me to turn my music off.
I sing, I dance, I listen to music all day, everyday...so I'd have to say, no way could I have a mutually satisfying relationship with any man, that wasn't touched by music. It's too much who I am and it's in my blood.
Even when you lose some hearing as we age, music stays audible and pleasing.
The only kinda racket (notice I did not call it music)I will NOT tolerate is those thump-thump gangsta mobiles that just grates on ya. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 3:06:28 PM | | OP, I'm right there with you. But for me, it isn't just music. People that leave their t.v. on 24 hrs. a day drive me up a wall. When I have been exposed to music or t.v. chattering for more than a couple of hours, it is almost a physical relief to get away to somewhere quiet. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:57:26 PM | If you are fine listening it to it a little bit wihout being annoyed, it's fine with me. It all depends in the kind of girl you are looking for. If you want a fun girl, it will be difficult because most fun girls like music. Music involves dancing and.. Just fun! I understand that you do not enjoy it, just like I do not enjoy cleaning.
Everyone is different, I think many girls would understand that if you are a nice guy. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/1/2007 1:13:53 PM | Wow.....at this time and place in my life it would be a stretch....as I would much rather listen to music than watch TV....as a matter of fact my TV goes for days without being turned on but I listen to some form of music every day, sometimes several times a day, or even all day....when I was younger I was very shy and very introverted and would never have thought about dancing but after taking country western dance lessons and swing lessons...today I love to dance..I think about dancing all of the time...smile...I am the first one out there on the dance floor...and have a blast while dancing...some days when I am walking (I walk about 5 miles a day) I stop and do a little jig...or practice my steps...smile...I love to listen to music while cooking our evening meal...all the while dancing a jig...If I found a man who l loved who didn't experience the same joy I have for dancing and music...it would have to be one of those things that he would have to endure about me...hopefully in time..he will learn to love music and/or dance also...or at least come along and watch me dance...smile. I have dated guys who don't like a certain type of music and just refrain from playing that type of music while around him.....or if the guy truly just couldn't stand hearing music...I would just listen to my earphones...and go to dances myself.
Have you considered that perhaps your dislike for music is because as you said the music you were exposed to when you were young was negative? I am so sorry that it has limited you in your search for a match....Does it bother you when others play music in your presence? Can you be tolerant of music? No one should bash you or tell you that you are weird...as you are not. Happiness and peace to you. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:30:56 AM | | I have absolutely no interest in listening to the radio. When I listen to music, I have a hard time listening to "variety". Generally my mood determines what I listen to. When I need fast and aggressive, I put on Megadeth, when I need something more '80s I put on Stormwitch. Nightwish goes on when I want to hear the contrast between heavy/fast and female vocals, and Hammerfall when I want the power metal feel. When I'm angry and need to release some tension, Sevendust goes on. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:46:02 AM | I am not a big music person either.
If my radio is on in my truck, it's tuned to the sports station.
My favorite band is Metallica, but they have wussed out as of late, so I listen to their old stuff once in a while. When I say once in a while maybe 3-4 songs a month!
My brother is in a band, great guitar player. He plays Tragically Hip tunes. I'm not into that at all, but I will go see him play once in a while.
If I listen to music on my computer, I find myself downloading tracks from movies or even video games to listen to once in a while...
I hear ya OP, some people just don't understand, and almost look at you funny. Kind of like the ppl who look at you funny when you tell them you don't drink... | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:51:28 AM | When I was younger I didn't like to listen to most music, I found it too overwhelming, too emotionally stirring: upsetting. Most of it depressed me, even music that is supposed to be happy or even relaxing. I am still strongly affected by music sometimes and although I am usually okay with some background music, I enjoy silence most of the time. I tend to listen to the radio and a random mix of music more frequently than choosing an album to listen to and I'd suggest that to you too because listening to the radio has helped me find the bands and types of music that I can enjoy.
Music is an art, it is only a waste as much as poetry, painting, dance, any form of sport, entertainment or art. Objectively, one could say all these things are a waste because a person does not physically need these things in their life. And we won't all even be able to appreciate all of them. I cannot appreciate football, for example, but I know it brings a lot of people a lot of pleasure and enriches their lives in some way, and music is a similar thing. I don't rave about music, if I had no CDs or MP3s I'd not really care, but there are certain songs that have great sentimental value to me because music triggers memory and emotion in a different and more intense way than mere sound or lyrics. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/2/2007 10:39:37 AM | Being a DJ and having played music for people for the last 20+ years, it's very strange to me that someone wouldn't like any type of music at all. Having your own preference I get, but to enjoy none of it? It is kind of unusual.
Naturally since about 85% of my life revolves around music, I can't really see dating someone who doesn't like or relate to it. | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/2/2007 1:51:07 PM | | ofcourse, rather that than having his own taste unless its exactly as mine, that way it would be my music playing all the time n not his(if he had bad taste) not that it would matter anyway, he wouldnt be listenin to it near me anyway LOL | |
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| Can any females appreciate a male with no musical interests?
Posted: 5/2/2007 6:32:06 PM | | I can relate to not liking music. It is not that i do not like it, it is just that it is not really that important to me. A few shops i worked at, there were different guys that all had to have their radios on their own music. Drove me nuts. I would rather listen to nothing or the noise of a busy shop than 5 radios all on a different stations. A few dates that i was on in the past asked me why i did not turn on my radio. I said because i wanted to have a nice conversation with them without being distracted. One woman told me i was weird, and then turned on my radio. I could not believe it. | |
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