| | Will putting our best pics get the best matchPage 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Hello, I was thinking that if a person is attracted because of your pic. How will they be after they see you at your worst? Being 54 I think that posting a pic that shows me at my worst is wise. That way if they like me then. They will be even more pleased when they see my best. What do you think?
Are you looking to attract some one by your physical attributes? I am not. Nor am I interested in a man solely or mainly because of that. Think about it. What are you looking for? Maybe some can shed some more light on this topic for me? Thanks | |
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 3:11:33 PM | I believe, for me, I always want to put my best foot forward. Yes, I will get sick or not wear makeup or wakeup with bad breath, hair a mess and the like but why would I not want to look my best at ALL times...not for men but for me. It is important to me to look my best, not to just attract men, I want to take pride in myself for me.
This all said, I do agree with you LadydragonInada, I want the man to accept me for me so hence in my profile I explain I am overwieght and do not lie about my short comings, then there are no surprises. I am trying to take care of me the best way I know how and if the man cannot accept me now 40 or 50 pounds overwieght after I just lost over 100 pounds to bad for him. I feel great I look ok and I am doing the best I can. NO, if the man cannot accept me for me the good bad and the ugly.
HIS LOSS!
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 3:30:39 PM | I think posting a picture at our worst is not wise.The photo we choose for our profile can make or break our dating chances. So, why wouldn't we want to put our best face forward? When I go out in public, I try to look my best, most of the time Well, this is as public as you can get.
Some pictures on profiles say a thousand words when I see them.
Some pictures I question and I just mumble a few words under my breath.
Other pictures that I see, say more than any words could.
I'm not looking to attract someone by my physical attributes either. But, I want someone who sees my picture and my written profile and is intrigued enough to contact me.
So, if we post a natural looking shot that is current...(isn't blurry), looking comfortable in our surroundings with a smile or friendly face, I'm betting chances are better that we will be contacted and meet with them.
When the relationship progresses is when we can show them our ugly side
Muskoka
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:24:41 PM | I tend to shy away from cameras when I am looking my worst.
But if someone sneaks up on me and takes a picture at those times,
it never makes it to my computer. 
I would think putting a picture like that on a dating site would make the viewer say,
Wow! she looks like that in a picture she has posted on a dating site,
what does she look like when she first wakes up ? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 4:29:23 PM | If you post a glam shot and show up on a date normal, isn't that considered a bait and switch?
Post a glam shot if you like, but also post an everyday shot or two as well.
Put your best foot forward on your main pic, then add a few more in varying degrees of average.
And for all of you who are rushing to check my pics....do as I say, not as I do...k? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 4:29:36 PM | I prefer to present myself the way I look the majority of the time. In the online dating world, your photograph is the first part of your profile the viewer will notice. Your photo, your tagline, and a few lines of text are all that is visible in the initial search. IMO, the goal is to draw in the viewer, not repel them. A photograph means squat when it comes to finding the right match, but it IS an integral part of the initial “hello” process that opens the door to finding the right match.
I am using POF as a tool to help me meet my life mate, not to make a statement about the true love that should dwell within the hearts of all mankind. I wholeheartedly agree with the sentiment “that it’s what’s on the inside that counts the most”. Unfortunately, virtual reality isn’t based in Elysium. | |
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:35:02 PM | Lets face it...MOST people only look at your picture. Not all...but most. I try to have several pictures on my profile so give guys an idea as to what I look like. I know when I"m looking at a guy's profile that has several pics, I usually pick out the worst one....and go according to how that one looks. If I like it, I read on..it not...I usually pass. I'm shallow like that.
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:42:24 PM | So what is the consensus here?
Headshots, full body shots, good, bad and average? That's 5. I suppose thats where all the cats and motorcylces come from.
When I look at pics I just look for those computer cam ones, where there are at least two taken within minutes, in very similar poses. Then I play my profile game, clicking back and forth to get that cheesy animation effect. Makes EVERYONE look silly and I have a ball with it. | |
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:06:06 PM | | On another site I tried the best and worst route... the few who solved my cipher and wrote to me didn't seem to be scared away. (or maybe they were just curious if there were actually two people pictured!) LOL | |
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:49:18 PM | I believe we should put pictures that show different looks.
When I am playing ball, my hair is pulled through the back of my ball cap and why would I wear makeup if I am merely going to sweat it off?
When I wake up next to that special someone, of course I am going to look rumpled, but isn't that moderately sexy?
Full body shots seem to be a must to compliment the face shots online though, so I would suggest a few of those.
We all look good, bad and in between at any given time to any given person.
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Posted: 4/24/2007 5:52:23 PM | It's best to be real. Present yourself as you are...although we often see ourselves differently than others do. Inflated or deflated egos can play a large part in that.
I don't think posting our best pics will get us the best match. It may attract some attention...good and bad. It may get the ball rolling...but it's your personality that will make or break the possbility of a great match.
I've heard from friends that they haven't contacted a woman because she looked "too pretty" in her picture. Why would they be interested in a Joe Blow like me?
Just be real. Eventually you'll get past all the ones who think you're too tall, too shoort, too fat, too skinny, hair's too short, hair's too long, wearing too much make-up, wearing too little make-up (these were all responses to ME) and you'll discover someone who thinks you're just right. | |
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:59:45 PM | | I think it's rediculous to post a 'glamour shot' type picture... they are over the top and not likely that you'd ever look that way again, but you should post a pic of what you would look like going out on a date. I'd hope you wouldn't go as 'your worst' on a date. | |
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 6:37:42 PM |
It's best to be real. Present yourself as you are...although we often see ourselves differently than others do. ...but it's your personality that will make or break the possbility of a great match.
Just be real. Eventually you'll get past all the ones who think you're too tall, too shoort, too fat, too skinny, hair's too short, hair's too long, wearing too much make-up, wearing too little make-up (these were all responses to ME) and you'll discover someone who thinks you're just right.
I am putting my best face forward & using my best pic. How does one catch a beau? by looking fugly??? NO!!!! | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 7:59:15 PM | Although I do agree with your ideas, OP, I do find one basic error in your logic. And that's that most of the known world realize that pictures put up in any profile-type thing are going to be 'best pictures' of that person. It's a natural human tendency to portray ourselves in the best possible way and with exceptions of excessive vanity, I think it's a general consensus that this is done by everyone and it's OK. So when you put a picture up that is not your best, your whole 'internet image' is taken down a notch, as people will believe that it is your best picture. And I really don't see any sense in doing this, other than a wish for self-sabatoge, which I don't believe is your intention.
Other than meeting and contacting people through the forums, the only other mechanism on this site for meeting new people is through the profile picture. From seeing a picture on the matches page, prospective contacts will then read a profile, and if interest remains, contact is made. And if interest still remains after that, the ball continues to roll to (hopefully) the first meeting, then eventually a relationship. And all this is generated originally from someone looking at your main profile picture on their 'Matches' page. Since everyone knows that main profile pictures are generally 'the best' picture that a person has, it makes no sense (to me) to not post it this way. If you really want people to also see your more 'natural' side, you can always do as an earlier post suggested ... put up a second picture in your profile that shows you this way.
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| Will putting our best pics get the best match over 45?
Posted: 4/24/2007 9:50:33 PM | | there seems to be so much self criticism that goes on that doesn't feel too uplifting , and it flows much too easily. i think it is crap and i think it is time to learn to really truly be on our own sides and rally for ourselves, and of course find all the beauty and power within us. i have a wee camera in this macbook and have had a hoot taking photo's of me. i have not ever been very photogenic, i have gotten nervous with a camera in my face and have taken pretty much only pics i didn't like. (eyes half shut, looking terrified and strange) but with this feature the pic shows up already like 4x6 or smaller on the screen and i can frame it and light it the way i want. i take a whole bunch and then edit out every single one i don't like. the process has been a way for me to relax in front of the camera and take shots i like. out of 30 shots i might like 5 a few more or less depending and edit out all the others. it has been empowering on many levels. i have worried that if a guy met me in person he would only see the face of all the ones i edited out. but this isn't true. i am beautiful on the inside and it shows from time to time. ever see a film where one of the characters wasn't so drop dead only to be ever so enamored with them by the end? i think good actors let all the sides of them show and i think we all have that too. everyone has moments thru the spectrum. wrinkles, pimples, strange hairs, food stuck and the other person doesn't know, bags under the eyes, crappy hair day and all of that. but we are alive and our light shines thru no matter what. so, uh no, don't post a picture you think is ugly, no need. post the ones you like of yourself, i'd say. | |
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