| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 9:58:11 PM | So I received a message on POF and a new link in red appeared where you can add a person to a Do Not Date List.
I think this could be abused, but it's also needed in some cases as there are some people on the system who really shouldn't be but isn't that what the Report a Profile is for?
This is what it says exactly:
This list of "Men who not to date" is being shared with 52 of your girlfriends and you have access their do not date lists. Add more women to your favorites to access their "Do not date list". When you get a message from anyone on these lists there will be a warning displayed on top of the message.
Why shouldn't women date **********?__________ Add to List
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:03:15 PM | Any idea what it actually DOES?
I wonder if it just adds them to your own personal list of who isn't a match, or if people will end up with some sort of rating based on who's decided they're "undateable"?
EDIT: hehe... I see the rest of the message now. Still, like you said... isn't that what the report a profile link is for? | |
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:05:58 PM | Isn't this a little bit a bias type of opinion? Mind you have yet met a guy here, where I would use this feature for. Maybe I am just lucky, but most of my meeting experiences (I haven't dated anyone yet) were very good.
Are they going to add "To be dated list" too? | |
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~Dew
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Joined: 10/20/2006
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:09:07 PM | Oy vay ... lately everyday there's some sort of new kitchy thing on POF. Some new features have value, some I find a pain in the ass but I honestly don't think any good can come from this. I'd hate to see it used the wrong way.
I wonder what the rationale behind it is - what would BE the value?
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Posted: 4/27/2007 10:18:23 PM | ^^^ I think that there was a lot of requests to be able to say who is not particularily "dateable"... especially from the women. I suppose this is the way to tell your friends that this dude is a creep - without publicly broadcasting it.
I suppose it could be a useful feature, if you were able to indicate why the dude wasn't dateable (ie stalker, momma's boy, etc)
I wanna hear if the guys have something like this tho...
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:20:52 PM |
I suppose it could be a useful feature, if you were able to indicate why the dude wasn't dateable (ie stalker, momma's boy, etc)
....player, ex-con, bi-curious, Dorito-breath, small hands.......ai yai yai....
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~Dew
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Joined: 10/20/2006
Msg: 7 | |
| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:21:14 PM | It's pretty subjective though. Who isn't date-able for me may very well be for someone else. Who am I to put them on a "do not date" list. I wouldn't consider this new feature a plus to the site.
OE - who's to say the women would use this honestly? Ha! | |
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/27/2007 10:25:58 PM | I think that the object is to weed out the truly undateable ones... the psychos and stalkers... not necessarily the ones that dumped a chick and so she has a hate-on for him...
I can see admin's goal, and it is thoughtful and I'm sure it's been initiated with the best of intentions, but like everything, it will likely get abused.
It also boils down to knowing the people who have you on their faves. If you get a message from any random dude, but one of your friends has put him on a do-not-date alert, then you get a note in the message ~ but if none of your friends have had anything bad to say about him, then you won't know either way.
Good and bad - but huge potential for abuse. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 6:58:40 AM | Sexisism at its best, in the rules it says you cant exclude men/women from threads and such but here we have a feature ONLY for woman.
So now a scorned woman that a guy dropped can get all her gf to write bad stuff about this guy.
How about a feature for the guys to see if a woman is a tart or easy or waste of cash .
HELL have no fury
like a woman scorned.
Stupidest feature ever.
Reminds me of the story in the news a couple months back about this woman in B.C. that got dumped for another woman so she put his picture up on flyers in his town saying he is a child molestor.
Or the two girls in Manitoba that went on some chat line and pretended they are a english teacher that failed them. They went on there and posted realy bad stuff.
The only way someone can say they like this feature is if your trying to score BROWNIE points with the boss here. | |
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/28/2007 8:04:58 AM | not right for you doesn't mean not right for anyone else
whatever happened to just plain old incompatible
the psychos and stalkers were already reportable
if it's really scary, call the local p[olice department
and I am supposing that if these women are really people you respect and like, they have other means of contacting you...like calling you or actually seeing you | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:23:42 AM | There is enormous potential for abuse with this new feature. What if a woman was turned down by a guy, and is just trying to get back at him? What if one person's idea of a bad date (why does that sound like a harlot's description of a John???) is completely different from another person's?
What I want to know is why there seems to be a double standard here for the new feature. Why aren't the men allowed to share the same information about women with their "guy" friends??? There certainly must be a fair number of women who would be considered "bad dates" as well, why can't the men on the site share that information too??
On paper, this idea sort of sounds good at first glance, but I think that since we already have the option to report someone's profile, block their e-mails etc., that this is sort of redundant.
The friends that we have on the site are probably already communicating any bad experiences with each other, after all isn't that why we add them to our favorites list??
I think this is really opening a can of worms here, and not the red wiggler kind for fishing either!!
If a lot of men are already hesitant to send a message, this will just drive the decent ones away. They won't know how a message will be perceived, and won't want to risk getting "blacklisted" because of some new feature that just screams ABUSE.
I vote for removal of this feature!!!
just my 2 cents worth.
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:30:36 AM | Even on paper, this idea looks crazy! I'm actually surprised it's still up and running.
Every now and then I think I should really get more serious about meeting someone and then things like this make me not able to take this site seriously. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:45:38 AM | Trueblueredhead when you ask about the "why guys cant have this " well it's the male ego thing. First thing most men do filling out our profiles is to check off no men to contact us. Call it homophobia or whatever. Women tend to chat and meet new friends easier. With guys its different. So very few guys will ever have another guy on their favourites list.
Hell trying to help a friend here earlier had me banned for a bit and peed on by some so for that reason i now can be on 50 "bad dates" lists.
This feature screams out "ABUSE ME". | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 9:17:15 AM | Did a bit of research last night... and I have a total of 8 girls on my favorites and I am on 3 girls favorites...
All of the girls whose favorites list I'm on, I would either converse with on a fairly regular basis or am not even in the same geographic area.
Seems to me that this feature is a bit silly...
If admin wanted my opinion - lose it. Not worth the time it took to create. | |
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/28/2007 9:31:45 AM | I don't know - I would totally trust the opinions of my girlfriends when it comes to online dating. You just never know who's out there. I have my friends on my favourites list and I would want to warn them too.
Better safe than sorry.
Testimonials are for the good dates - if you part friends, write him a great testimonial so the other girls know he's a great guy, even if he wasn't the one for you. | |
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/28/2007 9:34:06 AM |
HELL have no fury
like a woman scorned.
Actually it's "Hell hath no fury..."
And as a woman I take exception to your attitude. I don't totally disagree with your stance that the new 'feature' is unnecessary but I cannot pretend to identify with either disgruntled teens or someone who is obviously not in charge of her faculties.
We are not, Mr Limo, all psychotic ovary containers waiting for the first opportunity to disparage any man that might displease us. | |
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/28/2007 9:41:45 AM | The women on my favorite list are there for a reason......... I consider them friends. If I, should go on a date, or chat with someone I FEEL is a creep, you can bet I will alert all of my friends.
This feature is unnecessary, and I agree with most of the posters..... It has huge abuse potential.... and though some may not abuse it, some WILL. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 9:43:32 AM | | So what the admin is saying there is just a problem with the guys on this site but the women are all great and very wonderful and dateable...well I have some news for them. A feature that singles out one sex for critizing and general gossip between people is a form of prejudice no matter how you try to justify it or explain it. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 11:34:28 AM | I have to agree with most of the posts in this thread,
but it always comes down to the same thing...
Yes, SOME people will abuse it, but for the ladies
it may be a necessary evil... I have heard some pretty
bad stories from girl FRIENDS of mine on this system.
Women, unfortunately, have to be extra careful on here.
The other thing is... I tend to believe in the good in people,
and that means that I trust people to do the right thing.
So... as far as the abuse thing is concerned, as they say...
"The cream will rise to the top"... and good people will
not have to worry about this. No worries.
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| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/28/2007 12:05:32 PM | If a woman has a bad date or she "dated" some guy that turned out to be creepy then why hide and just talk behind their backs? Why not put the "bad" experience in their testimonials? After all if they go out on a date would they not be on each others favourite list.
Face reality most [not all!!!!] men get in a beef or have a bad date they want to settle it and be done with it. On the other hand and you have God's best creation ever and that is women. These beautiful, delicate creatures are what makes mens knees buckle.
But women tend to be more vindictive when it comes to being dumped. When a guy gets dumped he gets over it and trys to move on but try dumping certain women and you will see the vengance lol
POF should look at the Charter of Rights before some jerk lodges a complaint with the Human Rights. In a public place [ free forums included] it is ilegal to favour one sex over the other. To avoid the charge pof must get rid of this feature OR offer it to men also.
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D_rail
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Joined: 1/14/2007
Msg: 25 | |
| New Feature - Do Not Date List
Posted: 4/28/2007 12:42:39 PM | Ok, this is the first I have heard of this feature so I have some questions: Can any woman put any guy on her "Do Not Date" list? I'm hoping that the woman and man must have at least had some form of contact??? Can a woman just look at a pic, or read some guys profile and make that decision and then add him to that list?
Is there some sort of feature that would let the guy know he'd been placed on that list? and by whom?
If you're not going to let someone know that you (and your list of friends) think that so - and - so is a smuck; you're not giving that person the opportunity to (possibly) make changes.
I agree with what several people have said already, I see too much potential for abuse of this idea . . .
Just my two cents. | |
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