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 lady_chance_99
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 1
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Okay, so I have tried everything I know, I have heard, and everything I could imagine to get this guy to come off head. Its not working. I have asked for advice from friends, I have tried everything and its not working. Since we haven't had sex it seems kind of pointless to give him head when he's not going to get off. Then the worst part happens, he doesn't do anything about it! No jerking off, no letting me jerk him off- nothing he just suffers with blue balls! Ever heard of guys not being able to come off head and any advice? (besides have sex) Oh, and on a side note- he's never been able to get off like that, with any girl, not just me. He gets close too- like she should be... but he doesn't... HELP!
 saucybutsweet
Joined: 4/23/2007
Msg: 2
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:21:04 PM
Some guys just cant. I think some may think its "dirty" or they cant concentrate enough to complete the act. Sme jsut prefer to have sex. Or he may have some problems ejectulating and should see a urologist. I can recommend a few. Its hard to sayy..lolol..no pun intended..Did you ask him?
 §püngl䧧
Joined: 3/6/2007
Msg: 3
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:26:16 PM
Some men just don't get off with oral sex alone.. The main thing is, don't make it YOUR problem. It's kind of hard to deal with, but rather than focusing on the end result, focus instead on the pleasure you're giving him, and use it as part of your foreplay instead.
 TheWorldIsMyPlayground
Joined: 4/5/2007
Msg: 4
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:29:15 PM
Not getting off on head alone doesn't sound so abnormal, but him not letting you jerk him sounds a bit odd. I know this seems obvious, but have you asked him what he'd suggest?
 lady_chance_99
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 5
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:32:17 PM
Well to answer the question of have I asked him, yes I have. He said ; "I just haven't ever been able to. One of my first girlfriends would get me close and never let me finish..." I am starting to wonder if that could have caused a sort of mental block. Thats what one of my friends suggested as well.
 lady_chance_99
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 6
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:34:25 PM
What he suggests is to suffer. So now I am refusing to get off if he won't this is becoming a little tedious.
 TheWorldIsMyPlayground
Joined: 4/5/2007
Msg: 7
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:39:52 PM

What he suggests is to suffer.


Ok, watch out for this guy. I'm guessing, after reading your "no sex" comments, that he's just using this "suffer" talk in an attempt to guilt you into having sex with him.
 lady_chance_99
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 8
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:43:25 PM
I wish it were that simple... see here's the whole story- we have been friends for a long while and we always fooled around. I was the one who suggested we have sex and he said no because he thinks it would cross our boundries. I know it sounds crazy but its been like this for years. We have always fooled around and never had sex. Its like some line we just don't cross. So Now I am kind of at a cross roads ya know? I don't see the point in giving head if he's not going to get off and we aren't having sex... Thanks for looking out for me though.
 forums84
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 9
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:44:46 PM

Ever heard of guys not being able to come off head and any advice? (besides have sex)

Yes, some guys do have difficulty coming off head. It might not be possible for him, but if this is something you must do, here's a bit of advice. Try to apply more pressure if you can, also try to focus on the head especially the area where the head meets the shaft.


Then the worst part happens, he doesn't do anything about it! No jerking off, no letting me jerk him off

Have you suggested it to him? If you did but he refuses, why not jerk him off while giving him head?
 lady_chance_99
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 10
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:51:10 PM
(quote)Have you suggested it to him? If you did but he refuses, why not jerk him off while giving him head? (/quote)
Tried jerking him off while giving him head, also tried to focus on the head and that little spot- nada. Thanks for the try though...
 forums84
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 11
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 5:52:41 PM
Oops, I missed a few of your posts.


I was the one who suggested we have sex and he said no because he thinks it would cross our boundries.

Does he think sex would be crossing You'r boundaries? Or does he have other reasons, this sounds like something you two should discuss.


I don't see the point in giving head if he's not going to get off and we aren't having sex.

You're putting a lot of effort into this? Is he? Does he spend as much time trying to make you orgasm from oral sex?
 lady_chance_99
Joined: 2/28/2006
Msg: 12
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 6:03:31 PM

You're putting a lot of effort into this? Is he? Does he spend as much time trying to make you orgasm from oral sex?

I like giving head. I like it a lot but it seems like its doing more harm than good if he's just going to go to bed with blue balls and not being able to get him off really makes me wonder about my own abilities.
He could spend all day giving oral sex (like myself) because its all about giving the most pleasure and... honestky we are proud of giving one another that much pleasure. Its just not fair that I can get off and he goes to bed with blue balls.
 forums84
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 13
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 6:21:42 PM

He could spend all day giving oral sex (like myself)....Its just not fair that I can get off and he goes to bed with blue balls.

Just making sure you weren't doing all the work.


not being able to get him off really makes me wonder about my own abilities.

It has nothing to do with your abilities at all, he's just not able to come that way. I guess he'll just have to wait until he's ready to have sex with you.
 Blueberry eggos
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 14
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 6:27:51 PM
Wow!! Did you just say it wasnt fair for you to get off but not him???????? Usually goes the other way around! But really, he probably got put off by another woman telling him never to and thinks no woman would let him finish like that.Im sure with a little encouragement he will have no problems once he's done it once or twice.
 no_1_bby
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 15
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Posted: 4/28/2007 7:19:02 PM
I knew one guy who'd said the same thing... never, ever had he cum from getting a BJ. To this day I'm still not sure what I did that put him over the edge, but he can't make that statement anymore.

There are a few other threads on this topic... try doing a thread search for the tips already posted.
 ttawny
Joined: 9/10/2006
Msg: 16
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 8:01:04 PM
Well this is just ridiculous. You say that having sex will cross some imaginary boundry in your relationship. What the hell is a blow job?

The separtion betweent the two that you/he have managed to talk yourselves into boggles my mind.

The whole situation sounds f*cked up to me.
 hiheelsareOk
Joined: 5/3/2006
Msg: 17
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:27:23 PM
OK, I was once one of those guys as all you girls are describing. My second ex-wife is the one that baptized me so to speak when we were dating. The intimate details I think are too, well….,intimate to post here. If you want to know what it was she did, email me, and I will give you the graphic description of what she did, and what she said to me. Here is a hint. Some of it has to do with what position he is in during his first time. It also has to do with what is on his mind. You might find what I have to say helpful, if I understand the problem your having correctly. Trust me its not you, its him and you can fix it for him.
Fletchs_no_1_bby-msg-15 According to her post she cured a guy of the same problem. She just doesn’t know what it was she did. I do, because I have been there.
 hotsmartchick
Joined: 4/15/2007
Msg: 18
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 8:47:40 PM
Well, my ex could never get off either actually. No matter how hard we both tried or didn't he never could. Now he found out that he has some weird medical condition, so you might want him to go see the doctor even though that could be embarassing for him...lol. After a while I just got used to it and would give him oral before sex, so I wouldn't be sucking for hours. And then we would have sex he would make sure that I was compeltely satisfied and then he would jack off...sorry for getting explicit. But it worked for us, you just need to change your routine so it makes both of you happy.
 Loveable Lion
Joined: 3/10/2006
Msg: 19
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 9:03:25 PM
Try massaging his G-spot, his prostate. Make sure you/he are well lubricated but massaging his prosate while giving him head should cause him to cum. No more blue balls!. Try it!
 fishbill
Joined: 3/19/2005
Msg: 20
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 9:39:05 PM
Yes, this is totally weird. While it's "common" that many men don't climax from oral (like me), the fact he doesn't want to finish off in any way imagineable freaks me out. and What are these "boundries" you two have? Maybe none of my business, but do you remember a President named Bill Clinton, and his hardworking young intern Monica Lewinsky? Why, even the president of the USA got a rib tickling from congress for claiming head wasn't sex. You two have crossed the line, and this is what happens when you "make up weird rules". He needs to jack off for you, get some porn at least, and if he can't come then, HE MIGHT HAVE A MEDICAL PROBLEM or be on some medications.
 Kramer111
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 21
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 11:21:45 PM
is it a physical block or a mental block or maybe a little of both. Try other sorts of stimulation.
 Fun_Jess
Joined: 6/15/2006
Msg: 22
Ever Heard of a guy not being able to...
Posted: 4/28/2007 11:34:24 PM
some medications do this to you........
sometimes you feel dirty....

this happens to me its embarassing and aweful!
 ClassyCaveman
Joined: 1/20/2007
Msg: 23
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Posted: 4/29/2007 12:00:45 AM
I can relate to this guy's problems. I agree with the general consensus here that these boundaries you two have set are a little ridiculous, it sounds like he just doesn't want to cum in front of you or around you. Not sure why that would be. But if it is a physical thing, this might help: I can't come from head unless I tense my legs up like crazy. I assume it increases the blood pressure down there or something. But yeah. I either have to be thrusting my hips or tensing my legs to cum. God help me if I ever become a parapalegic.
 fairyeyez
Joined: 9/8/2005
Msg: 24
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Posted: 4/29/2007 12:18:16 AM
Some guys just don't, suprisingly some don't even like it. Every person is differnt and it probably has nothing to do with you. Doesn't mean you shouldn't do it for him though if he enjoys it, just like us women we can enjoy the sensations without cumming at times right? He may also be shy about cumming in case you don't like it.
 Beat Me Up
Joined: 4/24/2007
Msg: 25
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Posted: 4/29/2007 1:01:44 AM
Most guys don't enjoy sex unless there are two females actively participating in giving the blow job ...its a little known fact.

Ask any guy
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