| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:03:41 AM | Why is it that after 2 or 3 e-mails, the guy goes right to the subject of lying around naked, or skinny dipping? Shouldn't we try to get to know each other a little more, have a few dates before that comes up? I'm am NOT a prude, I just think that's being a little too forward right off the bat. Is it just me? | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:20:10 AM | | Welcome to the modern western way of instant gratification. If we can't have it NOW, then most people don't want it. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:43:13 AM | | Well thats the way we have been programed . but I wouldn't read to much in to it I think a lot of good guys make that mistake and the internet environment encourages it guys and gals are programed different, for a guy sex leads to a relationship ,and to a gal a relationship leads to sex, doesn't mean guys don't want relationships, and doesn't mean gals don't want sex . its just our thought processes on relationships differ. the real challenge here is to learn to think out of the box, guys try to approach the subject of sex more lets say tactfully ,and girls try to look past this for a little while and find out the real person ( whats wrong with saying "I dont think I know you well enough to share that side of my life with you yet") instead of getting mad , you might just make him think about his approach, but if you get mad call him a pervert he calls you a prude and you delete him and both are more bitter when the next person comes alone. and if later you find he is a pervert well the delete button hasn't gone anywhere | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 10:40:43 AM | If you think he is being too forward, tell him. Personally, I don't care if a man tells me he is lying around naked or that he likes skinny dipping before we even have had a first date. If I don't care to discuss his clothes-less interests, I'll ignore it and go on to another subject.
I might also tell him that I am not really into skinny dipping but I do like to lay back on my bed without clothes on.
If he wants to go further and discuss whether or not I touch myself while laying back on my bed, I might tell him I don't talk about such things with someone I don't know very well. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 10:59:26 AM | | It's all relative. He was too forward for *you* ... but not for the woman he's suited for... | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:16:34 AM | Each person is there own self.....
Once a woman starts talking dirty to me.....I know that it's going nowhere and that's basically all she wants to do......she won't back it up......I'm not so sure I would want a woman who's that easy and freaky ...lol!
If a person is truly interested...they should have patience and try to learn that person ...... | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:23:11 AM | well .... to people who like to be naked and skinny dip .....
if you don't .... its very important to find out quickly for chances are your moral attitudes don't fit together very well and a relationship would most likely be doomed.
it is not being forward .... it is fishing for compatability. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 11:33:52 AM | Most people would not be that forward in real life, sitting face to face.
Somehow technology (read the internet) gives people a felling of anonymity and they think that anything goes. This goes both ways, men and woman alike. I have heard stories from guys about women coming on to them and they were shocked at how forward some of the women were, asking for online sex etc.
This is a new age where the internet gives people a mask to hide behind. Or so they think....
I agree though, just tell them you don't like that kind of forwardness and if they persist and it insults you or makes you feel uncomfortable, then block them | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 12:06:54 PM |
Why is it that after 2 or 3 e-mails, the guy goes right to the subject of lying around naked, or skinny dipping?
Have you watched television or gone to the movies recently? Or read one of the women's magazines?
It seems like sex is one of the main subjects the media focuses on. It's no wonder that people think it's OK to be forward about sex when it's in our faces all the time. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 1:21:54 PM | | forward? I call those perverts looking for cheap entertainment, just tell em to fart off! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 1:38:58 PM | No Such thing as a pervert unless its a mature person that gets off on kids.People use pervert way to much & loosly.Men & Women were made to love each other & fu*ck each other.if were both over 18 then theres no such thing as being a pervert for wanting sex no matter how ya get it or how ya ask for it through pms or emails.
Us men realise that lifes to short to fu*ck around & ask you women over a time span.Lets all Fu*ck & Shut The Fu*ck Up :P Quit setting so many damn rules for sex. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 1:48:46 PM | Boys will be boys - they are a very silly breed -  I often think it's some guys way of testing your limits and finding out what you will tollerate!!! | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 1:58:46 PM | sorry mpg although i agree with some of what you say its their body they can set the rules for sex that they want ,you need to find someone whose rules comply with your way of thinking. no one sets my rules and they have the same rights
leeann we might be silly but we can be fun | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:07:06 PM | Wow...you're lucky. Some of the guys who e-mail me start talking about what they want to do with me or to me in the initial e-mail! 
There are two ways that I deal with it...
1) if I find them attractive, I look at it as flirting and I flirt back.
2) if I'm not interested in getting to know them better then I let them know. It usually makes me . Something like  "Does that approach really work for you?" That usually makes them  the other way, which is just fine with me.
In the end, the truth is that a lot of people enjoy intimate activities and aren't afraid to let others know that. I'm a very passionate and straight forward woman. I want to know if a potential date is compatible. Why not?
Have fun, and good luck! | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 3:09:57 PM | youd be amazed how many ladies say can we chat on msn,you give in and say yes to be sociable,then they switch the webcam on and theyre starkers-not a thread!
for a first meeting it certainly creates an impactm,but im thinking,yes,not really appropriate at that moment | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:11:10 PM | | Guys forward? As if some girls aren't as well? I think it's all relative. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 3:15:23 PM | | It's a penis thing, you wouldn't understand. Imagin you are possessed, but instead of an evil spirit you are possessed by a rude, obnoxious, horny midget. You can not be responsible for the dumb ass things it makes you say. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 3:27:13 PM | | I'm only forward with girls who are forward with me or girls I have absolutely no interest in except for maybe some action. If I feel a girl is worth that wait then I am patient with them. I'd avoid guys who get on the topic of sex with absolutely no encouragement. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 3:40:08 PM | "It's a penis thing, you wouldn't understand. Imagin you are possessed, but instead of an evil spirit you are possessed by a rude, obnoxious, horny midget. You can not be responsible for the dumb ass things it makes you say"
I have to say I am cracking up here!!!
In my experience of men...they like to do things to check a woman's reaction...just to see how far they can go..and what she will do in response.
Men do that whenever...beit online..or in RL......lets say something a little cheeky...and see her response...am I in...or am I not in. The internet makes this easier..as they can hide behind their screens...it gives them a different sense of security...so they can prowl easier..lol
Women and men are so different mentally...we check out each other in different ways...it isnt that women are all fridged...by we want to know that he isn't just going to use us..and move on to the next one...generally speaking...women want stability.
I often wonder how we ever get together...its def a case of Men are from Mars..lol
I personaly find these kinda guys a turn off...if they are acting like this in the 1st instance...I want to get to know a guys mind...and the rest will follow..I want to know what makes him happy (not just sex)...what makes him sad...and all the things that make up a whole person...not what his fav position is the 2nd time he mails me!!! Then it has to be..bye bye matey!!!
Men sometimes mess it up for themselves...by trying it on too quick...and should know by now...that most ladies want to be romanced....I bet some of you younger peeps are laughing at this..I am in my 40's..and remember a time when romance was still around...not just a wam bam...thankyou mam.
Bring back the old days is what I say...and when the time is right.....if he plays it right...he wont be unhappy with his choice..lol
I know some women can be just as pushy..I guess we are all looking for different things...but sometimes...sex just becomes a barier,,:-) | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 3:48:18 PM | >
> Why is it that after 2 or 3 e-mails, the guy goes right to the subject of
> lying around naked, or skinny dipping? Shouldn't we try to get to
> know each other a little more, have a few dates before that comes up?
> I'm am NOT a prude, I just think that's being a little too forward right
> off the bat. Is it just me?
Probably just you.
Men are forward, because women never take the initiative. Let me put this more clearly.
Men are forward, and say things directly, cutting to the chase as efficiently as possible because women don't know how to be direct, state things clearly, and ask for what they want. Why is it this way? We are all conditioned from childhood to be that way.
It is part of the game.
Now, all you really have to do, instead of getting torqued off about it, is say " I just don't feel comfortable moving this quickly. If you're expecting that I will, you're going to be disappointed. When I feel ready for that, I will say so, directly and plainly, and there won't be any question what I want."
Not that I've ever known a woman who could or would do that...
Sorry you've been virtually groped, my dear. Not all of us guys are that way. | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 4:04:44 PM | All depends what they are after .. and how of course u have responded to said emails.. We all know sex is a priority with men .. or sexual thoughts lol.. bound to come up sometime.. if u do not like what is being said , then say thx but no thx .. not my thing . Most men , if they want more will back down and apologize or at least curb thier natural instint s.
As the old saying goes"can't blame a guy for trying" lmao
They would not be men unless at some point they came on to u .. and after 2 or 3 emails.. well that a year for a man !
GOD LOVE THIER COTTON-PICKIN SOCKS! | |
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| why are guys so forward?
Posted: 5/2/2007 5:26:36 PM | Wow, you get more than one email before they ask you that? They're polite to you, honey... | |
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