| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:19:52 AM | Guys…
There’s a school of thought that many single guys actually use a romantic rotation of the girls they date. How many of you have a starting lineup of girls you date thinking or knowing you’ll have mind-blowing sex with and then a second string of girls who like you just a little more than you like them that you keep in a holding pattern waiting on the sidelines.
Girls….
Men don’t feel any guilt about the rotation method and rightfully so because, after all, they’re not married or not in a committed relationship. I wonder how many girls ask the guys they’re currently sexually involved with if they are also currently involved sexually with other women.
I don’t think it’s prying or rude to ask the guys you’re sleeping with about the competition you’re up against to find out the odds of contacting STDs or getting actual commitments from them – IF - that’s what you want.
If asked I wonder how many guys are honest with their answers. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 9:58:44 AM | I never knew there where so many girls out there that don't mind being treated like $hit...
Why do you let yourselfs be content with being misirable. If you want to get a good guy your probally not gonna drag him out of a bar and he's not gonna have a HOLDing Patern for "his girls" Your probally not gonna find him if your wearing a hoe's uniform either. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 10:02:11 AM | Never had more than one at a time, never *wanted* more than one, so I couldn't tell you.
Agreed wowsad, interesting perception. Maybe its just that she's attracted to the bad-boy/player type? | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 10:05:06 AM |
There’s a school of thought that many single guys actually use a romantic rotation of the girls they date. How many of you have a starting lineup of girls you date thinking or knowing you’ll have mind-blowing sex with and then a second string of girls who like you just a little more than you like them that you keep in a holding pattern waiting on the sidelines.
I dunno... I've met more women than men in my life who do this. Not sure which school you are attending, but it sure ain't in my neighbourhood.
Men don’t feel any guilt about the rotation method and rightfully so because, after all, they’re not married or not in a committed relationship. I wonder how many girls ask the guys they’re currently sexually involved with if they are also currently involved sexually with other women.
There are players of both sexes who feel absolutely no guilt about it. Again, I've met more women than men who fit this description. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 10:06:04 AM | "I wonder how many girls ask the guys they’re currently sexually involved with if they are also currently involved sexually with other women."
That's the cart after the horse. I only get sexually involved when I'm in a committed monogamous relationship, so the question of who either is sexually involved with has already been answered. And I only date men who are intelligent enough to know what committed and mongamous actually mean.  | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 11:23:30 AM | I would like to ask how many men have you in their rotation lineup, and why do you allow it?
Contrary to what a lot say on here,,most of us are one at a time type men... | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 11:42:37 AM | | I'm so doomed to be single if that's the way life is op. I've been in a couple long term relationships and not one of the guys treated me this way. I've seen guys act this way and some women fall for it. In each case the woman had major self-esteem issues. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 11:54:28 AM | sounds to me like the "takes one to know one" rule applies..
frankly i only have one heart. and only so much devotion and love to go around.. One woman is enough for me.
how many guys do you have on the sidelines MRS INNOCENT?
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:00:40 PM |
How many of you have a starting lineup of girls you date thinking or knowing you’ll have mind-blowing sex
Hey, OP... I just perused your profile and I have a hunch.... were you the hot young woman who dated the band back in the day? I don't mean to be disrespectful but I've been working on my psychic abilities so I just wanted to see how my clairvoyance is coming along. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:43:07 PM |
Why is it a man with several interests is a player, but a woman with several is "picky"? Just wondering.
Good one lol!! And ohh so true lol!!!
OP. You are absolutely right. Most single men who are active in the dating world have a starting line-up of females that they put on rotation. Sort of like loading bullets into a six shooter. Usually, this number ranges anywhere from 2 to 4. I have seen situations where a single guy was running 6 at a time, but they need some significant skill to pull that off successfully. Usually, the starting line-up gradually drop off at which point the single male will go and prospect to replenish the pipeline. Now ask yourself, how is that game played any differently by single females? Aren’t they doing the exact same thing!! | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:05:40 PM | The reason I posted this thread is because I read a book by Lauren Francis titled "Dating Mating and Manhandling" . One of the chapters is "The Male String Theory of Dating". I just wanted guy's views on her theory. Perhaps I should have mentioned that in my thread.
I've never been in anyone's dating rotation. I've been married and have had only one LTR in the 10 yrs since becoming a widow. Yikes - my thread really ruffled some feathers!! My thread poses a question. I in no way accused anyone.
I don't mean to be disrespectful but I've been working on my psychic abilities so I just wanted to see how my clairvoyance is coming along.
hmmm.... your clairvoyance and psychic abilities aren't doing so well, iago, I've only had 2 sexual relationships - one was my musician husband and the other was my musician LTR of 6 yrs. Music is a large part of my life. Having been married to ONE musician a lot of my friends are musicians - both males and females - ALL are non-sexual friends.
Perhaps my next thread should be about how easy it is to jump to conclusions. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:16:06 PM | | I have to agree with chipmunk. However I would like to add, that most men are more concerned with getting laid while they are very young. I was that way from about age 18-24 but found it too confusing as I got older trying to balance more than one woman at a time. Some men never grow out of it or for that matter ever desire to be like that. Most men as they grow older are looking for that emotional closeness or bond found with one woman instead of being a player and being with many women at the same time. But there are the exceptions. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:20:29 PM | | I cannot speak for other guys, but once I have an intimate relationship with one Lady, I do not date anyone else. Now before then, I have usually dated many women. I had different ladies for different activities. One for the movies, one for the car club, and one for the concerts…could not find the one that could do it all and enjoyed the company. Now that I have found one that can do it all, I am keeping her. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:24:18 PM | | Thanks Chipmonk and hiheelsareok, for your input. Seems you two are the only ones who understood my thread was a question not an accusation or a testimony of my beliefs and morals. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:27:37 PM | Wow, I think I'm doing this wrong! My (somewhat envious) male mind is telling me this guy must be damned good if he not only has a list, but a tiered list at his disposal. While many women swear to never being on such a list, where did he get the list together to start with?
And just for kicks, what if all the women on the list already knew the details, but saw him anyway?
Dreamer, have you figured how many of our answers are honest? LOL.
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:29:11 PM | I read a book by Lauren Francis titled "Dating Mating and Manhandling"
One of the chapters is "The Male String Theory of Dating". I just wanted guy's views on her theory.
Who is this author and what makes her an expert?
I never heard of the male string of dating? | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:33:07 PM | And just for kicks, what if all the women on the list already knew the details, but saw him anyway?
On 1st dates I just enjoyed the Ladies company. On the second date, if there was one, I would always tell the Lady that I saw other people. However, I didn't think they would want hear about the date I had on Friday, while I was with them on Saturday. If they did want to know, all they had to do was ask, and I would answer any questions they had. Only once was I ever asked. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:37:32 PM | | I don't think this is very common. I think it's a minority. But maybe I should look into this method. It seems to be successful if there's a book written about it. | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 1:52:27 PM | Guys - if you really want your feathers ruffled go to the website....
http://www.laurenfrancesphdd.com/interview.html
And just for kicks, what if all the women on the list already knew the details, but saw him anyway?
I would hope once the woman on the list - and remember the list is theoretical - discovered she was part of a rotation she would kick the a**hole to the curb.
Dreamer, have you figured how many of our answers are honest? LOL.
nope, since I've not been in anyone's rotation I haven't had the need to ask the question. Sorry if I disappoint anyone by this answer. (giggles) | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:10:32 PM | | It has been my lifelong observation that it is the women who keep a rotation and holding pattern going. Can it be that the OP knows this and wants to justify it? | |
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| Do guys have a starting lineup of girls?
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:16:49 PM | I would hope once the woman on the list - and remember the list is theoretical - discovered she was part of a rotation she would kick the a**hole to the curb.
I would hope so too. But, trying to study how women think, I've run into something that I thought was interesting. (If it's true or not, I don't know. But I think it applies here.)
There's something I keep seeing with all this, and that's the need for approval. The constant need for approval. It's almost hard-wired into the brain. This need for approval triggers a need to be competitive.
Whether this is porn, some woman on TV, another woman on the street, or even a guy THINKING about another woman seems to trigger this jealousy. The old saying, women don't dress up to impress men, but other women. The constant need to be told by her guy in a relationship that she's valued/loved. (Even if he said it to her 6 weeks ago)
So, if she's on a rotation, it triggers her need to be approved, and therefore compete. If she ditches this guy, she loses his approval. So she'll try even HARDER to go for the ***hole.
Do you believe this theory is true?
Guys - if you really want your feathers ruffled go to the website....
http://www.laurenfrancesphdd.com/interview.html
I actually agree with some of the points and the cause, but I don't think this is deep enough to get any real information.
"I've discovered the truth about why so many women settle for Mr. Wrong. Unfortunately, most women are still using antiquated flirt techniques developed sometime around the invention of the maxi-pad. They focus on all the wrong things, instead of paying attention to what’s really important..whether or not he’s actually right for you!
I've coached thousands of women into the relationships of their dreams. I know exactly why, despite a woman's doing everything “right”, men often start pulling away after romancing her for weeks, months, or even years. "
I don't believe it's "antiquated", just incorrect thinking/method. But other than the "Buy my book!" message, this book sounds like a good idea. | |
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