| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:11:11 AM | | My ex's girlfriend has written blog after blog about how ugly, stupid and horrible I am...telling lie after lie..in which everyone can read this... Her bf has called me repeatedly wanting to have sex with me over the past 6 months, and she found out. She wanted to "beat my ass" last weekend, and I defended myself to her on text message, and she called the cops, claiming harassment. Nothing happened, and I havent had contact with her in a week, and she is still hating me and has still been writing horrible things and still is threatening to call the cops if I respond to her hateful blog...why would someone spew out such hate and venom? I was mad at first, but now I've calmed down...what is the purpose of her doing this and what is the best way to handle it? | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:16:59 AM | | Simple: completely ignore it. Don't read her blog. Pretend like she/him/the blog don't exist. Those who know you and care about you won't give a passing thought to the crap she writes. What she apparently wants is a reaction out of you, for some reason. Oh wait, I guess the reason is that she learned her guy (your ex) was trying to hook up with you. By the way, did you ever hook up with him? | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:45:56 AM | | Pink,she's acting out of rage,immaturity,and jealousy....she should be directing it towards her cheating man,but you're an easier target. The only thing that you can do,is just leave it alone. She sounds a bit unstable to begin with,and if you keep trying to defend yourself,it might escalate into something worse. She's obviously not as good of a friend as you thought,and not worth the strife. If you really feel the urge to explain yourself,then maybe send a short and sweet email to her,expaining how you're not the one she should be mad at,and how insulted and hurt your are....but IMO,with the way she sounds,I wouldn't bother. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:51:58 AM | “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” - Eleanor Roosevelt
If someone is causing you stress ...... it is because you are letting them. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:59:44 AM | I'd put in a call block on their number. If it happened once or twice, fine, but this is happening repeatedly, and you keep answering them and responding.
If you want it to stop, then stop it! | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 9:04:26 AM | Hon, I agree with the responder who said "IGNORE IT." She has chosen a safe / non-violent way to vent her hatred toward you and, with hope, every time she pounds away on the keyboard she is one step closer to getting it all off her chest and losing interest in trying to hurt you with words and humiliate you with lies. Blogs are like a diary. Maybe her best friend would have read the first blog or two. But, by now, it's unlikey that anybody even reads it!! Friends tire of that kind of thing pretty fast. So don't give her the reaction she wants because she will only use your reaction to say you are harrassing her. Reacting just fuels her fury because she knows it's getting to you. Ingnore her, and believe me, she'll soon run out of steam!!!
PS: When people do stuff like that, I don't think they are necessarily unstable, but just very angry, and upset, and they don't have good coping skills. Another woman would just head to the gym and take her anger out on the elypitcal. Everybody copes with hurt in thier own way. This is obviously her way of coping. Just let her get on with it. And also find a healthy way of coping with it -- i.e. you can rise above it, go to the gym, go have lunch with a friend, buy yourself some flowers. Don't let her ugly words pollute you!!! If you totally rise above it, and be kind to yourself, ultimately you will see how pathetic she's been and you'll feel really good about yourself too!!! | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 9:51:21 AM | | do you love me,,,do you love me,,,do you love me,,,does this sound familiar.REPORT all that is going on to ur diary , so some day when the women become dangerous you will have a running file on her , charges stick better , when it documented.RETARD ALERT. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 10:16:19 AM | do you love me,,,do you love me,,,do you love me,,,does this sound familiar.REPORT all that is going on to ur diary , so some day when the women become dangerous you will have a running file on her , charges stick better , when it documented.RETARD ALERT.
When I read your reply, I actually had to go back and re-read the OP because I thought I must have missed out some details. But, no! The OP isn't being stalked, or threatened, other than the threat of being charged with harassment if she in any way communicates with this girl. So what is there to record?? That she added a new blog?? Less than 2 weeks into it, it's a leap to assume the woman will become dangerous. The OP isn't dating her ex...just that her ex wanted to hook up with her for sex, and the new girl is blaming the OP instead of the OP's ex-boyfriend, who is now the freaky-girl's boyfriend. The OP could ask her ex to call off his current girlfriend. But, other than that, somebody venting in a blog for a couple of weeks isn't really a big deal. Just give the freaky-girl time to cool down and don't let the lies she tells in her blog get to you. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 10:17:18 AM | | Sounds like she's a bit angst and confused, I don't suppose her sexuality has anything to do with it? | |
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anmade
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Joined: 4/29/2007
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:08:36 PM | Pink,
I would ignore it and toss it up to "consider the source". Try not to keep looking at her blog either, it will only upset you. She wants you to react, when you do, it gives her power. You know none of it is true, and what you defend you make real! | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:24:43 PM | Ignore it if you can.
If you can't:
Start your own blog saying how you are still sleeping with her BF, and give details of what he does to you (and one of your other GFs once;) | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 12:28:31 PM |
If you can't:
Start your own blog saying how you are still sleeping with her BF, and give details of what he does to you (and one of your other GFs once;)
LOL! That actually would be kind of funny. But, really, I think she'll go away faster when she sees you arent giving her any additional airtime!
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:34:31 PM | | You need to stay as far as possible away from these people. She wants to ruin you in any way she can. The only way to stop her is to kill her and you don't want to do that so you are going to have to hide from them. Change your phone numbers, change you address, delete email accounts, change everything. These people are disgusting, | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:51:49 PM | | u know when a woman hates u its a real compliment... although not always the easiest to deal with it. cant really give any advises more than i would have freaked out,,, | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 4:57:05 PM | | my ex girlfriend is acting uncool ya mean, feel to dislike that word, it sounds to mean negativly judgemental critcal and labeling. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:04:37 PM | I agree with the ignoring option.
I had the same problem over a year ago. The ex did not want to move on or let things go and would continuously try to remain in my life as a thorn in my side. Did the blog thing, email, phone calls. But the best way to deal with it was to just ignore her or give no reaction to her childish actions. People like that want some form of reaction whether is it getting angry or going on the internet asking what to do about ones crazy ex. They want the attention and they get satisfaction if they know they're annoying you in anyway possible. Once they see that their acts are having no impact they'll just give up since they can't tap anymore attention from you. | |
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Joined: 8/24/2006
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:30:39 PM | Well I think her problem is she has to take it out on someone, but can't take it out on her boyfriend. So who better than the party involved. Ofcourse it's the wrong way to go, but that's what some people do. Get mad on the person that absolutely didn't do anything wrong.
Btw over the last 6 months her BF called you repeatedly about wanting to have sex with you? Why didn't you tell her? I think she is feeling betrayed because you didn't tell her what her BF did and she found out the hard way causing her to distrust you. But that's just me.
What can you do about it? Well absolutely nothing if you ask me. You could try and talk to her, but at this point there's too much hate from her side. So only thing left is let things cool down, and then try to talk to her. Preferably in a setting where's lotsa people.. LOL.. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 7:52:01 PM | tell her to shut her tulips .... a little holland michigan joke there..da dum dum. thank you I'll be here all week.
next time he calls you tape him.... send it to her.. with a note keep your man on a leash.. have her check...HIS phone bill..
other then that just ignore it she will run out of things to say. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:29:11 PM | | Ignore her attacks but write evrything down, time date place etc. Save e-mails, blogs, phone messages . if you are to finnaly go to the police with a complaint they will tell you to do that for a year untill you get enough information before they can charge them. Unless they make threats but make sure you have a witness. I know someone that went threw something like this. Its nerve racking thats for sure. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/5/2007 8:44:51 PM | | Why are you even reading the blog? You are only feeding it by giving it attention, here or otherwise. | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/6/2007 9:34:52 AM | | ok well this morning I was just curious, hoping she would erase that blog, but she didn't...in fact, it got worse...her and her friends posted MY pictures on her blog, tearing me to shreads - saying I look like a man, etc etc etc....and threatening to sit me down and show me what a real woman is...these girls are 19...how can I make this stop?? this is defamation of character and its wrong!! do you think I can call the cops?? | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:02:45 AM | I suggest you print out everything she post on her blog. Also, any phone calls need to be recorded.
Have you contacted the admin on the site the blog is posted on?
They might be able to take it down for violating the rules, especially if you offer to take legal action if they don't.
And just for the fun of it, do her boyfriend and make sure she knows about it.... | |
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| My ex's girlfriend is crazy...
Posted: 5/6/2007 11:07:12 AM | | Blondie: you may not have seen it but I'd asked you if there had been any TRUTH to you having gotten together with her BF (your ex, who you say had been trying for 6 months to get you into bed, and she found out about this). Did you do anything like this? Just curious. | |
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