taguh
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Joined: 2/28/2007
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Posted: 5/6/2007 2:46:33 AM | I just had a rather hurtful experience. I met this nice woman on here a couple of months ago. We started talking on the phone straight away and while I was abroad we agreed to meet on return.
We met in a pub and hit off instantly. We started to have a relationship but because of the distance between us we only could see eachother on weekends. Two weeks ago, I just was getting ready to drive to her she sent me a txt "don't want to see you, so dont come". We spoke on the phone and it looked like we sorted things out. Last weekend seemed fine again and no indication of any problems or doubts on her side. Guess what, yesterday she finished with me again... no phone call, just a couple of txt messages again. I haven't heard nothing since... What shall I do? | |
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| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:51:07 AM | I really hate to hear that. However I'm sure none of this is your fault at all. I'm not sure how much you really cared for this girl, but the only advise I have to offer is to move on and find another. Where one fall out, a better is most likely to take place. Good luck to you. | |
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taguh
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Joined: 2/28/2007
Msg: 3 | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 2:57:49 AM | | Thank you for your supportive thought. I guess I will have to move on. And to answer your question, I still care for her a lot and that makes that moving on bit well tricky. | |
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| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:01:32 AM | Aw.. That doesn't sound promising. It's too bad some people don't know how to deal with LDR's. So best thing to do is move on and find someone that is worthy. As there's no indication you did something wrong, I assume the girl you are talking about actually doesn't want to have a LDR.
Just be glad she let you know in advance before you drove up there.  | |
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| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:02:32 AM | | well, what exactly got sorted out last time? what was her reasoning for all of a sudden not wanting to see you. obviously, it wasn't exactly sorted out......i'd just forget about it, even if you do smooth things over, it sounds like she's either seeing someone else (ex?), or she's just a headcase.. either way, its really not worth it. tell her to make up her mind and give you a call when she talks to her therapist. | |
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taguh
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Joined: 2/28/2007
Msg: 6 | |
| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:10:21 AM | | It looked to me that as long as we were together everything was great. As longer the week went by she seems to get more distant with her replies. She has some issues so, had been fostered out as a child and than been abused by her foster father. I was very supportive and we talked a lot about that.... still can't get my head around it! Must be me than. It was a LDR but not really, only 50 miles. | |
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| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:12:22 AM | | sounds like she's more problems than its worth. it sucks, but when people haven't gotten over their problems, they'll just drag the people around them down with them. | |
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| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 3:57:07 AM | what shall you do? respect she does not want to see you.
You can only guess as to why she stopped seeing you but it maybe had to do with the distance and seeing each other only every other weekend. I have a feeling she met someone else. You should not see her again anyway since she has been hot and cold in the past. I'm sure there are things going on with ther you have no idea of and you should only have to break up with someone once, not repeatedly. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:46:58 AM | It always Baffles me when some Posters say I met a really "Nice" Woman/Man...Well obviously they are not so Nice if they do you wrong in some way or another...and especially when they up and run away w/o reason or explanation. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 10:33:21 AM | | i dont think u should do anything. just leave her be. if she wants to take contact with u she will, and then its ur decision to decide if u gonna take her back or not. and if she doesnt contact u, well then u kept ur pride and not callin her n stuff. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 12:17:17 PM | | OP, I'm sorry that happened to you. it may be that this woman has some issues she needs to work through before she can be in a solid relationship. Perhpas being in foster homes has left her with a feeling of abandonment which has left her a bit needy, and not being able to see someone every few days brings back those feelings. Youc ould try to sit down and talk it all out with her one more time, but if she doesn't want to talk about it, there isn't much you can do. If that's the case, then you need to go on with your life and start dating others. Life is too short to waste, and if only one person in a relationship is trying to make it work, then it's not going to happen. Best of luck to you. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 12:26:25 PM | | If you really care about her, maybe you should send her an email and let her know that you are there for her strictly as a friend. Don't expect anything in return, just really be a friend, but prepare yourself to be treated as such. If you can't handle that, I agree, move on and forget about her. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 12:37:48 PM | This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
This is the way the world ends
Not with a bang but a whimper.
T.S. Eliot
Sometimes, that's how relationships end, too. Pick yourself up and go on. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 1:15:39 PM | Sounds like she was done with you, but didn't know how to be honest and end it. When you called she chickened out and said she would see you. Then she decided to end it once and for all. I don't get why people don't have the guts to be honest, but they don't always. I had this problem once with a guy I was dating. I finally cornered him and he finally was honest.. whew....
Just walk on, lesson learned and be more careful who you date next time. It won't be easy because you gave your heart. But, in time the heart does heal.
Best wishes to you,
Linda | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 1:24:27 PM | | Thats awful for you, it sounds like until she's sorted her issues she aint up to proper grown-up stuff....... but you sound decent,maybe she cant handle that,prefers the bad guys? Anyways ide get on with your life and soon she'l be a distant memory!! | |
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g54cs
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Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 19 | |
| Started great....and than finished suddenly
Posted: 5/6/2007 1:25:39 PM | | i always remember the quote,'absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sry in your case it didn't but don't give up. She may not have been ready and you were one of her first few online connections. The right person is out there for you, don't be discouraged. And don't forget to smile | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:35:21 PM | | there is nothing worse when you think things are going well... then you eventually find out they arent!I am too going though a similar experience. I think the best thing you can do, is hold your head up high, remember it isnt your problem, she is the one with the problem, and put yourself out there for the one that will truely appreciate you as a person... I wish you good luck... | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:44:17 PM | With the woman's history, it is always possible that she has an attachment disorder. I work in child welfare and have seen how such a disorder affects people in relationships. It would take a great deal of patience, understanding, and perseverence to sustain a relationship with such a person.
However, it doesn't sound like she's giving you a chance to do so, anyhow. Relationships that run hot and cold inevitably run over.
Why endure such a relationship when you could have one with a woman who genuinely wants to be with you? Don't you deserve to be with someone who wants you as much as you want her? | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 5:47:34 PM | Move on and try not to take it personally...perhaps even though u really liked her she didnt feel the same way and something didnt click...no connection. Maybe she thought she would try one more time and that is why she met after texting u leave her alone and realized she was right about her feelings. Dont take it personally ...take what good memories u have and move on to someone else who will love and appreciate you.  She really did chicken out and was being a a**hole the way she ended things. So perhaps like others have said she really was not that "nice" afterall! Good luck | |
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Posted: 5/6/2007 7:11:00 PM | I am truly sad for you...but it is what it is...move on ...she wants to ....and you should do the same...don't force the issue and hope she comes to her senses she will only put you through more grief...you want someone who wants you as much as you do them...remember that and don't settle for less ...you deserve better | |
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