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Posted: 5/9/2007 7:49:16 AM | Just wondering how folks look at dating and it's costs. Do ppl with less money date less then those with mega money?
If a guy goes out on 3-4 dates a week and they are for dinner or even the shooting range at wem then a average date costs around $80 - $100. Thats like $1200 a month on the low end.
Met some women on here that seem to not be looking for a "settle down with " man but more like they just want to be wined and dined at no cost to them.
Should it be that the guy should date less or get a second job to afford the dates?
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Posted: 5/9/2007 7:53:20 AM | yeah the first couple should be the guys and you just have to know how to plan the date. the first one is the cheapest 5 bucks at starbucks... beautiful.
Another inexpensive date is Pool hall 2 to 3 hours of pool with drinks say 30 bucks.
in this time during the conversation if other dates will follow. tell them that you think relationship and dating are 50/50. etc.....
that the short of it. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 7:54:05 AM | my advice is not to date gold digging...... you know the rest.
if a girl doesn't go dutch, or at least offer to.... send her on her way. 
you pay for everything, she'll just see you as an open wallet, and keep taking. If you take that second job for her, she'll spend all that and MORE. Then she'll get pregnant and you'll get a third job to pay for THAT. See how this goes?
chicks these days..... *sigh*  | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 8:02:25 AM | DANG is all I can say..........................
That is RIDICULOUS and I am serious. My rent is not that much, so, well, if you NEED to have that many dates and don't have the money....................
Well, YOU figure the math out.
Starbucks $10
Ice Cream $8
Movies(with drinks and popcorn) $26
Walk by the river with stargazing and excellent conversation (free) and PRICELESS | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 8:10:50 AM | dates don't have to include money. i found someone who loves to go for walks through parks, or through the trails in the woods...rock climbing, picnics...its great.
dinner and movies at home are fun too. you can cook together and everyone knows that you talk a lot in the kitchen. lol...as for the movie part afterwards, you don't need to worry about ppl getting pissed off if you start making out. 
i don't date less just because i have little money....i appreciate the actual outings more when i do go out for a date.  | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 8:47:02 AM | No, it just means he should be more creative in planning dates. (and usually they end up being better dates than the dinner and a movie variety)
One of my best dates? Going to watch about 30 hot air balloons light up at night while tethered to the ground. Cost? Less than $20. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 8:48:09 AM | Spend what you feel comfortable with. Live within your means. Do you like this person and want to treat them to something? Then do it. If not...don't. You are the only one who controls that. If you will resent buying something for someone later, then don;t do it in the first place. If they are just interested in what you can buy them you'll find out sooner, rather than later.
Everything isn't expensive, but if you are socializing there are going to be some costs involved. You can go to summer art fairs, museums aren't that much, meeting in a coffee shop isn't that expensive. If you can't be creative, then don't blame the other person. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:02:40 AM | | Dates should be dutch except for special occasions. Or once two people become a "couple" and one makes a significant amount more than the other. Then you work out something fair. Three-four dates a week!? Holy cow ... that's a lot of dates! I'm definately lagging. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:06:51 AM | PS. MINI GOLF (glow in the dark mini golf is even better)
$20 or cheaper if you have a coupon (but don't let her see you use it, lol) | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:50:32 AM | Do you really go on 3-4 dates a week??
Can't believe most dates cost $80.00-$100.00. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:51:10 AM |
if a girl doesn't go dutch, or at least offer to.... send her on her way.
Jessika, according to my friends, females in the United States usually expect the guy to pay for the first date. Going dutch happens later in the relationship. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:52:10 AM | | Unless I need someone to accompany me for an event I already had planned, I don't spend anything if possible. Attempting to buy their attention is counter-productive. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 9:59:00 AM | $20 or cheaper if you have a coupon (but don't let her see you use it, lol)
lol that's a whole different Thread lol
My English might not have explained my dilema too good judging by some of the responces. I'm talking about a FIRST date........ yes after awhile its ok to watch a movie at home with popcorn , blanket spread out on the floor, candles in the background etc.
I see on some profiles that some women have " Dinner and a movie" for a first date. Should i avoid those dates then?
Can't wait to find my soulmate , this dating is a bit confusing lol.
I vote for Timmys or Starbucks to be the first meet lol | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:02:37 AM | females in the United States usually expect the guy to pay for the first date...
Actually, the men expect to pay because we asked the ladies out...
I agree with some of the others, its not what ya spend, but what ya do...
Burger and a beer at the beach on the patio of the bar, or a picnic in the park,,as long as it is pleasurable...
However, the day I pay the price that Starbucks charges for coffee isn't going to happen. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:18:47 AM | Do you really go on 3-4 dates a week??
on a slow week yes, is that bad or good? Sort of new to the dating scene so still learning. Been single for a year and realy getting hard to settle down. So many great women so little time in a week. A dinner at Earls or BP with drinks is easly $60 then the game of pool or movie etc. plus some flowers but i'm starting to think i should buy stocks in a florist shop lol | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:19:14 AM | "Dinner and a movie" still doesn't need to be $80.00+.
Go to the movie first before the price goes up. Easier that way anyway. You never know how long you'll have to wait in a restaurant...you don't want to be looking at your watch and either rushing to catch the movie or end up missing the one you want and, when you do get there, you're sitting there with a tummy ache. So go to the early movie, that should be what about $12.00? Then you go to a place like Olive Garden, Bennigans, Applebees, etc. You can get out of those places for about $35.00 if you don't have alcohol. So, you're talking about under $50.00 as opposed to $80.00. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:21:38 AM | | I don't know anyone who actually does dinner and a movie on a first date. Either way, you should plan the date, not her, and you should pick something that doesn't cost anything, or very little. Get creative. Be assertive. You can date as many women as you like no matter what your income is. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:27:13 AM | | i do date less because i don't have the financial resources to do frequent dates !for me i would need a third and a fourth job i think!lol | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:34:06 AM | | get a second job...some of us have exspensive taste. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:42:44 AM | Your date might be expensive because your trying to show off with your wallet when ordering like its nothing. Prices have gone up over the years.
2 people for a movie 18 bucks
average, meal 12 bucks x2 24
Gas
so 50 bucks a day
x 3 dates a week
$150 and thats being cheap. but as the above opinion mention there are ways around.
It is common courtesy that a woman attempt to reach in her purse or offer. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:44:20 AM | | I think a lot of people date within their economic demographics. My BF and I have spent $200 on dinner for very special occasions ( remember, this is Manhattan...a good martini will run you $12). In the beginning he paid mostly because he invited me out. Then I started inviting him out, so of course I paid. Now that we live together we go back and forth. | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 10:54:20 AM | I have to aggree with dates costing 80 to 100 i was dateing this girl for lil over 2 months
we started out going out 3 to 4 times a week. )she also has a son too that went along) so during this time we would go to dinner and it never be like a diner it was always stake houses
the bill useally 40 to 50 then theres always gotta go to a movie after wards theres another 30 to get in pop corn etc another 20 granted i make ok money im not hurting but it came down to where if i didnt feel like going out to eat or a movie she didnt want to hang out n got all pissy. but i can see where dates do cost. i wouldnt mind paying for all that if i knew there was gonna be a relationship in the future not just a gold digger | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 11:01:54 AM | capt141stpa, some men complain about paying for the woman...and you're paying for her son too??? The kid should have been at home.
How can people eat popcorn right after they've had dinner at a steak house? Sheesh, hope you brought Pepto Bismol tablets.  | |
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Posted: 5/9/2007 11:04:20 AM |
Msg: 1 -- Should it be that the guy should date less or get a second job to afford the dates?
I simply date less. I can't see the point of getting a second job just to date more, especially since I don't really enjoy the dating process. I date only those who seem most likely to be the kind of woman I'd like to spend the rest of my life with. Needless to say, that sort of woman is extremely difficult to find, which quite naturally cuts down on my dating expenses anyway. | |
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