| Toss an ugly or a normal
Posted: 5/16/2007 2:00:26 AM | Ive been on and off this site for about 5 years now... mostly because of the poetry and some old friends that I no longer see around. That being said, I have noticed the topics never really change, which is understandable to a point. I also notice the pics never really change. Im not talking about the fake pics that the players pull off the internet. Im talking about the ONE pic out of 85 that we opt to post on our profile.
I just got done reading a post in this forum that talked about meeting ppl after talking to them on here.
I understand putting the best foot forward, hell, who wouldnt, but has anyone ever considered putting the very worst pic up? Let your ugly side be seen, and then let your personality, intellect, common sense, ability to complete senteces and point out colors, become a larger factor than the size of the chest or ... well that pretty much appears to be the gig.
Im not "hating" on anyone... its a simple question. One that has been asked, but of the ones that have asked, I no longer see on the site. (I checked) | |
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| Toss an ugly or a normal
Posted: 5/16/2007 2:13:20 AM | Welcome back, darlin! 
Yanno, back when I was single and talking to guys, I didn't mind one bit that they didn't offer me a picture because it allowed me to get to know them minus all the connotations my mind would instantly attach to their image once I saw it. It's a natural thing to do. I work the same way in the forums. I puposely try to ignore the left side of the page where pics and names appear, and try to focus only on the text available in their posts. I don't need to know what they look like in order to relate (or not) to their words. It's hard to do sometimes, but dang, I prefer it so much that it's become a bit of a game to see how many times I can tell who someone is simply by reading their words w/o seeing their pic/screen name. 
Ok, sometimes I get really bored here.
It's a numbers game, darlin...people have to find the best way to attract attention to themselves.:) | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:10:36 AM | I'm not quite sure what you are really saying OP. Example my pictures are normally natural. I took them myself in regular lighting, no makeup, wash n wear hair, no air brushing, no editing (just crupping) and current every few months. I look exactly like my pic which is usually the statement when I do meet anyone.
Are you suggesting that I intentionally take an 'ugly' picture. Even if I took one first thing in the morning, before coffee (I don't drink coffee) the only difference you would see would be my bed head BEFORE I run my fingers thru my hair. I understand what you are saying BUT I know that what you say is not applicable to all people. Heck I guess I could go out in the wind and mess my hair up BUT the ole fingers will just naturally do their thingy!
I have met some people at meets who don't look AT ALL like their posted pics in here. The pics are obviously professionally taken and/or air brushed and/or well made up.
Your point is valid BUT should not include everyone. The one thing I do know is that I am not going to "ugly me up" or "down" to please anyone. If I'm not pleased, I am numero uno in my books. Besides I don't know how to go 'ugly' without theatrical makeup and I wouldn't do that because I don't like ANY makeup on my skin.
So what would you suggest for us normal people. mmm black out some teeth?  | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:25:15 AM | | Um, as I understand it (correct me if I'm wrong), the purpose is to attract other people, not repel them. Some of us aspire to meet others in person eventually, not just interact online... | |
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Posted: 5/16/2007 6:47:42 AM | hell, who wouldnt, but has anyone ever considered putting the very worst pic up? Let your ugly side be seen
Doing it right now brother!
I have been posting my ugly pics for a very long time. If it wasn't for my inner beauty I guess I would have no beauty at all.
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Posted: 5/16/2007 8:51:27 AM | generally the first pic i send out isn't my best pic. infact it is me in a baseball cap and head phones with no make up. i send this one out to weed out the superficial people. i'm just as shallow as the next person, but i have realized in my lifetime that the no sparks guy that can talk about history or art or anything is far more attractive then the guy with six pack abs that only talks about energy drinks, when he last worked out, or if he looks fat in these genes (pun intended).
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Posted: 5/18/2007 2:17:53 AM | | Well I can't say I don't judge somewhat by pictures but what someone has to say, what they do, and their personality has a huge effect on attractiveness for me. But being on this for the purpose of dating I'm looking for a physical as well as mental/emotional attraction. A mental/emotional connection is great but if there's no physical attraction then the relationship isn't going to progress to anything more than friends. And seeing a pic just helps to determine if there is the potential for that physical spark or not. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 2:30:00 AM | "but has anyone ever considered putting the very worst pic up? "
If any chick on here likes my piss poor attitude and general disregard for anyone but myself then she can see a naked picture of my weiner... | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 4:43:53 AM | | I can't put up my pictures because they would scare the living hell out of everyone. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 5:23:06 AM | I solarized my face.... it doesn't get any uglier than that.
It's just another part of my elaborate screening process. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 9:12:04 AM | haha yeah. Both my pics are "before" pics. Working on the "after" pics
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Posted: 5/18/2007 12:42:22 PM | hiya puddle darlin!
...yep, ya caught me...all my pics are glamorous .....i mean, really! have ya ever seen fish lookin THAT good in real life?! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 12:50:34 PM | WOW that is a loaded question... and I always post ugly pictures and hope for the best, and I think it is a difficult, because I see flaws in myself that are the size of mountains, when it comes to others once I adore them I see their flaws but past those I see the depth, the delicate hues that make them appear to me extraordinary int their humanity and their fragility!
Do other's feel the same? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 12:51:32 PM | to you funny girl---way to go for trying to get to know one without a face---good girl---and yes why are we on here at all---to try and meet people of the same interest ---women with close to the same interest--and a good laugh now and then sure helps---to all have a good one out | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 2:09:57 PM | If you are here to make this thing work , I think it is best to have an accurate picture.
If you post a picture that looks much better than you actually do ....then it won't be a good first meeting! | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 2:19:36 PM | I have noticed a pattern with womens pictures.
They put the oldest picture first and the most recent last !
Are we being prepared for the shock of how they now look?
For gods sake come on ! if we meet you we are gonna see what you really look like.
I met someone about 2 years ago and she looked 10 years older than her "recent" picture.
I told her she was dishonest and I walked away from the date. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 3:03:25 PM | I go for the abnormal pics myself. The stranger, the better. Don't ask.
I had a lady tell me I look taller in my pic??????????? HUH? I do state my height in my profile. How does one look taller in a pic? Stand beside someone vertically challenged? Stilts? I don't know. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 3:09:38 PM | Well my photo is FOR SURE not a touched up one!
It's how I look all the time.
Pretty bad, huh? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 3:12:52 PM | Good question OP. I ran across a young lady's profile that was so unique I had to send it to some of my lady friends here on POF. She was physically very cute, not beautiful, but quite adorable. One of her pictures was a little different than the others and she had an explanation in her profile for the difference. She plainly stated that she put a picture of herself in her profile with her hair wet, undone, no make-up and no touch ups whatsoever. I thought that was great ~ and what self-esteem. I personally post what I have. Some are OK, some are marginal, but I don't post my "best" pictures. I usually look like myself, but let's face it ~ some days are better than others. 
My theory: undersell, overdeliver.  | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 3:26:32 PM | | Hey, even if you're ugly you should still put a pic on here. I did. And none of you can be as scary looking as me. C'mon. I once went to a dog show and won 1st prize. OK. So I didn't make that one up. That was Rodney Dangerfield. Or how about Rodney Dangerfield saw me and died of fright. My own mirror threatens to run away to someone better looking. Me and my self-depreciating humor. lol. I'm a f***ing nightmare come true. Damn it! :) | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 4:27:37 PM | Hey Handsome man!!
I am vain...I don't think my husband ever saw me without makeup in thirteen years of marriage But I have thought of posting a pic with my hair in curlers.. cig hangin' outta my mouth maybe some cold creme??? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 5:22:40 PM | I have an ugly pic up on purpose (that stash.. hahaha) and even an intentionally boring profile. It works much better than I thought it would
Highly recommend it if anyone doesn't want to meet shallow/superficial people | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 5:45:56 PM | | Welcome back, sweetheart!!! This thread has me in tears from laughing so hard! As if Indigo Rose, Funny Girl, Fry Lock and VeryGreenEyes could ever come up with a bad picture! Some people are just blessed with a natural beauty that can't be disguised, even when they try. The rest of us just hope for the best. My pic is normal. I'm often told it looks nothing like me. | |
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