| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 5/16/2007 8:02:34 AM | | I am a single lesbian mom who adopted a child. I'm having a hard time finding other single gay or lesbian parents that I can talk with and socialize. Either everyone is in a relationship or they are just looking for a good time. Does anyone know of any single parent gay oe lesbian groups? Thanks, Kitty | |
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 5/16/2007 10:11:24 AM | You should check with your local Gay/Lesbian Resource center. They will be best capable to assist you.
In Toronto, we actually have a Gay Yellow Pages with all sorts of resources available at your fungertips.. your city might have something similar.
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 5/16/2007 10:53:19 AM | when i was a member of the unitarian church (no longer) they made a concerted effort to welcome and work with gay/lesbian individuals and families. many people went to their original place of worship and there as well, just to be "themselves" for awhile. that was largely because at the time the minister was gay and her partner was an ex nun as well as social work expert in adoption. they also had an adopted son. the minister also influenced and educated the local council of churches, etc. as well as the national effort.
there is a san jose, CA gay and lesbian center where i took one of my kids when she was "questioning". they had a great teen group for gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, transgender and questioning teens. i believe they have parent networks as well for those who are gay/lesbian. their lesbian social worker worked with my daughter and part of that journey led her back to being heterosexual. to clarify: it seems that here in the high schools being gay or lesbian is becoming "popular" and it's challenging many of the gay/lesbian community resource centers "to get their kids to focus on their inner selves (not mtv) to address their sexual explorations as part of their "identities'! in addition they are helping them sort out post trauma issues. so my point is that to parents who are not gay or concerned, they should know this is not a choice, this is an identity/soul issue. the center is called billie de frank. although it's on this side of the usa, many have links to national resources--so i would call them and ask for national resources. they are long standing, well respected and my guess is they have these links as well as ideas for you to start something local if it doesn't exist.
i will say when i first moved here from the east coast, being gay or lesbian was much more open on the west coast. not sure how it is back there now. for example the county where san jose is in and i suspect many others in CA has an adoption consultant both to the kids if they are gay and to the parents as well if they are. there were also mentors and role models to assist in "either direction" to help "mixed" families out--be it parent or child who was gay/lesbian. you might try santa clara county foster/adopt unit if you can get through to see if that person will speak to you. perhaps you are needed to start a group like this yourself.
i haven't been back east since then but perhaps you can google an adoptive parent group and network there. there are many adoptive gay parents and i am sure they have the same issues that a heterosexual parent has when raising any child to be who she/he is. i think when you are working around issues, you will meet people with similar interests. even if you meet a couple at such a meeting, they might have a friend for you!
also if you are feeling the leadership call, try meetup dot com and if there is not such group you can start one. it usually is best to start an interest group for both married/partnered and singles. as said above, the couples are always willing to keep an eye for you.
also in san jose, even "some" of the catholic churches welcome gays and gay parents. they cannot change the religion but they can make people feel comfortable and open so they don't have to repress holding hands, etc. with their partners. so i guess my point is that change will happen, but slowly. a lot has to do with keeping "market share" and bending with the times.
if i find anything else in the course of my foster/adoptive mom journey, i'll let you know. | |
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 5/17/2007 9:20:04 AM | What state agency saw fit to hand over a baby to a single woman even ignoring the fact of her sexual preferences? I read story after story about loving hetero couples who can't find a baby to adopt and they give one to a single woman?
Just curious !!
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 7/24/2007 11:56:10 AM | Actually; there are thousands of children looking for a good home. they just arn't the "right" children for those couples.
Any couple who can't locate a child is probably looking for an alternative to having physical labor, not looking to provide a home for a child.
I know a couple who adopted a little girl after having three boys. She was an abandonded child (mother was a crack head). They would parade her in front of people and say "look how nice and great we are for doing this"
As soon as one of the boys became the father of a little girl, their adoptive child became nothing more then a servant/baby sitter/hassle/expense who was unceremoniously kicked out on her 18th birthday without warning.
They now claim that they went out of their way to pay for this child that wasn't theirs and how ungreatful she is for them putting a roof over her head. | |
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 7/24/2007 1:04:08 PM | I would try the mothering.com forums if I was you they have a "queer parents" board that looks like it is very active.
I think its great the you decided to become a parent. The ability to be a great parent is not dependant on your sexual orientation. | |
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 7/24/2007 1:15:44 PM | not done living together:
your story gave me goose bumps... that is so tragic. it is so sad to see how some people can actually be that selfish.
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 9/20/2007 1:13:00 PM | | i am in same situation (although i gave birth rather than adoption) am also finding it hard to socialise, also finding my friends are not really into kids although they try to be for my sake. don't know of any groups though-let me know if u find any | |
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 6/20/2008 12:52:37 PM | | im in a very similar situation and also am trying to find a way to meet others. it's very difficult meeting friends and/or anything more because of my children and the fact of being a lesbian. | |
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| Where can I find Single lesbian parents?
Posted: 6/22/2008 6:00:42 AM | Homophobe and apparently an idiot, with many children remaining in the system until they are essentially unadoptable, it is only certain types of babies as others indicated that are in demand and many others would be lucky to find a good home whether the parent is a part of a couple or single, gay or straight. Two of the best parents I know are raising a bright, kind little boy together and what is a shame is that they will likely not adopt again because it was such a painful and difficult experience getting their son.
If you are wanting people to talk to that are parents and experiencing the same things you do, what difference does it make if they are in a relationship? They dated before they were together so they have that knowledge in addition to the parenting issues that should make interaction with gay couples with children equally as positive as single gay parents.
Is this a thead about being a single parent or about finding appropriate gay dating partners if you are a parent? I suspect that most of the issues that straight people dating with children experience, outside the whole sexual orientation aspect of it, is the same in the gay community. Single people have limited understanding of parenting, other parents have greater problems finding time to spend with the SO, among a few others.
Just encouraging you to think outside the box a bit. Think more along the lines of networking with gay parents, not necessarily single gay parents, and you will run into some single people as well. | |
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