| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 2:25:30 PM | I'd like to know (from men mostly, but women too) why after weeks of emailing back and forth and "getting to know each other thru email" do some people all of a sudden stop responding? Just when you get to the point where it seems like maybe you're ready to meet? Is that it? Is it because you don't really want to pursue a relationship and if so, why are you emailing in the first place? There's nothing in the emails that should be threatening, or make you feel like you need to back away. And without saying anything about it.
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 2:33:30 PM | Well here's a few possible reasons.
1) They found someone else...Part of life
2) They lied in their profiles..losers
3) As you said, they aren't really interested in meeting..Such a time waster
4) they are married and chickened being cheater..Good for them
Maybe you need to progress to the phone or meeting faster? Totally up to how you feel and your safety concerns.
Just a few thoughts.
Best of luck
Lookee | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 2:53:37 PM | Well some people are just idiots and like to string others people along for there own sick sense of humour .If they just disappeared they are not worth the effort anyway ,no class ,gutless cowards they are and most deserve better i would think ,but hey each to thier own ........But i do think it is pretty rude and cowardly myself ,just tell the person the truth and be done with it period ,but for some that is a hard thing to do i am afraid ........ | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 3:24:38 PM | * They have other women on the list of contacts that take up their time and they found someone else to hold their interest more!
* Married or attached
* Player with multiple women
* No balls to meet in person - they only play on line!
Don't ever take it personal - simply move on - you will run into plenty more before you find the good guys - but the good guys are here!!! | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 3:46:55 PM | 1) They found someone else
2) They were just seeing if they could get you to agree to meet them
3) They lied on their profile and can't let you see the truth
4) They were bored and just using you to keep themselves occupied
5) Their wife/girlfriend found out
6) They have too many women that they're playing, and they forgot which one you were
7) They figured they're not really interested
8) They're scared of finally meeting you
9) They're asshats | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 3:48:02 PM | * They have fake profiles, and suddenly cancel their profile ( had that happen to me)
* Married or involved
As Leanne put: Definitely no balls to meet in person: which means a fake person....there seem to be alot of them on the personal sites:
By the way, his loss....for not emailing back if he was REAL! | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 5:06:31 PM | Well it just dosent happen to women, I have had a couple of women i was e-mailing back and forth with in the past and the mail just stopped. Oh well i dont take it to heart, it just means it wasnt ment to be. It is obvious that there was loss of interest thats all. Conversations have been known to go dry. And there is PLENTY OF FISH ! Hence the site lol. So dont let a bad experience get you down. All you have to do is throw back the bottom feeders and keep that line in the water because one day you will catch that one fish that is one in a million , Yup im talking a keeper !  | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 6:09:41 PM | | Indeen Slayer....I've had many, many, many emails suddenly come to a halt just after one or two back and forth convos. Email chats tend to be rather impersonal really...after all your not talking face to face...just text to text. There's no emotional expression that can be seen out of an email...just a lot of smiley gifs and gaps in waiting times for repsonses. | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 6:09:52 PM |
Why do the emails suddenly stop? ahhhhhhh, they're really just not that into you?
Seriously, if they were they would not stop - it's that simple. | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 6:17:15 PM | Try this......
Email 5 emails max! Exchange phone numbers, talk twice...max! Arrange a date within a week and see if there is something there.
I once spent that much time emailing and hours talking on the phone, we finally met and there was no connection. All I kept thinking was how much laundry I could have gotten done in all the time spent "chatting".
When you talk for a long period of time, people burn out and feel like you want nothing but a pen pal. There is nothing worse than letting a lot of time pass before meeting; it gives people the chance to create the "you" in their mind that does not exist.
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 6:24:22 PM | | Try going out to some of the POF events...meet some people that way. You never know...you may get that look across the room from someone interesting! :) | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 6:45:44 PM | A lot of people get bored with what seems like endless emails. The longer you need to take to 'feel comfortable' to meet someone or even to just talk on the phone, the longer someone else has to get to know that person by chatting on msn or on the phone.
Just do it...if you feel some interest after a couple emails...just get out there and meet!
Ya snooze, ya loose! | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 7:07:08 PM | The hockey game or a Law & Order marathon was on?
Took extra time at the sample tables at Costco?
Doing terrible things to a dog with a fork (joking, would have to wash the fork afterwards) | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 8:22:08 PM | Ditto, Slayer!  I get bored easily and when I get bored with back and forth emails, I stop emailing. Go to POF events instead, as Cartershill mentioned. I stopped writing back and forth and even mentioned in my profile that I prefer to meet head on at a local Meet & Greet. If we don't click, at least the guy has the other ladies to meet.
There's lots of  in the sea.
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/17/2007 11:46:23 PM | Hey did you ever happen to think that just maybe you were emailing back an forth for months and he wa gettting tired of just email !!! I know I would grow tired of just emailing back & forth with someone for months on end . I prefer to break the ice in a couple emails and then set up a first meet . As thats only when both of you will really know if theres anything gonna click between each other or not.
And as for emailing I have stopped entirely trying to even make first contact with any protential lady as all they do is read& delete the bloody things anyways . And now if their interested then they can bloody well email me first for a change.
I have not sent an email to anyone on here in over 3 months and it don't matter if I get any or not . As either theres someone wanting to meet me or theres not on here. But its not the only way to meet someone .
Also I find most females would rather be here for show and afraid to be someone to make first contact with a guy ! Heavens forbid they might actually find someone wanting to date them !LOL | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/18/2007 3:17:47 AM | Wow - so many harsh words ... (I'm kinda thinkin' some folks have more than a microchip on their shoulders ...)
LMAO at "... All I kept thinking was how much laundry I could have gotten done in all the time spent "chatting". ..." (Finally!!! A kindred spirit!!! I'm in luv!!!!!!)  | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/18/2007 7:17:06 AM | After weeks of messaging back and forth? Damn...I'm sorry, but I am not waiting weeks/months to meet someone...
If I'm interested, I usually know after a few conversations... | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/19/2007 9:53:55 PM | | Me personally I am horrible at keeping in touch with people. I stop messaging when I do not have anything worthwhile to say and I do not want to seem idiotic with a one word "cool" answer, or I just say "I will msg them later" and forget. Then yeah I might look like a jerk for peeking at the message and not responding cause I do not look at it again to remind myself. :) but I am just projecting here my reasons for not responding to emails. IT is not because we are afraid, but also some conversations between people can just die cause let's face it. When we know we are too different why bothering continuing if social friendly contact as friends will not happen? (Hope I did not offend too many people.) | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/20/2007 5:10:20 AM | i think mostly just a loss of interest.
them's the breaks...the joy of online dating...rejection comes in a silent package. | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/20/2007 5:31:46 AM | I've had that happen to me, just don't take it personal.
I get chatting away and eventually I would like to meet the person I'm talking to even if it's just as a friend meeting a friend, male or female. | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/20/2007 5:44:47 AM | | i could write a book about rejection but what is the point if someone stops emailing you then they really dont want to know you sorry bout their loss | |
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| Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Posted: 5/20/2007 12:38:59 PM |
Subject: Why do the emails suddenly stop?
Message: Try this......
Email 5 emails max! Exchange phone numbers, talk twice...max! Arrange a date within a week and see if there is something there.
I once spent that much time emailing and hours talking on the phone, we finally met and there was no connection. All I kept thinking was how much laundry I could have gotten done in all the time spent "chatting".
When you talk for a long period of time, people burn out and feel like you want nothing but a pen pal. There is nothing worse than letting a lot of time pass before meeting; it gives people the chance to create the "you" in their mind that does not exist.
That sounds about right, just not necessarily a set number as such.
Myself, I'm not so much into messaging back and forth, spending hours on the keyboard. I' much rather enjoy having a life than watching an excuse for one online.
If someone seems they aren't into meeting in the real word or just has nothing of interest to say, their messages become more annoying than anything and just unwantingly fills my inbox. And some people don't get the hint even when you tell them flat out that you don't think there's anything worth pursuing there.
Whether on-line or real-life, the rules of some common interest still have to apply both ways, Attraction, Interest, and Interaction. | |
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