| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/18/2007 4:44:30 PM | well i beggin from the start
i met this guy on here from fort mac, but was in school here for trades, when i met him we had great start.
it didnt bother him that i had a daughter at home and son at great uncle.
for 6months it was great
until i found out he was engaged and he said he wasnt looking for relationship and he was using me so he can have many sex with many females before he got married.
he is muslim so i thought he was honest, he said he was just cuz he told me half way after that he was getting married.
when he should had told me from the start.
he said he wanted break it off the marriage
his mom was the one who set his marriage with a cousin back home in pakistan.
so stupid me believed he was going to break off the engagement
then it proof it that he only wanted me for sex when i had surgery to remove an ovrian cyst. the doc wanted no sex before surgery and 8-10 weeks after
we argued alot cuz he wanted his need met./SEX IS REALLY ABOUT INTAMANCY AND BOND. IT NOT ABOUT GENTITAL BANGING EACH OTHER.
i was still trying to heal.
it was taking long cuz i was in school, dealing with 24/7 child with ADD/ODD, homework, and housework DOING ALL IT MYSELF WITH NO HELP.
now it was getting to day of his wedding and still never talk to his mom.
i was doing alot of thinking i dont want date a married man cuz its morally wrong and too many people get hurt.i broke it off with him so nowi have respect for myself.
he still on this site and tells people he single and looking for friends but the truth he will still go out and have sex relationships
he not being honest to his wife or friends who think he single and think they could have a chance with him.
i told him someday your world will come crashing down when they find out the truth that he is married.
i told him the truth will always come out in the end and how can he live with himself knowing he hurting the person he with.
why does this bother me well its the lie and i want to prevent pain and hurt from others that he really married he think his friend wont like him if he married.i said if there true friend the will except you as a friend if you are married.
LAST BUT LEAST he says he not inlove with wife so it dont count if he having sex with others. i said watch out for stds/aids and sex not the answer to sleep around, and your mom will be very angry and both parents will disown you and friends will be mad cuz you lied to them by keeping a secret your married AND you mk will be alone and nothing i can do to help you cuz your the 1 dug your hole of mess and i cant bale you out  | |
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| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/18/2007 4:55:39 PM | well ok ok ok this is a pretty common story...nothing all that remarkable about it except you said :
"HE IS MUSLIM SO I THOUGHT HE WAS HONEST".......................hahahahaha OMG lady are you serious??? HOW did you ever come to that conclusion? Wowweee?? Oh well live and LEARN. When I was a little child I thought all CATS were girls and all DOGS were boys. So.....we do get some screwy ideas sometimes!!! But wow...muslim= honest!! hahaha thats a good one!!!
you have to judge people individually and on their personal character and behavior. predjudice like "muslim = honest" causes problems.
and lets see what else.....oh yeah. Sex really is simiply about banging around. LOVE is about intimacy and bonding. There is a HUGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGE difference.
anyway....all the rest of that story is so ordinary...everyday stuff. SUre yes it sucks. He's a jerk. Feel sorry for his wife....be GLAD you aren't HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank Jesus, Buddha and Allah for that !!
Dumbass people are a dime a dozen. why waste time worrying aobut them? Jsut learn a lesson and move on. | |
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| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/18/2007 5:02:16 PM | you should have broken off the relationship cold turkey when you found out he was engaged.
There would be a lot less horror stories if a lot of you women weren't so eager to make excuses for engaged/married cheaters.
Forget about whether or not he's "going to leave", honestly now, if he's having sex with YOU while he's engaged to someone else, do you REALLY think he'll be any more faithful to you? | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 5:07:09 PM | YES HE IS MUSLIM I BEEN TOLD THEY ARE FAMILY AND THEY REALLY VALUE IT.
HE WAS MY SECOND LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP
SO I AM STILL LEARNING
I JUST WANTED VENT AND GET IT MY CHEST
EVEYONE HAS DIFERENT MEANING OF SEX AND LOVE
I LEARNED FROM IT NO MATTER WHAT CULTURE OR COLOUR OR RACE THAT MOST MAN/WEMAN ACT THE SAME
I AM LEARNING ALOT AND MOVING ON
AND I JUST WANTED VENT ON HOW IT WAS BOTHERING ME AND ITS GREAT NOW I AM FEELING BETTER THAT I GOT OFF MY CHEST.
I AM ON THIS SITE TO MET NEW FRIENDS
MAYBE FIND SOMEONE WHO COLD BE THE ONE
I AM HUMAN AND I MADE SOME BAD CHOICES BUT I ALSO MADE SOME GREAT CHOICES TOO
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| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/18/2007 5:12:30 PM |
I LEARNED FROM IT NO MATTER WHAT CULTER OR COLOUR OR RACE THAT ALL MAN/WEMAN ACT THE SAME
If that were true, what are you doing on a dating site? Amazing how by your "second long term relationship" you've managed to pidgeonhole "all" people of either sex into a mold that they "all act the same". Remember, if you have one bad relationship, ok, maybe its them. Two, time to start looking at yourself. And by the third, maybe its not *them* its *you* and your bad choices. | |
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| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/29/2007 9:30:12 PM | so true. people make bad choices all the time. but they should learn from their first bad chioce and try not to repeat it. There are always two sides to the story, what if the guy did opposite of what you claimed he did. maybe the guy missed makin love to you when you had the surgery and could'nt make love to you, and kindda mentioned it to you that he misses it. that probably did'nt mean that he was using you for sex. maybe he really loved you, like getting you gifts on special occations, or taking you out to movies or dinners, these are not signs of you bieng his fling, these are the sign that he was involved with you in a serious relationship. Maybe you did'nt wanted to go because you probably like it better at home, even when your kid is out. but who knows what he did or did not do. but i'm not buying your story unless i hear from the other guy. Sory hun, but honesty is the best Policy, stop kiddin yourself. You should get some professional  . | |
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| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/29/2007 9:40:56 PM | There's a certain class of foreign male who, like this character, believe anything goes in the land of the Great Satan (or Lesser Satan or basically anywhere the wife and her family doesn't know about it). They will happily have a Western girlfriend just like they saw in the movies, use and abuse her, but never forget that family comittment is paramount (as is any benefit through an arranged marriage, honor, and all the things involved in it). You just discovered that the hard way.
No contact with the guy, move on from him, block him here, etc. All you can do. | |
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| its hard find honesty
Posted: 5/30/2007 3:39:46 AM |
he is muslim so i thought he was honest
Now that is funny, ive never known an honest Muslim in my life. Mind you I dont know any 
his mom was the one who set his marriage with a cousin back home in pakistan
Now that explains it all hes a mummys boy.
SEX IS REALLY ABOUT INTAMANCY AND BOND. IT NOT ABOUT GENTITAL BANGING EACH OTHER
Hmm interesting assumption, oh come on woman get real.
he says he not inlove with wife so it dont count if he having sex with others
Doesnt matter whether ehs in love or not having sex with his future partner, hes using you until he can get her, wake up go make a coffee. | |
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