Sigi
| | Joined: 5/26/2005 Msg: 1 | |
| | Compatibility match? What match?!?Page 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Ha....while scrolling around on the site...I found out the compatibility match is working. Ahum...'working'. Being sarcastic now....
The highest ranking...around 96%. I will share with you some parts of their profiles, or even the complete profile, of 'the top 5'.
"hope to find that right woman who has a longing for the right man & wants god to be part of it too i am i like camping hiking fishing is ok i love to be a couch tater n watch a good movie from time to time i dis like foul words (if your under 18) or people who do not know how to be respectfull of others there so much i like it would take all ..................."
Anyway...got a bit tired to continue reading and trying to find out where the sentence would stop or end and what it was all about and trying to follow this and again I got a bit tired of that and...
I would like to find someone who above all is living for the Lord
I should have known...obvious after filling in the questions about 'family orientation'.
Good looking guy looking for an attractive woman for fun and good times. Discrete or casual encounters, regular hook-ups....I'm currently seperated soon to be divorced. Want to make new friends and have fun in the process. If interested drop me a line.
Huh..96% ?!?
I am not interested in being a sperm donor to lesbian couples or anyone else.
Ok...interesting to know....
well iam a opend mined guy just want a woman that likes to have fun and wants a long term life iam a hard working man thru the week but on the weekend its my time to have fun i know how to treat a good woman i just need a chance to do that and prove that i can do just that but a man cannot if the woman that have had bad men in there life i do understand that but thats not fair to the good men like me whats so wrong with wanting a good life and have someone to love and respect at all times come on ladys heres your chance please E MAIL ME!!!!!! THIS IS WHAT A LOT OF WOMAN ARE LOOKING FOR SO HERE IAM
Ok....Now I'm so done here....laugh:
Thanks POF for the laugh! Time for some coffee...
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 9:58:21 AM | | I took a look at that too. I probably wouldn't date 99% of the people it said I was 90% or higher with. None of them were my type and their profiles were short and rather boring. I probably won't pay too much attention to that part of the site. | |
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Ron9
| | Joined: 8/10/2004 Msg: 3 | |
| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 10:06:22 AM | Good observation Sigi lol.
I did not take the test. Maybe I have been around too long to have much faith in that kind of testing/profiling.
I will continue to use my own eyes/mind/heart when it comes to looking for my sweetie pie. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 10:13:41 AM | Yikes! Thanks for pointing out that it's working now. lol One of my highest matches was with a guy who has a pantyhose fetish and who hopes it's something we can enjoy together. WTH is a pantyhose fetish? Does he wear them? Do I have to sleep in them? Very confusing.
Another was with a friend's ex...who during his marriage had sex with multiple women and men, and who has spent much time locked up in mental institutions.
Quite a few of my matches were 3 hundred miles away. | |
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tdh46
| | Joined: 1/7/2007 Msg: 5 | |
| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 10:14:19 AM | I looked at mine and had 3 count them 3 people that i was 100 percent match with. I wonder if i am now honor bound to contacting those people?
It's just like anything else in online dating, I think it might be a good ice breaker if you happen to see someone that you like, and they happen to be a good match. But i really don't put too much stock into it. | |
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Sigi
| | Joined: 5/26/2005 Msg: 6 | |
| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 10:34:48 AM |
I will continue to use my own eyes/mind/heart when it comes to looking for my sweetie pie.
Ron, yes... I'll stick to that as well...
It's just like anything else in online dating
tdh46....true! That's why!  | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 10:36:03 AM | WHAT THEY REALLY NEED IS TO CHANGE THE COMPATIBILITY TEST SO THAT THERE IS A QUESTION ON THERE THAT WOULD HELP THOSE OF US WHO WHEN WE GO AND TRY TO LOOK AT ONE OR MORE THAN ONE OF THE PROFILES THAT THIS TEST HAS MATCHED US WITH. THIS VERY SIMPLE QUESTION IS ONE THAT I AM SURE THAT MULTIPLE POF MEMBERS WOULD AGREE WITH ONE HUNDRED PERCENT. IT IS NOT THAT WE ARE ANAL RETENTIVE BY ANY MEANS NO MATTER WHAT THE PERSON MAY THINK. IT IS JUST THAT THIS ONE LITTLE THING REALLY DOES HURT THE PERSON'S PROFILE AND OFTEN I WON'T EVEN BOTHER READING THE WHOLE THING. IT ISN'T BECAUSE THE PERSON IS BORING, FAT, OR ANYTHING ELSE. IT IS JUST THAT THERE IS NO WAY THAT I COULD POSSIBLY EVER GO THROUGH SO MANY PROFILES THAT I SEE THAT HAVE THIS MISTAKE. OKAY ACTUALLY IT IS TWO LITTLE THINGS AND I GUESS I LIED ABOUT IT BEING ONE LITTLE THING BUT I AM PRETTY SURE THAT THE SMARTER POF'ERS HAVE ALREADY FIGURED OUT THE TWO THINGS I AM TALKING ABOUT HAVEN'T YOU? YOU SMART LITTLE FISHIES...
Learn proper paragraph formatting, and for God's sake...take the CAPS LOCK off!
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tdh46
| | Joined: 1/7/2007 Msg: 8 | |
| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 10:38:59 AM | WHY ARE U SCREAMING AT US. AND TAKE A BREATH AND STOP THAT DAMN RAMBLING.
silly u of course i got it....I WAS KIDDING | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 11:14:04 AM | I think the problem is that POF tries to ask all sorts of psychologically "deep" questions without taking care of the basics. Match dot com has gotten it right in this respect, in that you fill out a much more detailed profile (with, notably, the option to check multiple boxes in areas such as ethnicity) and you can rate how important certain qualities are to you (such as religion, ethnicity, etc). This has resulted in matches that seem much more compatible with me. It lets you almost completely eliminate people who you really wouldn't get along with, as well (I wouldn't date a fundamentalist, for example). POF needs to get more detailed in its profile data first, then use that profile data in combination with its personality test. I hope you're listening, POF...
Also, while I do find match.com's mutual-matching mechanism really cool... you of course have to deal with other aspects of the site, and I have yet to have any success with anyone responding to my winks, even. No response. Not even a 'no thanks'. I bet none of them are even subscribers.  | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 11:16:47 AM | Iknow, I felt the same way about EHarmony I kept hoping to meet someone that actually MATCHED what I was looking for and it never happened. I wanted a college educated professional who enjoyed reading, cooking and family times. I specifically mentioned museums, theatre and ballet. I was offered tatoos, harley riders, mechanics and landscapers. I am sure they were all lovely men but it was not what I asked for. I know there are wonderful women out there that have the exact qualities these men wanted too. But why would anyone even consider setting up a free spirited outdoorsman with a bookworm like me? Unless they set you up with EVERYBODY withing 5 years of you and the rest is BS. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:07:06 PM | I compared hundreds of thousands of people who added each other as friends and took the test. Basically found that if your match has a higher then 90% you are about 1.2 to 2 times more likely to date that person depending on what kind of person you are.
Its probably the fact that people with very divergent personalities tend to piss off people so no matches are formed there. If you get a lot of users mailing you with similar personalities you are more likely to get along with them. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:11:12 PM | | So is there any way to widen the search pattern based on the personality and compatibility tesat. 200 miles doesn't even get me to the next city. | |
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Sigi
| | Joined: 5/26/2005 Msg: 15 | |
| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:25:57 PM |
Its probably the fact that people with very divergent personalities tend to piss off people so no matches are formed there.
^^ Admin, can you explain this one some more please....
If you get a lot of users mailing you with similar personalities you are more likely to get along with them.
But you mentioned earlier in your post....'depending on what kind op person you are'. I'm confused here. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:34:02 PM | I just took the test for the first time today and immediately took it off my profile!! It had me as "low on family orientation" because I "disagreed" with the "I want to get married" statement... and "somewhat disagreed" with the "I love to cook" statement!!! It says I "prefer eating out at restaurants and going to clubs and parties" and that "perhaps I'm not ready to settle down in a serious relationship" all of which couldn't be further from the truth! I don't "love to cook" and I'm not "looking to get married".... certainly doesn't mean I'm against marriage and only into partying!
I was SOOOOO relieved to see I had a choice to show it or not... thanks for that POF! but I'll do my "matching" based on my own requirements and what I learn about people in the natural course of online dating thank you very much! | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:40:16 PM | the following is from my test and I still have no matches?
Self-Confidence
As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent. The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily. Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.
Family Orientation
As someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood. You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants. What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.
Self-Control
The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being moderate in self-control can be both good and bad. People may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control means that this may happen occasionally. This can be good in situations where focus and control are very important. However, on certain occasions being able to give in to one’s temptations can be fun and even healthy (as long as it’s in moderation). As someone who exerts a moderate amount of control of your actions, you may find that you exert too much stress on yourself sometimes. For example, you may be inclined to take more responsibility on projects, which may not always be necessary. This might be because you have a slight tendency to focus on the details and feel as though others may not be able to do as good of a job noticing such details as yourself. You might find it difficult to let others do certain jobs, and as a result, increase your own workload and stress level. Having moderate self-control is generally a good thing. Although you have good control over your impulses, you also take notice of your emotions and sometimes take them into account while making decisions. This can be good when making important decisions because you acknowledge that your underlying feelings may be trying to tell you something important.
Openness
As someone high in openness, you have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your own emotions. Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing. Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.
Easygoingness
Easygoingness refers to one's ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to work and play hard. The benefits of being moderate in easygoingness are that you achieve success through hard work, but you also know when and how to relax. Your colleagues and friends likely consider you as reliable and fun to be around. Being moderate in easygoingness can cause you some stress, however. For example, you may sometimes find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently, which can cause stress for both you and the people around you. You may occasionally experience stress by working hard to reach your goals, but you value having fun and just relaxing. Knowing how to balance both work and play is a gift, and you have the key ingredients for doing this. You have enough mental flexibility to think creatively and enough focus to implement those ideas well. This might be epitomized by your occasional difficulty focusing on subtle details, but the ease with which you’re able to adjust to changes in your life. As someone who is neither rigid nor careless, you likely get along with most people well. On the one hand, you recognize the value of working hard and therefore consider such qualities in others beneficial. On the other hand, you know how to relax and thus appreciate people that know how to do this too. Chances are your friends and colleagues perceive you as someone that works hard, but also knows how to have a good time.
How does your personality affect your love life?
With your strong degree of self-confidence, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner. Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life. Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club. You may find it difficult to get along well with people that are too uptight or too impulsive. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also has a good degree of self-control. Being in a relationship with someone who has too much might be frustrating because that person might find it difficult to relax; whereas being in a relationship with someone who does not have enough self-control could be frustrating because that person may not always take your thoughts and feelings into account when making decisions. Thus, it might be easiest and most satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who is equally capable of regulating his/her urges, but who also knows how to relax from time to time. Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique. So either I am unique or there is something flawed in the matching system | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:52:50 PM | It was nice of POF to try and give us all another tool to find our match ... But the problem with these sorts of "tests" is the same no matter what site you find them on. There's more or less a disclaimer that because the test is generalized it may not be an exact description of who you really are or truly reflect your personality in all cases. If you take this kind of test in a mental health proffesional's office there are several pages of questions to help them try and decide what you are really all about. Simply put you can't make any accurate projections of what makes somebody tick from such a short and generalized test... You'll be much better off using your own brain and gut instincts when it comes to deciding if someone is a match for you or not. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 12:58:54 PM | ARUGULA!!! I am laughing so hard I think I wet myself-LMAO!!!
My matches - you dont even want to know- Good observation SIGI- I think I will continue to make my own choices- as bad as they are- I seem to have a problem with judging peoples character here - they have none- I took the personality test and got bored and started making up answers so its not real - my attention span sucks. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 1:14:40 PM | I must be easy to match because I have lots of results that look interesting. Most are articulate, educated and have written a great profile. There are a few short profiles without a lot of detail but not many. And for some reason it thinks I am compatible with artists and musicians. I do have a creative side but I have not mentioned that anywhere in my profile. Hmmmm interesting for sure.
I don't have any 100% matches but lots in the 90% range. Very interesting. It seems a lot of them live on Vancouver Island - perahps I should relocate
Perhaps I am the exception to the norm but my matches are mostly intersting. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 1:21:32 PM | | I have no real use for them personally as I believe there is no technical way to make a perfect match. Chemistry cannot be measured IMO. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 2:05:15 PM | Actually this is all quite simple ... The supposed experts that make these types of tests believe that we are not smart enough to figure out for ourselves who we are compatible with.
So looking forward to the day when there is a group of "experts" sitting in a room somewhere deciding who should be with whom, and we will just have to accept that. Maybe that will just be decided on the day we are born.
Possibly a little far-fetched - though is it. I checked out eharmony once, and the only members profiles that I got to see were the ones that the system decided were a match for me. I sent an email about this, and received the reply that their personality and compatibility matching was done by experts and it is NOT wrong. | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 2:13:55 PM | I dont see how the test could work.
Lets say I was a 98% match for a woman. The same woman takes the test and it says I was a 60% match.
I stay away from them tests. I spent 40 minutes doing one on eharmony a while back only to find out I'm not compatible with ANYONE! | |
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| Compatibility match? What match?!? Posted: 5/20/2007 2:22:02 PM | Arugula, now you've gone and done it! Someone is bound to feel a need to enlighten us about that all important pantyhose fetish. Ha, ha, ha.
I refuse to take the test. Why? Because about 3 yrs ago I took the free test e-harmony offers and they seemed to think my perfect matches were at least 17 yrs older. I beg your pardon??? Nope, not interested in men my father's age. | |
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