| Hi Advice?
Posted: 8/21/2004 8:51:21 PM | Well firstly im new here, So hey ;)
Anyways I dont have really any experience with women. I am older now but dont really know how to go about getting a date or approaching girls. Around here the only places i can really gooo are like malls and stuff. Im not at the legal drinking age so i cant get into bars.
I was really shy in highschool to the point where it was disruptive to my social life.. Now that im over it, Im 18 and ive never even been on a date.
I did have a online relationship that lasted about 6 months which did involve phone calls. But we never met in person. That now went no where. Ugh
I am not overweight, Im not mr.america but i consider myself in decent shape.
I geuss i need some advice on how to go about approaching a women. When theres not really the scene such as a bar or dances availiable around here. Just seems theres never a proper enviroment to start a conversation. I dont know. maybe just some encouragment and tips would be nice. I kind of get lonely and stuff.
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Posted: 8/21/2004 10:22:30 PM | First Concentrate on Setting Goals and Furthering your Education.
Never settle for being second best achieve higher expectations for your self no matter what you decide to do.
Work on building your self- esteem by talking to anyone and everyone.
Be friendly, congenial and open. Be the first to say hello to strangers where ever you meet them. This will help in developing friendly social skills and overcoming your shyness.
You are unique and the center of your own universe.
When you feel like hesitating do the opposite! You will have more positive results then negative. If you fear rejection then you will surely fail (at least in your own mind.)
Take chances put yourself out there, if you are rejected use that as a means to understand that you cannot be everything to everyone.
Relationships rarely look like romantic movies or books.
Imaginary people fall in love quickly and live happily ever after.
Real people fall into real love slowly and live fully ever after.
You can only have a great relationship when you don't need one.
When your life is so wonderful that having a relationship looses its focus is when you will attract the right mate. This is not the same as forcing yourself not to think about relationships or shutting down out of disappointment.
A relationship is like a living being - it needs love, caring, space, etc.
People tend to either ignore or smother relationships. In the first case they ignore their partner, thinking that a relationship, once established, will always be there. In the second case they spend every moment with their partner, give and expect undivided attention. If you had a pet, how would it survive under such conditions?
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Posted: 8/21/2004 11:42:45 PM | Greetz, Snoug. Have fun in this forum.
Have a look at this thread:
General Forums > Dating & Love Advice > Re: Being shy and you want to flirt.
Or just paste this into your browser address field:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts14724.aspx
A lot of stuff was written by many people, incl. myself several months ago, so you can always surf the "Old" threads and read up on the good advices given in the past.
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Posted: 8/22/2004 12:44:42 AM | ha ha ha. Same story read over and over again.
I can relate to this young guys never getting any.
They are gonna get older like me and if they don't want to
do it, they might not get to do it. It's not low self steem at all, with me
I know I'm ugly. I was told a million times. I will never forget the day the friend
of this girl I wanted to go with her said, "You are very nice... But you are ugly as fuc-."
Then there was that time I was driving on Sunset Blvd. on a weekend night. This girls wanted to see who was driving. They looked at me and again, I will never forget the faces they made when they saw me. Specially the girl on the back seat. It was an Ughh! face.
You know how they exploit this scene on sitcom tv. The guy is ugly and doesn't get any sex and his sister is very pretty and hot and a slut. Isn't tv just recycled ideas and jokes?
I could have typed this message back when I was 18 or 19. But I'm writting it now at 34.
I don't care what you all say, I will never repent for the way I use to get girls.
Now I have to return a favor and go to the Philipines Islands and get to know a girl who wants to come to this country. Just like so many men who couldn't get a woman in this our country. I have to go and kind of get a mail order bride. Maybe it's time. Wish me luck.
I'll tell you when I go and what happens. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2004 1:25:39 AM | | except im not really ugly..... | |
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Posted: 8/22/2004 5:07:17 AM | robetini...Nobody is just ugly! How about posting a picture of yourself?
Noses, ears, bad complextions can be fixed if you have the mind to if you think one of those are an issue for your self esteem. Young people can be so cruel to each other. My son is 15 and looks are so important to him it makes me ill. He can't understand if you were born with good looks it is because you were lucky, not because your are gifted like being intelligent.
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Posted: 8/22/2004 5:16:31 AM | Snoug....Do you have any sisters? Girls are just people too. They feel like you do too.
You may feel like you are older but on the dating scene you are just a beginner so don't be so critical about your shyness. The easiest way to talk to a girl is if the girl is interested in something you know about. Conversation will just flow.
Are there any clubs or volunteer groups for you to join? The extra good thing about volunteering is that it is good on a resume too. Good luck and you are a nice looking young fellow. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2004 6:58:51 AM | | hi i was after abit of advice what do u all think of meeting up with people from over the net for the first time? | |
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Posted: 8/22/2004 11:08:55 AM | thank you for the support.
I never did think about volunteering. Maybes theres like a weekend thing i can do or something when im off work.
Anyhow thanks again and have a good week ;) | |
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Posted: 8/24/2004 5:55:31 PM | ENERGISER3
welcome to the forum
make sure you have a friend with you
make sure there not bullshitting you to embarrass you.
make sure there not married (net dectective is great to buy)
A park, a coffee shop a mall or a pub..... places that you can run out off....
take it as a first meeting and dont make promises.....
ask her to bring a mother or father (they dont lie) | |
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Posted: 8/24/2004 5:57:46 PM | Oh god mate you live near me..... (laughing)
Take me along Im a good bouncer lol.
Live in dalby hope you find someone I might know afew beautiful ladies fo ryou....... | |
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