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 HONEY IM IN THE MAIL
Joined: 4/25/2007
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Wanted to get Mens feed back on what a Man does to stimulate his
womans sexual appetite ?
Or To be so sexy that your woman or mate will drop everything
and have appetite for sex with you ?
to jump mens bones at there every whim for sex .
How do you sexually excite the woman before the act of sex ?

Scenario : If you get off work and want to have sex shortly thereafter
and she is doing the dishes or working on project ,what do you do to
get her to have sexual appetite for you to meet your need to have sex with
her? Or maybe she just got home from work and very tired .
And what do you do if she does not get in the mood for sex ? At that moment !
And you still have desire and hot tamale

 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
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MEN HOW DO YOU SEXUALLY EXCITE WOMEN ON A WHIM ?
Posted: 5/23/2007 12:51:35 PM
I don't know! Let us in on YOUR secrets instead.

As a guy, and my natural perspective, I don't underststand/appreciate the whole "Getting her in the mood" thing. I've been trying to learn for the past few months, and have made some progress, but it's unfathomable how you could NOT want to have sex, or worse, have to be convinced or talked into it? It's just such a silly perspective to me. But it's a real one I have to understand.

I did read one thing on sex drive though, is that men's sex drive increases with stress (to a certain point) And women's decreases with even low levels of stress. So, knowing that, I now know to reduce stress in her mind first.

....now to find someone to try that out on and see how correct that is.
 Fish Shtick!
Joined: 4/11/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2007 1:04:10 PM
for something like that it would have to be pretty big..say hey put those dishes down get changed i will finish the dishes and take u out to dinner and a movie..
 braindrain22
Joined: 4/26/2007
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MEN HOW DO YOU SEXUALLY EXCITE WOMEN ON A WHIM ?
Posted: 5/23/2007 1:18:06 PM
I've had a few gf's where I didn't have to do anything, literally. The plainly told me "I want it all the time, there is no time that I don't want it, so just take it".

The others seemed to respond well to gentlemanley behavior, approach them gentley and make your moves slowly so as not to ruin a moment that is building into a frenzy.
 autofocus
Joined: 2/7/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2007 1:42:50 PM
I tell women I'm not interested in them. Works like a charm.
 Wylie_Coyote
Joined: 5/12/2007
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MEN HOW DO YOU SEXUALLY EXCITE WOMEN ON A WHIM ?
Posted: 5/23/2007 1:42:58 PM
Maybe a reverse hug (my front to her back) with out in-appropriate hand contact. Only a soft touch you know where with a subtle arm slip.

A touch in the small of her back with a soft caress won’t hurt.

Soft kisses with a gentile hand in her hair without making a mess of it yet cupping her head. The right hug or slow dance type of motion tends to be how I can lead the body movements.

Might be nice to offer a tic tac or mint recently though because if she’s had onions at lunch, she’ll shoot you down.

If she’s tired and just got home from work, offer a glass of wine and ask about her day. Validate her feelings when she responds. Give some cool down time. Offer a foot rub but not a back rub. (she’ll go to sleep with the back rub). Fix dinner and let her read or watch tv. Now I've gota wait and see if she wants to reciprocate the good will gestures. Don't expect a payback till bed time though and that one aint a given. Remember, she's tired.

As far as some of your more intimate questions, do I really need to explain what good foreplay is do I?

Why might you ask? Are you planning on seducing a woman?

John
 adam777
Joined: 7/30/2006
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Posted: 5/23/2007 2:03:55 PM
with my last girlfriend, she was usually the one that was trying to get me going, but if I did want it and she didn't seem to at the time, I'd give her a hug, brush her hair out of the way, then I'd kiss her on the forehead, then work my way down to the neck, possibly nibbling the ear on the way down (she liked that) and then I'd kiss her neck, making sure to leave it a little wet, then pull back a bit and blow softly on the spot I just kissed. Worked like a charm usually, and making out and/or sex generally ensued. There are other things, but this is the one I figured I'd explain.
 onesimpleneed
Joined: 3/7/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2007 2:29:34 PM
I have found that a Mercedes or a big honkin' diamond usually seems to put them in the mood.

Cheers!
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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Posted: 5/23/2007 3:23:43 PM
All depends on the woman...

With some girlfriends... I didn't have to do anything. I'd come home, and the next thing I knew my clothes were being torn off. :p

Other times, it's the soft sensual touches...

Or for some, talking dirty works...

I had one girlfriend who used to get turned on every time she saw me do housework. :p
 Montreal_Guy
Joined: 3/8/2004
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Posted: 5/23/2007 4:31:47 PM
My philosophy is the seduce a women's mind....then the rest follows naturally. We men are pretty simple in that regard (blame Mother Nature, and not us ). Once you have that, it simply a matter of taking Otis's advice :


I know she's waiting
just anticipating
the thing that you'll never never possess
no no no
but while she there waiting
try just a little bit of tenderness
thats all you got to do

-Try a little tenderness
 Vancer
Joined: 10/29/2006
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Posted: 5/23/2007 5:24:55 PM
I think it's important to be able to recognize that she'd even be remotely interested in sex at the time. I'd imagine it insanely frustrating if you are trying to get her in the mood when it's the furthest thing from her mind.
Did you know that out of the male and female of the human species, the female libido is the most sensitive to drastically being lowered due to all manner of things. From stress, to low iron levels in the blood.
Google it.
 Manmademan0083
Joined: 5/14/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2007 5:30:41 PM
Honestly? with my last GF I would just grab her from behind, whisper something dirty then take her right there on the spot without asking.

The submissive types love the "spontaneous, in control" bit. Your woman may vary.
 Michaelann
Joined: 9/11/2004
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Posted: 5/23/2007 5:51:43 PM
I know of 3 totally awesome horny spots, that almost always work, on women & men. But I'm not sure if I should tell!




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[I did read one thing on sex drive though, is that men's sex drive increases with stress (to a certain point).
And women's decreases with even low levels of stress. So, knowing that, I now know to reduce stress in
her mind first.]-ubkobalt

Kind of, yes. While sex is good for stress relief, stress can initially decrease a woman's mood.
 HONEY IM IN THE MAIL
Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 14
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Posted: 5/23/2007 6:38:35 PM
yea I think I would do kart wheels in skis for that


 HONEY IM IN THE MAIL
Joined: 4/25/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2007 6:42:01 PM
I was refferring to big honkin diamond and mercedes
 HONEY IM IN THE MAIL
Joined: 4/25/2007
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Posted: 5/23/2007 6:47:29 PM
I wanted to know if >men "initiated" something other than
waving, wagging or bragging -willie ,billy, what ever its name is
to women to get them to have sex.
 ubkobalt
Joined: 5/7/2006
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Posted: 5/23/2007 6:59:17 PM
I wanted to know if >men "initiated" something other than
waving, wagging or bragging -willie ,billy, what ever its name is
to women to get them to have sex.


I don't think that works. Women don't seem to say "I want your c0ck!" That's why it's in porn. It's a fantasy for that to work, not a reality.
I think if I tried that, she's probably either point and laugh, roll her eyes and walk away, or be disgusted. Neither of those are the desired result.

Infact, I think it gets the cops called on you in some circumstances.
 Lodach
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/23/2007 8:01:44 PM
Well doing the dishes...Wrap your arms around her and "help" her finish the dishes as your nuzzle her neck?

She isn't in the mood...offer a back massage and let the massage drift lower?

Don't rush this...if it is worth it, it is worth helping her unwind and get ready for what is to come.

If she is doing this perpetually...there is something deeper that is wrong.
 originalgeek
Joined: 5/12/2007
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Posted: 5/24/2007 5:18:19 PM
I know I'm reading in-between the lines a little here. Do you not want to have sex as soon as he comes home? I ask because doing the dishes seems like a good diversionary tactic if that is the case.

If you guys are really busy, maybe you need to make some appointments. In all fairness, one or more of the appointments over the course of a week should probably be right after he gets home, if that is his pattern. Think about it, he's probably at work all day, and every 15 seconds he is thinking about what he's gonna do with you when he gets home. If you don't have time, you need to make time for relations, otherwise your relationship will whither away on the vine.

Is it perhaps you don't like his approach? Do you need him to do more than come home, grab your ass, set you on the table and get busy? Because as a man, I know we like that. You should definitely talk frankly about what you need him to do. I'm talking about how or when to approach you and I'm also talking about explicit details, right down to "I like it when you do x" and "I want you to try doing x for a change". Ask for what you need. Invite him to express his needs. Find a compromise.
 Lodach
Joined: 4/3/2006
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Posted: 5/25/2007 5:48:20 AM
originalgeek I think that is why I am suggesting turning the dishes into foreplay. It is a compromise.

I know if most women are honest we also want to be desired so much that we are taken right then and there at times, but our brains are wired differently for some reason and we tend to dwell on what needs to get done before we allow ourselves to relax. Sometimes we just need that nudge to get us over that initial hurdle.

Household chores can become great foreplay for a women. Make them playful and less tedious. I am not saying clean the entire house before sex, but if she has already started the dishes help her finish them so that she is thinking about you and not about the sinkful of unfinished dishes in the sink.

I am sure a man wants the women he is partnered with to be focused on him during the act of sex and not have a mind that is drifting onto other tasks.
 OnTheBus
Joined: 9/12/2004
Msg: 21
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Posted: 5/25/2007 6:02:32 AM
I piss and moan like a little boy, and throw a tantrum........

If that doesnt work....I do like Otis, and Montreal guy...and try a little tenderness
 hutchzilla1
Joined: 5/21/2007
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Posted: 5/30/2007 10:32:23 AM
All you have to do is call during the day. While you are at work. Call and tell her that when you get home you are going to ^$^$%^%**%*%%^$ ect. Then call her again before you leave and ask her to wear apron with no undies or something, Just keep it interesting. Remember guys its up to us to try to keep pushing the envelope and keep our imaginations alive along with the relationships' libido. Man up and treat her like the woman that she desires to be.
 Bbbashful
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Posted: 5/30/2007 10:57:19 AM

Wanted to get Mens feed back on what a Man does to stimulate his
womans sexual appetite ?
Or To be so sexy that your woman or mate will drop everything
and have appetite for sex with you ?


I think it's far easier to ask a woman what she does to stimulate her man's desire to have sex on short notice. The assumption here is that it really doesn't take much at all.

I sortakinda agree with Jeff Foxworthy when he says "Women are like diesel engines. It takes a long time to get 'em started but once you do, they keep running and running and running...."

I don't think it's normally possible to get a woman sexually aroused at any time on a whim. There has to be a lot of attraction, caring, love and affection in place before the conditions are even close to being right for that to happen. (Please tell me I'm wrong here. LOL)
 mphzguy
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Posted: 5/30/2007 2:06:50 PM

(Please tell me I'm wrong here. LOL)


OMG you are sooo wrong, please don't spread misinformation, our brothers in arms don't need to hear bad advice.

It's different for each woman, you have to know them, learn them, and understand what buttons to push. It's just a matter of knowing what your lover responds to and giving her that.

I really like the guy who said "Man up". Ya that's the real ticket guys. Women respond to manly ways, not wussy "let me buy your sex' crap." I shouldn't have to trade chores or expensive nights out for sex; if you think that way, well you're not in my world so I could really care less.

The call ahead idea was totally kewl. Let her know you want her. Don't be afraid to let her know you're a man and all hot for her. That's your starting attitude. From there you choose your path based on her. What does she respond to, kindness and gentleness, or do you just spin her around and bury your tongue in her mouth?

So you've got two basic answers ... one is to be romantic and gentle, appealing to her gentle nature, you nuture and carress her into a romantic mood. The second is more animalistic, you announce your desire for her and take her.

Techniques vary, but those included here are a good start, gently touching, kissing, caressing, massages, if you have time you can set a mood with candles, incense and music, allowing her a break from her routine .. all good stuff. The basic idea is to get her mind off the daily grind of reality and into a more relaxed mood.
 zebra210
Joined: 11/23/2006
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Posted: 5/30/2007 3:35:14 PM
The easiest way is to wait until she hits 35. Then she is always in the mood.

Getting a woman drunk was my strategy when I was younger. That usually worked.

Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker!
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