| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 4:36:52 AM | I'm just curious...if you seem to have an interest in someone but look and they have some huge number like 300+ people that list them as favorites......do you msg them?
I myself...I don't..I just feel I guess..intimidated by them... ahh well...how about you? | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 5:28:41 AM | | I don't give a rats azz how many favorites a person has. It means nothing, really. Usually people who host or attend events regularly have tons of ppl on their list and its quite often just friends or aquaintances they have met at functions. I do not even look at someones favorites list, means nothing. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:30:22 AM | | ^^^^ couldn't have said it better!!..i'm on a large number of favs it seems. but i didn't put myself there others did, and hardly ANYONE from that list contacts me. have no idea why they bother to add people they have no intention of contacting..but it's not my business to try to figure out why people do anything they do. and i feel it's rude to delete people that have added me, like i'd think i was too good for them or something. and that's just not right. so really you shouldn't be intimidated by that at all!! | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:15:29 AM | Blueyesopen
If you were on my list I'd be chasing you.... as for large numbers you can see they don't mean anything.
I've seen a few have viewed my profile so the numbers aren't doing it for them. I can see how some could
be intimidated by the numbers. I have 14 listing me and someone emailed saying I probably had too
many already, when most are just good friends. I do delete the ones that I'm not interested in after a
while if they don't contact me, don't want others to think I have a harem ( I wish)...... Don't let numbers
fool ya just all those uh well.....THOSE lusting after you (I know it's an awful thought). I do have a lot
that I've listed and most I try and contact a few times before booting them, others are there because
they've written something witty that I like to go back to read again.
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:47:31 AM |
I'm just curious...if you seem to have an interest in someone but look and they have some huge number like 300+ people that list them as favorites......do you msg them?
I myself...I don't..I just feel I guess..intimidated by them... ahh well...how about you
For me it’s not one of feeling intimidated. I’m getting up there in my years and I find it difficult to multitask, let alone focus…… Actually I do find the numbers intimidating when they are up there even as high as 20. I personally think that for some people it’s ok to get in there and be competitive (and I use that word lightly), but I choose not to. I would think that, that person has too much on their plate with work and all the other responsibilities of LIFE and wonder how he would find the time to make a response to my e-mail let alone going out on a date and getting my name right ……
and i feel it's rude to delete people that have added me, like i'd think i was too good for them or something. and that's just not right. so really you shouldn't be intimidated by that at all!!
IF I choose to delete after not hearing from them once added to their favorite list, its’ not the attitude of “thinking I am too good”, it’s the attitude of respecting my right and my intention of being here. IF a man does not write, that is his problem….lol… of being deleted.
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| Do you ever not respond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:12:24 AM | I'm not intimidated by how many favorites lists someones on.
In fact it tempts me even more to email them for a couple of reason's.
Computer dating I find can be like a kid in a candy store,
or in some cases like a dog looking in a bake shop window lol.
There's someone for everyone they just haven't found the one for them.
If someone wouldn't be attracted to you in real life ,they're not going be over the internet either lol.
No matter how many favorites lists they're on, or not on.
It is a good place to come and make a fantasy Christmas wish list though lol,
have you been naughty or nice lol?
Just be careful what you wish for .. . | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:14:51 AM | all very valid points. and everyone seems to have their own opinions on the favs list thing..many threads have been done on it, that i've read. no point is less valid than the other. no opinion is wrong. i have mine..everyone else has their's. it's people that can't see the difference that cause problems regarding that. it's ok to have a different opinion. that's what makes us all indiviuals!....
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:40:11 AM | | I personaly Do not allow people to keep me as a favorite unless I have talked with them or they have at least made some kind of contact with me. If they dont I remove myself from their list .... I think when I see someone who is on 100's of people favorites its riduclous . It makes me think more like they are a bit childish and wanting to be the cool kid . | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:07:58 AM |
I personally think that for some people it’s ok to get in there and be competitive (and I use that word lightly), but I choose not to. I would think that, that person has too much on their plate with work and all the other responsibilities of LIFE and wonder how he would find the time to make a response to my e-mail let alone going out on a date and getting my name right ……
Ditto - I may add them to favourites to express my interest in a subtle way, but probably not message. If they choose to notice, take the time, then that’s up to them. If they delete me, then that’s ok too. It’s like catching someone’s eye across a room – it will either lead to something, or it won’t. I will put the ball in their court (maybe that’s old-fashioned, but I don’t feel the need to actively chase men, it's not my style).
With me not having a picture publicly, that also makes a difference. There is no immediate lure to tempt someone to take that time out of all the other interest. That tells me something about them as well….
…..Then again, favourites may have more to do with forums than dating…..where you find the person interesting in that medium……and like to see how they conduct themselves on an ongoing basis…. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 12:05:03 PM | Favorites lists are used for many reasons...some as a way to introduce themselves to someone without sending an email..like the poster said, its in your court now....
for others, like myself that host parties, its a contact list...I go to events, I chat in the forums, so once contact is made at an event people will add me because it is now a friendship that has developed...it has nothing to do with dating but all to do with friendship...
as far as the mega numbers....well those people would have to answer to that on their own..for some its a game of 'how many favorites do you have'.....I know I constantly update and take myself off of people's favorites...I don't like being on a list where I have never corresponded to, talked to or met the person
personally I think there is wayyyyyy to much emphasis about favorites list and I wish the number was not there at all for people to read and make judgements about  | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 12:11:32 PM | | If I like your profile or I like what you posted, I don't care about your favourites. Doesn't matter to me at all. You could have 1 or you could have 500. I'll message if I want. If they don't respond, their loss, not mine. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 1:30:32 PM | | If they have lots of favourites that probably means they have been on this site a long time. Take that how you will. I would certainly respond, but I probably wouldn't be the one to message them first. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 9:27:31 PM | | I've seen women on this site with over 1,000 "favourites". It's like a competition or something. The way I see it, my goal for being on this site in the first place is to hopefully get off it! Someone with 1,000 favourites probably doesn't have that same desire. So, no, I won't bother contacting them. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 10:12:50 PM | I don't pay too much attention to the number of favourites. There's either something about their profile that caught my attention or there wasn't.
I'm on some favourites lists - some are people I communicate with, some aren't. I don't think too much of it. My understanding is that some added me because of forum posts, which is fine by me. Since I'm posting on a public forum, I don't see how I can have an issue with someone reading my posts, lol. Basically, since I don't have a lot of regular contact with the majority of people on my favourites list or go to the effort of deleting people, I don't assume that other people's favourites number means anything either. Everyone seems to use the feature slightly differently, which is just fine and dandy. The number just doesn't factor much into my decision about whether or not to contact someone. Then again, I've never come across a profile with 1000 favourites. Or maybe I did and just didn't notice, lol. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:24:21 PM | | I don't pay attention too much to other people's although I do keep weeding out my favorites...if they don't contact me in a couple of weeks then it's adios...on my fave list is mostly people I know on pof and have become friends with. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/27/2007 9:22:24 AM | Do we really need others to know how many people favor us when all it does is create assumptions? I would be happy if POF could erase the numbers
i get added almost everyday and almost never get contacted
it's becoming a chore to delete which i despise however if i didn't, my number (since ive been here a while) would be in the hundreds by now
i personally don't care for that number.. the list shows who favors me and that in itself is a compliment to which im flatter yet that is where it starts and ends .. it really serves nothing but an ego booster OR a list to see if friends are online or not
the TRUE purpose and calling of this site is the actual contact!
so people if you can.. ingore the stupid number and just contact the person if you want to!!!! darn it! | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/27/2007 9:31:02 AM | | If i was interested in contacting someone and happened to see where they had a anything over a 100 in their favorites, i would not bother contacting them. If you have that many favorites you should be able to find someone in that lot to date. | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/27/2007 10:26:40 AM | if someone is 'intimidated' by something as dumb as favorites numbers then they are not for me. I want a man who has more balls than that! If he is not going to say Hi because I couldnt be bothered to sit and delete each individual person who has selected me, then the he has done us both a favour.
POF has not made it easy to delete ...how about a select all button? | |
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| Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites?
Posted: 5/27/2007 10:31:37 AM | I'll respond to anyone that emails me ,unless they come across like loose meat.I wont bother sending email to anyone that has a batch of favs tho.Unless I feel like there is a possiblility that we are a really good match.
If they have a 30 or a few hundred I figure they are going to be busy scouting around or just chat once then move on...
Like some have,they just open the door to peek in then move on... till they get bored and come back to see again and again.Thats why I changed my profile .
Once more lol. | |
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