| men who lie
Posted: 8/22/2004 11:37:43 PM | | why do they do it?? in my life, i've met several. they lie about everything and anything... even things that don't matter! For example, one guy in high school was in my social group of very nice people but this one guy made up a huge lie about his family saying they were all in the mafia. eventually it was all figured out. is there anyone else out there who has experienced an encounter like this? | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/22/2004 11:47:34 PM | i also knew a guy that claimed heart cancer, stole things from other people to give as gifts, and made up lies about his past.
my sister's x lied about scoring a 1600 on his SAT and practically lived a double life!
Then there's the guy on tv who claimed to go to med school and killed his wife... | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/23/2004 4:44:32 AM | | FYI women do it to..so stop just trying to single men out, its not a male thing, its a human thing.. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/23/2004 4:48:10 AM | there are woman who do the same thing.
I don't know what the pay off is? They know they are lying, you know they are lying just absolutely senseless behaviour. "Lies are the thieves of trust." | |
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Posted: 8/23/2004 10:34:35 AM | | I've encountered lots of people who've lied before...and my rule of thumb is, if it sounds too good to be true then it probably is...unless they can prove it. I've known so many people who've lied so now I have a tendency not to believe people who tell me stories which are a little bit off the wall, but then after I get to know them, and I find out that they aren't someone that would lie about stuff to get attention then I'm more likely to belive them. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2004 10:48:51 AM | | yea honestly heres a question. Why do women blame every flaw in a relationship on men? Take some responsibility. | |
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Posted: 8/23/2004 10:50:39 AM | | We ALL lie. To ourselves especially, and we lie for many reasons mostly unknown even to ourselves, because, after all don't most liars believe their own lies first? | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/23/2004 1:15:30 PM | | Greetz, Matahari, welcome to the forum. | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/23/2004 11:06:24 PM | I know um dudes/gurlz like these... some of them i know well enuf to know that they took some serious abuse when they were little, some of them lie to make themselves feel important or interesting, or in control, or to mask thier fear, or powerful, able to trick everyone and get whatever they need/want...
yup, they're messed up... ego stuff, therapy is needed... until they get help i think its best to stay clear of them... unless yur a therapist... then
$$$$$$$ching ching$$$$$$...
but yah rite babyG.... they dont need noone (cept doctors) and definatly need to get it together... then compassion and help to get it back together...if reasonable
and if they are violent or criminal....
kick em in the doo-dads an then lock um up :) | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/24/2004 5:25:44 AM |
Being an ER Dr. I have some bad news for you. Women lie just as much as men. I have treated many men beat up buy husbands. And the men tell me the samething over and over.
She said she was not married! | |
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Posted: 8/24/2004 5:38:59 AM | | I had to read that twice before it made sense...lol, oh well, it's early. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2004 6:03:18 AM | If you lie, most probably you can't remember what you had said but if you tell the truth, you can be consistent in telling that again and again because its from your heart..
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Posted: 8/24/2004 6:09:42 AM | | You would be surprised though, there are quite a few people who are real experts at lying and you'll never know until it's too late. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2004 6:40:40 AM | Not all men lie the hardest thing is trying to prove to all the woman that there are guys who can love and care for woman out there. but i know that alot of my friends do lie to there woman and i am not sure why they do it but i tell them that thay are making it really hard for "us" good guys to find a lady who isnt worried about us lying to them or cheatting on them do to ppl like them. Well theres my 2 cent on the problem.....
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Posted: 8/24/2004 2:00:07 PM | i know that it really isnt the point but i am telling you there are good guys out there who know how to treat a lady so you cant turn your back on them cause then what are guys like me suppose to do. i have been looking for that special someone for awhile now since me an my ex broke it off like 2 1/2 years ago and you would never belive how hard it is due to all the guys who cheat and lie woman dont trust men for no other reason. or when i do find a lady they just want one thing and there in a relationship. go figure thats life hmm dont ever understand it but keep on living thats how life is ;-)
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/24/2004 7:55:54 PM | all i can say is you go princess007
wish i was closer justto hear you sweet words!!!!!!!!!
go go gooooooooo girl!
its a 2 sides street we all live on............
some just dont drive like others!~ | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/24/2004 11:35:28 PM | here's some words to live by..
believe none of what you hear and half of what you see....
it'll never steer you wrong..unless you don't believe what I just wrote lol | |
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
Msg: 19 | |
| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/24/2004 11:48:34 PM | as a friend put it once "If she says she's looking for honesty, she's lying."
Why? People use lies as social lubricant to make things smoother, either for themselves, or to help them attain their social goals. (read "get laid"). Sometimes they feel it is none of your business, therefore, instead of telling you such a thing, they lie. The "lie" is a wonderful human tool, mimicked in nature by animals, in order for them to achieve their goals also. Therefore, let's not condemn those who lie as some kind of bad person....perhaps they are not. They may be quite social, and inheritantly good people, once you get to know them. Diplomacy used in the right context can, and often does avoid nasty social encounters. (read "diplomacy"), and can also be construed as "lies", when in fact, they are are being used as social lubrication.
Some lies are intentional and meant to hurt...this is bad form, in my opinion. Example..."I dind't ask you to dance...I said you look fat in those pants!" Perhaps a lie....but meant to hurt, in retaliation for social rejection...in this case, her turning him down for a dance.
Anyone who does NOT lie is a boor, and considered a social outcast. (Try telling your family member what you REALLY think of their kids, and see what happens)
So...we ALL lie, on occasion....it is just a matter of WHY?
(See...get chatting someone up in a bar as to why people lie...makes for an interesting conversation, and starts that all important "trust" thing going....) | |
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
Msg: 20 | |
| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/24/2004 11:50:37 PM | | Hi tezza.....want me to show off mine?...lol...read your profile...oh man..... | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/24/2004 11:58:35 PM | | Who is going to start the first thread on Mother-in-Laws that lie? | |
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yna6
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Joined: 5/2/2004
Msg: 22 | |
| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/25/2004 12:31:41 AM | | See me jumping up and down waving my hands frantically? Heck NO!...lol! | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/25/2004 12:39:00 AM | | Maybe Aliens that lie. Any support on this one then? Not talking about the border-skipping variety either. | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/25/2004 4:53:12 PM | Many woman consider their "Good Looks" as a playcard of options. Guys do that too, but is more so a touch status related, ie. image, money, career, influence, power, etc.
And why not? Are we going to choose those people who fit our demanded standards of lifestyle or those who cry foul about how nice they are?
In these endeavours, hearts get broken. Its always been that way, and always will be. | |
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| Re: men who lie
Posted: 8/25/2004 11:31:00 PM | the topic is about...
MEN WHO LIE...
it does not say
ALL MEN ARE LIARS
or
ONLY MEN LIE...
and it especially does not say
WHY DO YOU LIE, MAN?
take it easy. | |
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