| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 6:24:16 AM | I was reading some dating advice by guys for guys that said "stop be a sensitive new age guy and eat some meat". Interesting advice. As a long-time vegetarian I'll ignore it, though.
If a guy says that he's a vegetarian in his profile, would that cause you to not respond?
In general, do you think that it's positive, negative, or neutral for a guy to mention that he's a vegetarian in his profile?
What about on first meeting over a cup of coffee (positive, negative, or neutral)? | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 6:28:00 AM | It wouldn't bother me at all as I'm a vegetarian myself! I've never been out with a guy who was a vegetarian, though, and I suppose it would depend on why they became one. Some people go through phases where they think it's trendy to be a veggie but clearly this is a long-term thing for you which shows you are a person who sticks to their principles. I don't turn down people cos they eat meat, though - it's a personal choice and I was asked out by a butcher once! I said no, but him being a butcher had nothing to do with it.
I think it's a good idea to mention being vegetarian in your profile, though I haven't in mine, to make sure you don't attract someone who is anti-vegatarian - you know the sort of person I mean, I'm sure! | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 6:31:01 AM | I wouldn't have a problem with a person who chooses that lifestyle, as long as their opionions on it aren't forced down the other persons throat.
If, when going to a nice dinner, and ordering a non-veggie dish the vegetarian sits there and gags and starts critisizing it, well then that wouldn't indicate tooo good of a match!!! 
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 7:22:15 AM | Live and let live dont force vegetarian life on me I wont force meat on you.
I would starve if I could only eat vegetables dont really care for them.
But I do not look down on someone who only eats them. Wish I actually liked more I have tried to force myself to eat them only to gag...But watching someone eat them does not bother me.
This world is full of all kinds of people that is why it is fun and interesting..... | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 7:34:13 AM | Clearly there is some baggage to the word "vegetarian". Vegetarianism could be a dietary preference, or it could be a belief system. It's generally both.
We've probably all met vegetarian evangelists who are out to convert the world. Some people think that all vegetarians are like that. Frankly, it's just rude to go out to dinner and criticize other people's food. If you can't stand it, you can always pass up the dinner invitation.
On the other hand, it can be inconvenient for a meat-eater to date a vegetarian. When you're going out to dinner, it has to be a restaurant with some vegetarian option. When cooking at home, you have to take special care.
Part of the reason for this thread is that I'm trying to gauge if the gals who dislike dating vegetarian guys dislike it because:
- bad experiences with rude vegetarians
- it's too inconvenient to go out
- you think that they're not masculine
- you think they're in some weird counter-culture
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 7:42:24 AM | I'm a vegetarian too. Some men are put off by it. But after 18 years I'm not going to suddenly switch gears, even if I did begin eating meat at this point it would probably make me very very sick. I'm not very strict as far as healthy eating and hey I love pizza and french fries. I can find something to eat almost anywhere so I'm a cheap date. When I did eat meat, it was filet mignon at every dinner date. My reasons were ethical not health reasons.
I've never dated a vegetarian though I've known men who were. I don't have a problem cooking meat for the men I've dated as I cooked it for my daughter when she was young. I actually cook it very well too. It's a personal choice however. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 8:42:16 AM | Since I'm a vegetarian aswell (actually, I'm closer to being vegan), it would be ideal!
Being vegetarian is a lifestyle, so yes, definitely mention it in your profile. And be proud! It's a wonderful thing! If someone's going to reject you because of what you eat (or DON'T eat), they're not worth your time. :-)
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 12:12:21 PM | I have a couple of friends who are vegetarians, they have been their entire life. It has never been an issue. Going to restaurants has never been an issue, there has always been something on the menu that they were able to eat. Cooking at home? again never been an issue, I can go without meat for one meal.
It has always been the new vegetarians that I have had an issue with. Usually with a cigarette hanging out of their mouth, reeking of alcohol or stoned and wearing leather shoes telling me I am killing myself with the flesh of dead animals. The irony astounds me.
Personally, I don't really care. It is a person's attitude not what they eat. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 4:29:23 PM | I live in southern California... this state is thick with arrogant, evangelical vegetarians or worse, vegans... of both genders. You can't swing a dead cat without hitting some rake thin, irrational, yoga posing freak ready to criticize your unhealthy lifestyle choices. If not that, they tell you drinking milk is murder and causes global warming. It's enough to irritate even the most patient of creatures.
I will leave the vegetarians for the rest of you ladies. I don't want to be interrupted during my prime rib for a lecture. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 4:32:46 PM | You can't swing a dead cat without hitting some rake thin, irrational, yoga posing freak ready to criticize your unhealthy lifestyle choices
Mominatrix- you are a scream!!!!LMAO!!!
I was a vergetarian until I got sick - do I care if he is one - would it
prevent me from contacting him- No. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 4:37:47 PM | Mominatrix, now that's just highly unfair of you. You're clumping all vegans and vegetarians into the same personality group simply because of your experiences with a few. Not everyone who chooses to abstain from meat acts the same way. Not every vegan and vegetarian is out there to lecture you and criticize what you put in your body.
I do not appreciate it when people prejudge me because I'm vegan, and I get that quite often. People often assume they already know how I'm going to act or what I'm going to say. How ridiculous. No one likes to be prejudged. I'm sorry you had negative experiences, but I can assure you we're not all like that. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 4:44:26 PM | It wouldnt stop me from responding. I am of the mind its a two-way street. If he doesnt mind me tucking into a nice steak then I have no issue with tofu stir fries
I dated a vegan once, a little stricter than vegetarian I believe, that was challenging when it came to cooking as they are no animal products as well. So me trying to make a meal without any milk, eggs or dairy was difficult. Still his personality was more important and a lovely guy, we didnt make it long term due to his travelling not his diet, but I do have to admit I sat back and thought about the long term at one point. Again, all I could back to is we would have to have different diets and menus at time. I dont mind a vegetarion only dish half the time, I cook with a lot of veges myself. But I like meat fish and chicken and red meat on occassion, especially lamb. I wouldnt be prepared to change my diet. So it comes down to two things. 1.As long as they didnt try to convert me and 2. they dont mind /lecture/begrudge me cooking with meat - it could definitely work out. To find those things out you have to date the person and I certainly would give it a go
We've probably all met vegetarian evangelists who are out to convert the world. Some people think that all vegetarians are like that. Frankly, it's just rude to go out to dinner and criticize other people's food. If you can't stand it, you can always pass up the dinner invitation.
Couldnt agree more and I would walk away from this person because they were rude and not their dietary beliefs
On the other hand, it can be inconvenient for a meat-eater to date a vegetarian. When you're going out to dinner, it has to be a restaurant with some vegetarian option
Fortunately this is not an issue here in Sydney. So many restaurants have a vege only menu. Even Pizza hut and Dominos have a the vege option.
I think everyone else has hit it on the head. Its if they criticize you because you are not the same diet as them that it becomes a problem. And I said before It hink this is more personality issues than dietary
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 5:08:41 PM |
Mominatrix, now that's just highly unfair of you. You're clumping all vegans and vegetarians into the same personality group simply because of your experiences with a few. Not everyone who chooses to abstain from meat acts the same way. Not every vegan and vegetarian is out there to lecture you and criticize what you put in your body.
While unfair, you kind of have to experience it to get a bigger picture.
While she is in the land of shallow corporate materialism , I am in the land of god damned hippies and tech geeks! 
There is a difference though. One type does it for status, and believes they are doing things right, whether though choice or brainwashing, and therefore they are preachy. Being status concious though, they tend to bathe.
The other, just happens to be filthy, hairy and just wants to get stoned. They'll leave you alone, unless you actually talk to them. Then they'll say the exact same thing. But, you'd have to want to talk to them in the first place, so you kind of brought it upon yourself.
Then there are those who you don't notice. Those people are cool.
OP, in my experience, there are a LOT more vegitarian females than males. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 5:17:17 PM | Jazmella, the statement of my opinions on the vegans/vegetarians I have met, is not up for discussion of what is fair. It's anecdotal evidence and more to the point, I am allowed to have my standards whether you like them, or not. Fair only comes to town once a year. Get used to it.
Now, from your profile:
*A proud 90% vegan (100% vegetarian) Leo resides here*
(Please refrain from messaging me if you're a hunter/fisher/military dude/in law enforcement/smoker/alcoholic/druggie/sexist/racist/etc - Thank you in advance!)
(Erm, and um, that's not to say I wouldn't befriend a smoker and whatnot, I would just rather not date one? Yes? No? Maybe? Haha!) So, is it not fair for you, yourself to lump all hunter/fisher/military dude/in law enforcement/smoker/alcoholic/druggie/sexist/racists into one personality group?
I do not appreciate it when people prejudge me because I'm vegan, and I get that quite often. People often assume they already know how I'm going to act or what I'm going to say. How ridiculous. No one likes to be prejudged. I'm sorry you had negative experiences, but I can assure you we're not all like that. Practice what you preach.
It is not predjudice, when you are discussing lifestyle. Someone who is an animals rights activist vegetarian, is going to blanch and faint on seeing my massive collection of leather shoes and handbags. He is not going to be happy when I don my leather pumps and match them with that flawless leather kelly bag. Let's not even go into the mink I inherited from my mother. It's not going to work, we have different lifestyles.
Someone who is vegetarian for supposed health reasons, has just not done the research on nutrition. Even our closest primate relatives, chimps, hunt and eat meat. They are omnivores. I can find you reams of research on nutrients only available in meats, such as heme iron, which is the most useful for our bodies. Someone like that lacks logical skills, which are something I find invaluable in a partner. Once again, it is not going to work out.
When you are looking for a lifemate, shared values are of the utmost importance. If your philosophies on life are drastically different, eventually it will implode, it's human nature.
I love tech geeks ubkobalt. I am in a relationship with one. I have yet to meet a vegan tech geek. Apparently the spectre of giving up the Nacho Cheese Doritos, looms as an unacceptable lifestyle choice. | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 7:31:30 PM | Ok I am an animal activist...guess what i have leather shoes and belts...it's a by product of the meat YOU guys eat. I would never however by a leather jacket or couch. Just not my style. AND never would I own a fur coat or anything fur trimmed. Just totally unnessary. Being a vegetarian is a personal choice. I'm not perfect, and I dont know a lot of people who are. Those who can be vegan more power to them.
Now about those militants. IN any social activism group there will be militants. There will be those who are violent, whom yell and scream to get their point across. In the same way you may not want someone putting you down for eating meat, I don't want to have to cross a bunch of crazy anti abortionists when i go get my annual pap smear. I used to go to Planned Parenthood while in college for birth control and on their wall, by the reception area was a poster of ''what to do should a bomb threat be received''.
Like I said I'm not the perfect animal activist, with leather shoes, or the fact that i used to volunteer at the zoo. It's usually the non activist that takes the ''you better do it all or shut up and do nothing'' attitude. That's not me. I do what I can. I would personally never kill an animal and I try not to encourage the killing of animals. But, what other people do is their business. I would never date someone who hunts/fishes...but the eating meat i can deal with. It's never been an issue with anyone I have ever dated. I don't think my last boyfriend even realized I was a vegetarian, i just told him I didn't like the taste of meat. well except his
which brings me to a great come back a vegetarian friend used to tell the people who would always ask, "but where do you get your protein?" her answer, and now mine as well..."I swallow" | |
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| Ladies, how do you feel about vegetarians?
Posted: 6/2/2007 11:51:33 PM | | To be totally honest, my knee-jerk reaction to seeing that someone was a vegetarian would be to cringe a little, but it wouldn't stop me from responding if I liked them. My mom and sister are both vegetarians, and it's never been a problem. When eating out we just make sure the restaurant offers something for all of us. Until you know the person, there's that little fear that you might get a lecture (not that all vegetarians would do that, but it is a passionate subject for a lot of people), but I'd be willing to risk it. | |
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