| Is this the new modern day "I'm not interested in you anymore" line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 1:33:36 PM | Okay..so I'm wondering if this line is being used alot these days as a way to discontinue communication with a person without having to actually be honest and just say you're no longer interested...
"I'm beginning to think I'm meant to be alone.?
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tdh46
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 1:43:00 PM | | It's a form or excuse to say "seeee yaaaaaaa!" Some will say this right after they get what they want (or in some cases not getting what they want). Some will say this after a brief relationship and discover you don't do it for them or bore them. It is a cold and rude thing, but as it goes a part of life. Everyone has their own way of saying goodbye. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 1:45:32 PM | Yes..actually I've heard it 3 times over the past year...2 of those times in the last 6 months. Two of the men were onlin/phone only - didn't make it to the actual meeting...and the other man i did meet and seen for a bit.
Guess I should thank them for the warning huh? | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 1:57:33 PM | Humm - maybe it is a new "strain" of the ..
"I need to go find out who I am"...
virus that took the word by storm early in this century.
Perhaps too many people (the receivers of the above bullchit) started laughing as NO ONE ever ever actually finds out who the are. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 2:02:37 PM | I've been looking at the line and repeating it a few times and I have determined it is a ridiculous statement that makes no sense. Basically it is designed to confuses you and it did. What the hell dose it mean?
It translates like this:
I am just beginning to contemplate the thought that my life’s purpose is to spend my time void of human contact.
Isn't that just the dumbest statement ever? It's not even possible.
You should have broken up with him for being stupid! | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 2:19:48 PM | I used that line twice just the other day in conversation with a friend and at the time I was being perfectly honest.
I'm not sure I'm meant for a conventional relationship. I think I may be better alone.
My thoughts at the time were that there's a trend in our current morality that all people should be able to do all things with equal ability, which I find ridiculous. That is: We should all be able to be alone for years at a time and we should all be able to be in life long relationships. We should all be able to put up with some discomfort in order to fulfill our promises and we should be able to kick em to the curb with no remorse only righteousness. We should be able to make lots and lots of money and be respected in our fields and we should be able to be satisfied with what we have and have some humility. We should all be thin, young and beautiful but carry our fat, age and scars with dignity. We should have power in the outside world and make our children come first. We should have some faith, some morality but we shouldn't believe anything we can't see with our own two eyes.
I'm sorry, but I don't think we can do it all.
Some people are very good at being alone and getting shit done. Some people are very good at relating to and managing the details for those who get shit done. We cannot fault orange because it isn't purple. Mix the two together and you get the muddiest, most unreflective color brown imaginable.
(Sorry for rambling on so, but you did ask.  ) | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 2:56:33 PM | Context is important on this one....
Did the person who said this to you in fact leave POF?
Did they change their profile to indicate that they were no longer seeking a relationship?
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Did they just remove themselves from your favorites list and move on?
Door Number 1.... has given up finding mate .
Door Number 2...has given up finding mate ..for NOW.
Door Number 3.... doesn't want relationship with YOU.
These are some possibilities......not everybody has sinister motives but ....judge what he meant by his actions afterwards.
Those who are in the self realization mode are best let go anyway....if they haven't found themselves by now you probably shouldn't find them either. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 3:08:43 PM | Girls are saying it, too. Must be a subculture thing we're not in tune with. To me it seems a little sketchy... what if you catch that person with someone else? Surely if they're on this website, and you see that they're online checking their e-mail, then it was a weak excuse. In my case, I met her in real-life and I see her from time to time.
If I don't feel a relationship is working, I'll look to change it. I'm not much of a hermit, though, so don't want to ex-communicate people, unless they're toxic or of the stalking persuasion. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 3:11:23 PM | | Who knows...I know I shouldn't but I assume anything they tell me is a white lie where they are only trying to be polite. It doesn't bother me. I had one girl email me back a few weeks ago saying she is looking for someone closer to her city. I live about ten minutes away...lol. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 3:20:47 PM | | From my point of view, online dating can be an exhausting, frustrating, exciting adventure...all in one day. I think we all have those moments of feeling like this is just too much work. Maybe I'm supposed to be alone. Most of us just keep those thoughts to ourselves. I wouldn't be so quick to assume it's a "line." Probably a self pity thing verbalized. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 3:31:01 PM | I'm not beginning to think it, I've decided it after much reflection. If I had been with someone at the time, I would not have used that line, it would have been something along the lines of "we have grown apart" or "this isn't working out" or the dreaded Seinfeld line of "it's not you it's me"....
Then again, I also think I might be in need of a second labotomy, some more shock therapy, a liver transplant, and major bypass surgery on my personality...meh!
Cheers! | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/3/2007 8:37:07 PM |
I think that is some languages these two statements mean the same thing.
And since we all know that the only language that matters in the world of internet dating is Klingon, you should probably assume that the guys who told you that are now sterile, and that the procedure that induced sterility was a horrifically violent one.
I agree with Alyosha - depends on who's saying it. And in my experience, people who call themselves honest are usually the first ones to be suspiscious of. So if the guys told you they were "straight forward, open and honest men ....", in my experience, that would be the first red-flag. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/4/2007 12:22:59 AM | Are we talking about 'I'm beginning to think I'm meant to be alone.?' line you have in your post? Or I'm not interested in you?
Sorry, I'm confused.
I mentioned in another topic that "I'm beginning to think I'm meant to be alone.?" can indicate an internal conflict in a person. Their desire to be with you is losing against any number of negative personality traits they could have developed growing up. Poor self esteem, social anxiety, fear of commitment....ect, ect.
I would see it as a cry for help and the person possibly requiring some counseling.
I speak from my heart on this. I have a personality conflict that keeps me from choosing dating on this site over friendship. I am slowly working my way through it with help from friends and family. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/4/2007 5:49:01 AM | I got this line recently......dated a guy a few times.....hit it off great...we laughed and genuinely had great chemistry.......then lastweek he removed his profile and sent me a message saying "I'm just not ready....it's not you...it's me....I think I'm meant to be alone".......wtf?......I wasn't looking to get married.......
But...I actually understand. It's exciting the thought of falling for someone. BUT, it's also scarey, and once you start there's no turning back. The truth is......I really think I am happier single. I'm not ready to fall in love either. However, I'm pretty upfront that I just wanna have a friend, or casually date. I don't wanna meet your parents or take your kids to the dentist.
Sometimes people have been burnt so badly in past relationships, it's a struggle to allow themselves to let go enough to actually connect with someone emotionally, and when they do........it's overwhelming. Find someone who's secure enough that they are ready to idolize you. | |
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| Is this the new modern day I'm not interested in you anymore line???
Posted: 6/4/2007 5:59:06 AM |
And since we all know that the only language that matters in the world of internet dating is Klingon,
IMO, the "dating world" - is in terms of linguistics and terminology - a modern "tower of Babel", even among people who technocally speak the same language. As per dating per se, the spoken languages are the language of "love" and the language of "partnerships".
And of the fish! | |
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