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Posted: 4/30/2005 8:11:06 AM | JUST WANT TO ASK THE MEN A QUESTION OK!!!!!!!!
WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A WOMAN AND BE TRUEFUL NOW!!!!!!!!!!
AND HOWDO YOU FEEL TOWARDS FAT WOMEN?
JUST WANTED TO KNOW WHAT IS ON A MANS MIND........
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Posted: 4/30/2005 8:27:15 AM | I like fat women.
But I also like to have myself a skiny girl too..
It all depends on who they are and how they treat me personally.
But yeah nothing against fat women at all.. :)
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Posted: 4/30/2005 8:43:56 AM | i'm not into fat women.. I like women who take care of themselves - eat well, get exercise. they're more stimulating.
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Posted: 4/30/2005 10:36:15 AM | | Looks are not the most important, nor are wealth, status, so on. To me it is who someone is inside, and whether or not they can be who they are regardless. I would rather have someone who is beautiful inside, rather than someone with outward beauty and the personality of a mop. I have dated overweight women before because inside they were beautiful. I have also dated some who were plain, or "not attractive" because they had an awesome personality. There are too many superficial people and those that judge on looks alone in the world anymore. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 12:58:01 PM | Come on Girl-friend………. did you need to ask that question?
You are just setting your self up for bullish stories. The same men that will feed you with one hand will take away with another…..
In Theory most men will say looks doesn’t matter and blah, blah, blah, but in really life if they saw a thin woman sitting next to a slightly bigger woman in a pub/club. Then they will go for the thin lady. Unless the woman happens to be funny; even that, there are no guarantees. Can you tell if any person is funny just by looking at their picture online when doing a search?
Most men like trophy wives……
The long legs, the thin-stick body, the blonde hair, the blue eyes. To have a woman is like having a car. The more gadgets the car has, the more they can show it off.
It’s not their fault…its genes…..It’s nothing personal; it’s just the way it is…. (Well, maybe a little personal)
Will this ever change? ………..Yes
Has it ………………………......…..Yes, slightly
We seem to live in multi-cultural societies now. Times have changed and people are learning and growing…. The need for men to have woman like a James Bond car maybe over rated; and not necessary satisfies every man needs.
Both men and women are starting feel it’s OK to look beyond just the physical. I saw a program on Channel 4 a while back on BBW (Big Beautiful Women). It was great and good for them…………
I learned it doesn’t matter what size you are… you need to look within yourself and find out what really makes you happy, only then will you be with a guy and be truly happy.
Enough Rubbish Now
Bye
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Posted: 4/30/2005 1:54:20 PM | you know for you guys to say that..
thats crazy... your just thinking with your penis.. thats all.. ( youd rather have a show case then a lover. ) cause i would much rather have someone i can play around with, laugh, pick on sometimes ( get it back of course )
and just have someone who bonds well..
yes looks are important.. but nothing compared to the joy you can get from just staring into someones eyes that your falling for... either big women or skinny women tall or short..disfigured or perfect. ( yeah right. pefect is boring ) everyone is different.. of course.. not tryin to start a flame war ...
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Posted: 4/30/2005 3:51:23 PM | I would have to agree with breadpan. Most people will say one thing, when in reality it is a total different story. Our society does make looks an important issue. And as humans we do have to have some physical attraction before there is anything else. Not always, but seems that if the looks arent there, it will take alot longer for something to develop. Yes being funny, understanding, caring, and all the other good stuff that goes with being a good friend, partner, in general a good human being, has nothing to do with looks. It has to do with the heart. But from a picture, or profile, one never knows what the person is really gonna be like. I am not an attractive man, but I do think that as a human being I am a good person. Yes, I have emailed some ladies, but they have never been interested enough to answer back, or even getting to know me. I dont take it personal, because I figure that it's their loss. Probably mine also. But online dating is the same as anything else. When we first meet someone, it's not like they're gonna tell you their faults (and we all have 'em), so it's a gamble. Hopefully I will meet someone somewhere, if not here, somewhere. If I get lucky I will at least get to make some friends here along the way. Plus, I will finish with the fact that yes, I am not really attracted to heavy women, but some do wear it well. Like anything else in life, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Good luck all, and dont take anything personal, cause thats when it hurts. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 7:23:24 PM | | Hmmmm......difficult Q. How fat?.....are you good looking at the very least?......If you are good looking and fat........but have a really negative/bad personality.......the response would be different from having a sunny disposition. My experience is, it doesnt matter at all you weight, once you have gotten past the initial viewing and meeting. The kicker is if you have a crappy personality. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 7:25:11 PM | | Check that............a personality that doesnt mesh with what you are looking for. Crappy is totally subjective. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 10:53:14 PM | i like smart girls, they can **** your mind and body ;P
personality is very important, hot girls turn ugly when they're stupid/flaky/supremely egotistical.
showing some interest is also important, the right amount of assertiveness can be extremely attractive (example: a girl i had dated for a month or so just told me to unzip my pants one night while we were sitting on her couch and blew me without a second thought about it, this came as a total shock to me (we hadn't done anything but make out previously, and we had jsut been watching a movie and talking up to that point) but naturally there was no objection on my part  )
having said that men can have and do condition themselves to like whatever is available .. i've heard people talk about the "in a pinch" rule of thumb, which basically means you will **** anything with a warm hole after enough time. but i've found these are entirely subjective to the individual and the circumstances.
example: ex girlfriend that is stupid, flaky and while not hideous, perhaps slightly below average looking. while defying most of the rules i set forth the fact is she's a ****ing unchained demon in bed and there is nothing she will not do and this quality made up for the rest for a long time (almost 3 years). sex can overrule most everything else, including good judgement and rational thought, love can do the same thing (and has, to me at least).
as far as your how do we feel about "fat girls" question i can only say that i've been in a long term relationship in the past where teh girl i was with put on over 100 lbs in a 1 1/2 - 2 year period and that i didn't love her any less for it and told her so regularly as she was very upset and insecure about it (and wouldn't believe me regardless of what i tried to do to show it). i could list other exmaples but i think this is the best one at least from my perspective. i can only speak for myself and i know i'm not represenative of my gender or my age group.
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Posted: 4/30/2005 11:12:05 PM | Opps sorry..new here..let's try that again...
polarunion..you are a douche bag. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 11:27:41 PM | what do i look for in a woman? Class, i'm raising two little ladies myself. it would take a lady to respect that.
how do i feel about "fat" women? ( i don't like the term) sympathy for somepeople that are not happy with their physical self. i know someone thats a beautiful person, but is also overweight. i see the look in the eye that registers as being depressed, caused from the focus that we put on physical beauty. it's a shallow and sad world we live in. hopefully my girls will be strong enough to not be too affected by its cruelties. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 11:37:13 PM | | AS WITH MOST THINGS IN LIFE, THERE IS NO BLACK AND WHITE - THERE`S ONLY EVER GOING TO BE GREY. PERSONALLY I THINK POLARUNION AND BREADPAN ARE BOTH SAD ******** WHO NEED TO GO AWAY AND GET A LIFE. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2005 11:50:11 PM | HOW ABOUT ASKING YOU WOMEN HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT FAT MEN?
I THINK WE`LL GET THE SAME ARGUMENTS!
PERHAPS WHEN WE ALL STOP LOOKING AT THINGS IN TERMS OF GENDER WE MIGHT BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND OTHER PEOPLE BETTER. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 5:26:57 AM | Sorry babes, but I think you are the sad one DINOSAUR!
You are right things are not always black & white otherwise we wouldn’t be having this discussion.…… However for the grey areas that you say exist. How Grey are they really? A bit more black grey or a bit more white grey? Either way, the grey areas will eventually form a pattern and you have to acknowledge that as far as possible……
Is the sky not blue? And when it turns grey & cloudy doesn’t that mean it might rain or something…..?
For your information, I’m small/slim/cruvey, but one of the biggest love of my life was with a fat guy, so there | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 5:27:25 AM | Sorry babes, but I think you are the sad one DINOSAUR!
You are right things are not always black & white otherwise we wouldn’t be having this discussion.…… However for the grey areas that you say exist. How Grey are they really? A bit more black grey or a bit more white grey? Either way, the grey areas will eventually form a pattern and you have to acknowledge that as far as possible……
Is the sky not blue? And when it turns grey & cloudy doesn’t that mean it might rain or something…..?
For your information, I’m small/slim/cruvey, but one of the biggest love of my life was with a fat guy, so there | |
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Posted: 5/1/2005 10:57:48 PM | No problems with any of them, its the grey matter that counts............. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2005 12:37:53 AM | I don't call woment fat because that sounds mean and it's not worth saying anything insulting that can also be said about me. With women that weigh more, it just means that there's more of them to love and to hug.
I look for woment that:
-live in British Columbia, Canada (I'm not looking for a long distance relationship)
-have a nice personality
-sweet
-caring
-understanding
-accepts (if not respects) my virginity (or at least be open minded to accepting it)
-open minded
-accepts me as I am
-won't cheat on me
-won't leave me (unless she and I both feel that it's for the best)
-doesn't put too much emphasis on looks, sex, a guy's race or height | |
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Posted: 5/2/2005 5:47:39 AM | | How they are FAT??? I really want to know the answer I want to put some flesh!.........I'm slim. Can they answer my question? | |
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Posted: 5/2/2005 7:50:10 AM | great - more fat girls for you, more well taken care of girls for me.
fat is the new nicotine.
fat equals
= grave increased risk to diabete's
= increase in heart and stroke rates
= lower life expectency
= increased levels of liver and stoke
= increased incidents of breast cancer
I want a girl to go hiking with, to go travelling with and not worry that her weight it going to be a problem when getting over the mountain.
it's a personal preference. Being honest makes me a douche bag? lol well fine with me.
get off your asses americans/canadians - you're fatter then the rest of the world.
go to london, france, other areas of europe - you'd be hard pressed to find obese people.
people in canada/us eat to much - ride their oversized suv's to the corner store to buy a bag of doritos and then pick up a movie and sit on their ass some more while watching a movie and gorging themselves.
wakeup. fat isn't attractive. it's a degredation to society and it's not healty. obesity will become the leading cause of heart and stroke in both countries soon while smoking is on the decline.
sure - i could love anyone for who they are. but my choice is healthy. not slim, not rake thin, but healthy. if you're overweight - you're not.
that's my choice. you pick blue eyes - i pick healthy.
wake up people. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2005 8:14:33 AM | polarunion: Your facts are correct but do you think you can tone down the rudeness a bit here? And just for the record.. there are plenty of overweight people who are NOT lazy.
Play nice. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2005 1:58:14 PM | | I gain weight very fast but never let myself get fat. I like to look trim and thats what I like in a woman that I'm going to be involved with. I've had heaver girlfriends but it's not a turn on at all for me. Personality is 90% but the other 10% counts. "forever laughter" I agree with you. For the record someone bieng rude is more of a turnoff then someone who is oveweight. Good luck to everyone in their search. | |
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