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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/5/2007 12:48:45 PM | I met my S/O here in the POF pond and we both have made great friends here. We continue to attend POF activities and share in the Forums. I don't think it's necessary to delete my profile at all unless my S/O tells me she is feeling insecure and has a problem with it. We have discussed this issue and we both still have our profiles in POF.
I did hide my profile, changed my status to "Not Single/Not Looking" and also put in my profile that I AM involved in a relationship.
Isn't this enough or is total deletion of a profile the only action that will satisfy many people? | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/5/2007 1:05:44 PM | | I think if you meet someone and you both feel it you should hid ur profile right away and no longer look. If you date a few times, say 3 and things are still going well then maybe delete it. I do not understnad people meeting, saying I am so into you then still on here looking or answering emails..that is not the way it is to be...and those are usually the ones that have been here for a long time..all the stories I have heard from friends etc is that they knew once they met each other and decided right then and there to delete there profiles and they are still together. the others that stay, you see them still here later..I know cuz lots that I know use this site and you hear it over and over again. If the person is not for u fully, then be honest. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/5/2007 1:14:03 PM | | think about it guys...when u meet the right one you want to be exclusive right away...take away internet dating, that is the way it was before that was it not...any guy i was serious about we both knew from the start, there was no time frame. ur just into each other and you call, see, text, do things all the time...that is normal. spending time on a computer talking to opposite sex is not sorry, i just think if ur still on here chatting with others ur not that into the person...this online dating has really messed alot of things up. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/5/2007 1:15:57 PM | I'm kind of torn when responding to this question. I have met guys on here that have become my friends, but I am still single. When I do finally meet someone I want to get serious with, I don't think I would delete my profile. I may hide it though. If the person I am serious with really cares for me, then he will trust me. I am so not the type to play a guy, so If I'm in a relationship I am very upfront with that info.
Then again...if you are in a serious relationship, why do you need to be on here. Get email addresses from the friends you've made on here and contact them that way. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 2:54:15 PM | i think if you really like'm ...you should trash the profile . like you said theres lots of other ways to stay in contact with friends you met on there . we all have email addresses, cell phones, face book and other sites like that ect ect. i think we should keep pof a dating site , besides could you picture looking in a pond and seeing all the fish swimming around in pairs!!! It would blow the " plenty of fish in the sea " saying right out of the water . so i disagree with that Bbbashful and his "s/o"  ... get off the site! us singles dont have near as many sites too play around on for free . go sign up on face book. and keep this pond full of available fish . peace out  | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 3:05:11 PM | If you enjoy the forums then why delete the profile - just change it and state up front that you are in a relationship and not looking for anything more than participating in the forums... otherwise, you delete it when you decide the relationship is real and worth taking seriously.
If you are still looking then you aren't serious about the other person... just that simple. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:09:11 PM | It's not so much having a profile....
Nor is it about content.....
It's really about what you choose to do with the email and IM options.
If you meet somebody on POF and delete your profile there as a sign of commitment, but in your heart your still gonna cruise, you can cruise hundreds of other sites.
My advice, grow up.....this is a 9th grade question, not "the ultimate POF question".....wanna go the ultimate....try "So, I happened to be looking at an S&M web site the other day and say pics of my SO on there with me in the pic and I don't remember that. How do I discuss this with him/her?" | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 5:57:45 PM | I don't think it's such a juvenile question at all. Let's save the S&M discussion for another forum, shall we? Not appropriate here.
I think all of the answers so far make sense. This particular site has all of the tools for us to use it as we see fit.
I just met someone and we are already talking about deleting our profiles. But, because I particularly like to write in and read the forums, particularly this one on relationships, I will just hide mine. I really like this new guy and the feelings are mutual. So it seems the right thing to have a discussion about.
After all, most of us have a little baggage in this department, ie. trust and hurt issues from the past. I've learned the hard way to exercise the courage to have as many of the real conversations as you can up front, so you get to know some important stuff about each other as soon as possible. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 6:15:24 PM |
My advice, grow up.....this is a 9th grade question
I don't think this is a "9th grade" question at all. Its one many people struggle with.
I think you have to remember that a lot of people here have issues from the past, not to mention those nasty little "red flags".
Personally, I feel once you've met someone that you decide to be exclusive with, it's time to hide your profile, say something on it about meeting someone and that you're no longer looking for dates. I mean, after all, if you're still looking for someone better, why be exclusive? And if you're exclusive why still be on the "open market"? | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 6:40:29 PM | It's the old "going steady" question......what do you need, a ball of angora and a ring? A letter jacket?
Bottom line is this, if it makes your SO uncomfortable, there are trust and/or communication issues. If you're living in the land of bliss, great, you won't even be on the site. But WHEN to delete/deactivate it......HUH??? How 'bout when you quit logging on? Cheaters exist everywhere, deleting your profile is not fidelity, it is only the perception of fidelity. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/7/2007 7:06:08 PM | Sorry, I just don't happen to see it as the old going steady" question...
I happen to believe if you want honesty you have to be and act honest.
If you want respect you have to act respectful
If you want trust you have to act trustworthy
If you want fidelity you have to be and act faithful
To me, an open profile doesn't say any of those things. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/9/2007 10:46:10 AM | first of all im not a juvenile . lol this subject affected me in two particular incidences and it sucked! its a real life question. ever think you wer just too old to be talking about petty stuff like this? lol
and thank you every one for your input , but i still hold strong to my point . if you aint single hide yer profile , delete it what ever i dont care. just dont start messaging me telln me about yerself and get me so close to asking you out and then tell me you have a bf and are just looking for friends. thats stupid! you just waisted a tiny little piece of my heart . though thers plent to go around , im saving it all for one person . and when i find her ill delete my profile out of respect. and id expect the same .  | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/9/2007 1:29:21 PM | To delete-
Well -If you both like the forums I suggest you make one
profile for both of you- that way you both have access and
you both have trust on a dating site - lets face it -its a dating site
and if you dont want to come across problems - doing it together
I think this is the best - Not that you dont trust them - its just easier- you
are together anyway- no real need for seperate profiles.
If your not here doing the forums - its when you feel ready - maybe
state in your profile you are not dating - or meeting right now you want
to see what happens-
or when you give her the ring. | |
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| when , after meeting someone on here , is the best time to delete you'r profile on pof ?
Posted: 6/9/2007 2:00:10 PM | | Don't delete your profile after you met someone. You'll need to come here to ask questions about what they meant by what they said, where we think they really were when they said they were working late, whether you should be concerned if she says things are moving too fast, if something she does in bed is normal, and eventually who was right after you broke up. | |
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