| | On Turning 40 (For ladies.)Page 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | A good friend is struggling with her upcoming 40th birthday, and so I went out and found a few articles, specific to women, that she might find helpful. One of the most interesting, and the one I passed along to her, is attached below...
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The countdown begins and soon you will no longer belong to the 30-something group. While some may dread crossing 40 threshold, others may greet the event with anticipation and excitement.
Regardless of how you feel, you will probably do what everyone does at this juncture: take stock of your life. What have you done with your life? Are you the person you intended to be and are you living the life you want? For Margo, taking stock yielded regrets and disappointment as she compared her life to that of her friend, Jillian.
Happily married with 2 children, Jillian has the life Margo desired. Margo, once-divorced, just ended a toxic common law relationship. This meant that she would wake up alone on her 40th birthday. No lover to give her roses, gifts, take her for dinner or throw a surprise party. Margo felt like a classic failure on the love front. Hitting this milestone, she wallowed in self-pity for all her short--comings in life.
It is true, certain things may never happen at 40. It is unlikely that Playboy will want you as their centrefold, just as the likelihood of ever being a grandma fades. While you cannot turn back time “turning 40” suggests something exciting! The simple phrase “turning” means you can turn into anything you want to be. You can turn to anything that you want to. It also means you can turn on your passion, turn on your greatness, turn the page, turn the corner and move on! You are halfway through life, but you still have the second half. No matter where you are in your life, there are no rules where you should be. It doesn’t matter whether you are happily married, single or divorced 5 times. It doesn’t matter if you have too many children, enough or none. It doesn’t even matter if you are highly educated; college educated or barely finished high school. At 40, the doors are wide open and you can still do anything you want.
In biblical terms the numerical number 40 has significant meaning. Think of the 40 days and 40 nights of rain floods. It took the Israelites 40 years to find the Promised Land, and Jesus spent 40 days in the dessert before his crucifixion. Maybe it takes 40 years to grow into an awesome woman. You are about to enter the most amazing time in your life. The past 40 years were all about preparation. Now you are both credible and incredible. 40 is the pivotal power age and here is why:
·You can become a doctor or lawyer and still have time left to practice;
·You can fall in love like a teenager and still have the time to grow up;
·You can marry a younger man without first having a facelift;
·You can have your first wedding anniversary;
·You can have children and still have the time to raise them
·You can shop at Victoria Secret without looking silly
·You can move to another country and still have the time to make it your home;
·You can take up a new sport without worrying about arthritis;
·You lived long enough to be sure about some things;
·You can say what you want and others will listen;
·You can still have fun without being medicated;
·You can do something that you have never done in your life.
And remember this motto to live by:
"Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, martini in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming ~ "WOO HOO, what a ride!"
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© 2006 Allie Ochs | |
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Posted: 6/8/2007 10:19:46 AM | I will be 40 March 12th, I try not to think of it..lol
In the back of my mind its there..."OMG, im really going to be 40 years old"
But then I think where I have been in my life, the wonderful things I have got to see and experience. I think about how each years been a stepping stone into growing into the woman I am now. I love who I am, I like how I look, I wouldn't go back if I could.
So let the years come and go, I'll take them on gracefully and be proud of everyone I made it through. | |
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Posted: 6/8/2007 11:26:04 AM | I will be 45 next month...no regrets, just lessons learned. I had my 3rd child at 40, I am now back in school (updating) my profession because I plan on being around for a long, long time! While it's true my "bootie" isn't quite as round as it once was, I am passed the phase of trying for the perfect body as I had done in my younger years. I am comfortable in my own skin, of who I am and where I have come from. I walk with confidence and pride because I know that I have become the best "woman" I could become.....ok....sometimes it still gets under my skin when the youngins at the store call me "mamm" ....and occassionally I look at my "war wounds...aka...fine lines" and wish for a vanishing cream ...but all in all...Age is just a number (that comes faster every year)....and I embrace it as it comes as I watch in total amazement....my babies...growing with the years...into young adults | |
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Posted: 6/9/2007 12:39:50 AM | Turning 40 is the BEST! You're not a clueless 20-something, or a confused 30-something and you're not yet a member of the AARP.
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Posted: 6/9/2007 7:06:36 AM | Thanks for posting this. I'll be 40 in September...my first "milestone" birthday as a divorcee...I've been dreading turning 40...but I plan to celebrate this milestone by getting my first tattoo.... <img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_117.gif
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But I suppose I ought to be grateful rather than sad. A lot of my friends did not even live long enough to make it to this milestone...
Cheers
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Posted: 6/9/2007 7:38:08 AM | Ahhhh ~ To be 40 again  Turning 44 this year! I can remember the times I thought I'd never reach 30! For some reason? turning 40 was not a big deal to me. And yes, I have heard that 40 is the new 30 also. I believe this! I know, just for myself, my 40's (so far) have been some of the best years of my life !  I have more confidence, more self ~ awareness, more "laugh lines" , more "genuine" friends, I don't have near the worries I once did, I don't have to be entertained constantly, I have a little wisdom today (I think ... lol). I am definitely comfortable in my own skin ~ so what if it has a few "wrinkles" ( I like to refer to them as proof I've made it/character "markings"!
I look back at "the journey" so far ~ I can honestly laugh til I hurt at times !!! I've made some great decisions, I've made some horrible ones ~ but hey! I'm o.k. with ME today! 
I will say this ... Having a 15 yr. old daughter to live vicariously through at times has made 40 SEEM like 20 at times! Or at least she gives me a great excuse to ACT like it from time to time! LOL
Being in my 40's has brought me to new attitudes, new perceptions ~ new beginnings.
I've thoroughly cherished them!!! 
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Posted: 6/9/2007 7:46:23 AM | I enjoyed the info in your post! Thank you. Personally, I've never been happier, healthier, more emotionally liberated, more focused, more confident, wiser, and simply content with my station in life since turning that corner at 39th and 40th, and it's only going to get better from here, 'cuz I said so!  | |
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Posted: 6/9/2007 10:53:08 AM | I'm turning 40 this September and like another poster, it's my first milestone b-day since being divorced. I'm looking forward to it, no dread here...when asked my age, for the last year or two I've said...'almost 40'. For me it's a new chapter in my life...turning 40 is an age where a woman comes into herself, she's no longer looked at as a 'girl'.
At this stage in my life I have friends(true friends not just party buddies), a career I love, a teenage daughter that I can still relate to, a comfortable relationship with a great guy, an amazing sex drive, and the ability to know what I want and how to get it...turning 40 is a great thing! | |
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Posted: 6/9/2007 4:02:24 PM | Like great wine, many women just get finer with age.
(And all the above posts prove just that!) | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 12:19:38 AM | | 2 years till im 40 im excited wisdom, still good looking ,grounded and horny yahoooooo 40 cant wait | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 8:54:35 AM | Relax is all I can say.
I know I blew a lot of anxiety energy that would have been much better spent in other ways. It really is a number. Since then, it just seems to get better...and so do I!! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 9:56:17 AM | Great article. I am 1.5 years away from my 40th (next Nov) but I am looking forward to it!!
My girlfriends and I are going to VEGAS baby One close friend and I turn 40 within a month of each other and the rest of the gals are already over 40 and are smokin' hot so that alone assures me that over 40 is not the end of the world!
Woohoo!! Bring on the 40's  | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 3:21:18 PM | | hmmm, i'll be 43 this coming august. to me, any birthday that i approach(ed) after the age of 30 is just another day. even moreso with not having anyone to celebrate my birthday with. i'm still able to do anything i was able to do when i was 21 (except have children) and maybe even better. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:14:52 PM | | I'll be 40 in august, no big deal, it's just a number. I realize some women look at it in a whole differant way. Look at it this way, another year of experience under the belt....... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:55:06 PM |
While I can appreciate being my age, there are some real negatives to it. For example, now that I've worked out many of my fears and want to live life on overdrive (too many things to accomplish before I die), I don't have the energy or time to do them (esp. the former). One gets more health problems too. Also, dating is a b*tch. Guys in their 40's want to date 30-something women. This leaves the guys in their 50 (most didn't take good care of themselves and look like crap) with us women in our 40s. So, not much to select from. Makes me want to go back to getting my Master's degree - better cost/benefit... | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 4:56:17 PM | | I'm new to posting here - that last post was meant as a reply for CG5000. Sorry folks, I'll use the quote next time. | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 5:31:46 PM | LOVE being 40 no longer care what anyone else thinks of me
I am having the most fun I have ever had in my entire life
I know my body
I am starting to know my soul
and I have the best job in the world
yay me
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Posted: 6/11/2007 10:03:16 PM | 41 in a month and two days....starting a new job in a new town....
......the world is my oyster!!
Tell your friend to embrace it....she's old enough to know better, but young enough to do it anyway!
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chinua
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Posted: 6/11/2007 10:10:45 PM | | I turned 40 in May- no big deal- just more reason to brag about being in shape | |
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Posted: 6/16/2007 3:10:02 PM | | All I can say is........... It's not the years, it's the mileage that makes you old.. lol | |
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cgisme
| | Joined: 2/14/2007
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Posted: 6/17/2007 4:50:41 AM | Thanks for this! I'm not turning 40 yet, but tomorrow is another birthday closer still.
Life is not over. The best is still yet to come!
I'm all for skidding in with chocolate and martinis!!!! YEEEHAWWWW!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 6:41:52 AM | Well it beats the alternative!
It seems that women feel more pressure about getting older than men do. Men at 40 still think they can get (and want) a 21 year old. Women can get but don't want a 21 year old! | |
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