| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:09:39 PM | | Am I crazy for not wanting to date someone who Smokes cigarettes? I quit smoking cigarettes almost 2 mos ago. I am taking that Chantix. Well I met a man about 4 wks ago. We met. Had alot of things in common. The communication, trust and he was not a jealous type of man at all. Which is really rare now a days. I really liked this man. But since I quit smoking. I got turned off by him smoking and had to end this. I found that when I was around him. I picked up cigarettes. They tasted so nasty that I put them out. But when I was not around him. I didn't pick up. I really was turned off by this. I know smoking is hard to quit. But I just refuse to be around a smoker cause I see what it does to me. Am I crazy for thinking like this? I want to hear some of your experiences on this. If any of you had left a man. Cause of this very one thing. They have a motto out now. That I think of when I think of lightening up. "Kissing a smoker is like licking a ashtray." And when me and him kissed he did taste like a ashtray. I didn't enjoy kissing either. I know this is sad. Hope to hear some input here. Thank you. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:15:46 PM | No cant stand the smell, disgusting,  | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:19:19 PM | that motto has been around for years nothing new.
and its your choice if you smoke not the person that your spending time withs.
but if the smell, taste or whatever are bothering you ask him not to do it around you or stop seeing the person. whatever floats your boat. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:21:41 PM | | who want to date an ash try ... smells and taste like shit why kiss on it ... | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:21:47 PM | I myself am a smoker, but I understand completely your need to date a non smoker. Especially, if it causes you problems with your own quitting. If you are uncomfortable around a smoker, by all means, make that one area that you wont budge in as far as what you're looking for.
Its like a recovering alcoholic having to hang around a bar, it's just not conducive to your own well being.
Congratulations on quitting!! | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:28:13 PM | | I am a moderate smoker (yes, nasty habit) but never smoke around someone who doesn't like it. And never when eating. Even I can't stand that. Now, if it becomes an issue in a relationship, then that should be motivation enough to make an effort to quit. And also ask your partner to help. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:44:40 PM | | I dunno I personaly dont smoke never have , but have dated smokers through the years , maybe they were not heavy smokers because I dont recall any of them tasting like an ash tray . | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:48:14 PM | Yes, smoking smells nasty. But that isn't the biggest reason I won't date a smoker. I've had 3 people in my family die from various cancers associated with smoking, and another from emphysema.
Smoke? Sure go ahead. Burst into flames if you need to. Just don't do it around my daughter and I. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:51:00 PM | I tried dating a smoker a number of years ago, but couldn't get past the way she smelled and tasted. Her constantly needing to stop what we were doing so she could have a smoke was equally annoying. It's too bad, other than the fact she stunk, she was very nice.
I don't see the need to put up with someone else's poor choices. As far as I'm concerned OP, you made the right decision. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:57:13 PM | | How do you know it tastes like an ashtray.Have you been kissing ashtrays | |
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Posted: 6/8/2007 4:58:16 PM | NO!!!! You are NOT crazy, you are SMART!!!! Stick to what you know is best for you!! I advise this from personal experience. When I met my husband online, I had recently quit smoking, had about a month and felt very good in my quit. At first I said I didn't want to date him because he was a smoker and I knew that I wasn't that strong yet. He convinced me, saying that 'he wouldn't smoke around me' , and that if it developed into something serious he "wasn't opposed to quitting", etc. i finally gave in. And quickly fell for him, until we were spending all of our time, outside of work, together. The 'not smoking around me meant, if I went to the restroom, he'd be smoking when I came back; and then when i confronted him about quitting, he said that he'd told me he "wasn't opposed, NOT that he'd quit!!" Needless to say before long I was smoking again, full time. AND still am 4 yrs later. HANG ON TO YOUR QUIT, and LOSE the smoker, before its too late!!!!!! | |
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Tramp
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Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 12 | |
| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 4:58:58 PM | What do you like, an "Irish Spring" tougue or the man?
You have not spelled anything yet, wait until his arm pits are sticky, smelly as well.
Let him anjoy the smoke, you get a fresh look somewhere else. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:00:43 PM | | Aww we got a smoker here who smokes often and can't stand when someone talks about this. So he has to be a wise ass. No I have never licked a ashtray before. Its just a saying. Chill out and go smoke a cigarette if it makes you happier. | |
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Tramp
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Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 14 | |
| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:01:04 PM | | Sorry, smell... enjoy...and so on. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:09:16 PM | | Thank you for your inputs from the people who have had this experience before. I got a case of bronchitis and this is what motivated me to quit these things. And the fact I kept getting short of breath coming up stairs and even reading out loud. I do have a family history of lung cancer and most of my grandparents have passed on cause of this. I am very young and do not want to die. My life is to meaningful. I quit drugs over 5yrs ago and now I gave up these. I think I am doing pretty well for my age. I have a very strong head on my shoulders. So I beat 2 wars and won them both. If you choose to be a wise ass cause your a smoker. Then go for it.. But I choose to live not die. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:11:05 PM | Dear Sweetspuds;
I never answer and rarely read these things but I read this one and felt compelled to answer yours. I smoked for 22 years and quite 6 years ago. I will never smoke again and typically wish I had those years back as a non-smoker. I have failed eyesite and breathing problems even tho I quit. You did the best thing you could ever have done for yourself girl! As for the guys who smoke? What I do is read the profile and if it hints at smoking I don't answer. I've even had to tell guys this. They say to me "Are you serious? I really got to quit smoking or you won't date me?" Yep, thats the deal. They're not going to quit so you might as well save yourself the drama! and save yourself at the same time. I'd say good luck but you won't need it...you've already quit that shit!
Ps. My user name ironically does not imply smoking, but a sparking of the spririt,
SMU | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:21:38 PM | I smoke... I'm a smart man but I am addicted to cigarettes. I have stopped on several occasions but with friends drinking that also smoke I tend to pick them up.
But relative to dating and smoking. Around the girl I'm with I will not smoke. Even if we spend the weekend together I would not smoke. If Ms. Right didn't smoke I would probably quit or good. I really feel abused sometimes by some people on this site. In that they act as if smokers are the scourge of the earth. I think this is hypocritical and arrogant. I have been with so many anti smokers and once they cross the alcohol threshold their reaching for them as well. Why? Because smokers are cool. The smoking section in a restaurant is always the most fun. Non smoking bars are boring.
On some level non smokers are jealous.... lol | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:23:23 PM | Ok don't hate me! I too have on my profile no smokers yup I do...don't want nor desire a man who smokes...so when i read a man's profile and they smoked poof out of here, and if a man who smoked got through to me poof out of here....
funny thing happened to me a couple weeks ago, I went to a singles dance, and met a man mmm thought he was interestingl...he asked me to dance seemed so comfortable...i asked if he was on POF he said yes *I said me too y have I never seen u?
We had no idea, same city, same age group...man weird...NOT....he smokes...
sigh,
I hate sm0king with a passion----guess I will pray daily for this man to quit cause i kinda like him....smoke and all...sigh!
Oh, yah he is very respectful of not smoking around me etc. and because of that I accept him for him --- even though I absolutely hate it, I have allergies so it is not good, but for now I think this friendship is really worth a look at...smoke and all!
fiesty
PS and for all the smokers who came before this man shhhhesssh sorry guess maybe I was to quick to say NO! | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:31:14 PM | | No, you're not crazy. If you can't stand being around a smoker or kissing a smoker, you'd be crazy if you DID date one. That would be silly and unfair to both of you. | |
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Tramp
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Joined: 2/8/2007
Msg: 20 | |
| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:38:01 PM | SweetSpuds, you are unfair.
Have had all those problems yet you date a smoker? And You Judge us? Did you konw he was a smoker?
Why, a cigarette is worse than drugs? Smoking is an escape, call it what you want, cowardice, substitude for a friend... solitude.
If you liked the man, rigth now you would be with him and be his friend.
Apparently you do not have what it takes to be is mate; it's Friday, go, have few beers, it will be easier to kill some one. | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:40:05 PM | | Fiesty: Cool of you to make that public statement. I was going to reject you based upon the brown bookcase behind you in your photo. But I thought even though I hate brown book cases you might be a really nice person and who am I to judge. You see we are all growing...lol | |
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greer
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Joined: 4/26/2007
Msg: 22 | |
| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:50:26 PM | sweetspuds, you dont drink and have quit smoking, i however dont drink a drop, but i do smoke, i dont even like to be around anyone who smells like a bar, much less drink the stuff, my point is: why is there no "bandwagon " to stop drinking, as a retired police officer, and worked many wrecks over the past 30 years, not one, i say not one wreck was caused by smoking a cigarette!. granted smoking may not be the best for your health, but neither is coffee, bacon, sodas, sugar, and the list goes on and on. think of how many drunk drivers will kill or be killed this weekend.  | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 5:56:25 PM | | All I can say to Tramp is WTF ever. You have no room to talk, you have not been in my shoes. So don't judge me on my past. My past has made me the strong person I am today. And yes I am still friends with this man. I quit smoking and I quit drugs and I quit drinking. Got a problem with this? Why cause you can't do it? | |
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| Dating a Smoker
Posted: 6/8/2007 6:06:03 PM | | I tried do date a smoker...no can do. the kisses sucked and the smell turns me off. | |
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