| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:57:32 PM | | with a guy shes dating so he doesn't get the wrong idea about her being a slut? Like, I don't mean to ask such a lame question. What do guys really think. I mean I know they want it right away. Doesn't it turn a guy off from a serious relationship if she does it right away? | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 10:04:59 PM | Be prepared for a wide variation in the answers you get!
For me, it just needs to feel like it's the natural progression with a couple of elements present. A committed & exclusive relationship being #1. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 10:11:09 PM | At first, I thought it funny as hell that you'd come to "ask a guy," and ask how long you should wait before having sex; talk about leading the lamb to slaughter, lol.
Anyways, a lot depends on the guy. There's no magic number here. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 11:06:42 PM | | LMAO, yes Im 30, and it's so funny cause I feel like 17 asking. seriously though I don't quite know how to put it. Like sometimes I just want to but I can't tell if it's the right time yet. I don't know how to tell if it's right for the guy. Like it might be right for me right away but I wouldn't want to scare a good man off. I know it can go either way, right depending on the guy. If you're a guy and a girl sleeps with you right away you're probably going to get scared off a little, right? I mean you'll like it but if you want a serious relationship, you might think she's too slutty for that? | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 11:15:08 PM |
so, what if you only went on like two dates and you're just horny?
If you like the guy but are afraid to give the wrong vibe and are hoping for more with him, take matters into your owns hands.
If you don't see it progressing towards anything substantial, and are ok with a fling. Game on. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 11:19:39 PM | | well thats what I mean I think, like I might really like him and see things progressing but I don't want to wait. I think I should though cause I really like him and I don't want to scare him off. I'm just speaking hypothetically, I don't have anyone like this right now. lol. ok, i get it now, duh take matters into my own hands, lol. thats great advise. so you're saying the best thing would be to wait for the right time even if I can't stand it? | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/8/2007 11:41:13 PM | So the following is my own old-fashioned, antiquated, and often ridiculed view on sex. Take and leave what you will.
I value sex. I think it's the best friggin thing in the world and there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying it immensely. But, I've found that I enjoy it much more when there is a strong emotional bond present. Without that bond, I've also found it it actually distances me from the person. I won't even pretend to know why.
So, back to the value - If I want someone to value it as well, I don't put out at the drop of a hat. Lord knows at times my physical needs are screaming at me :) | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 2:03:17 AM | | Usually I'd prefer to wait until an actual commitment has formed and/or I trust them enough to believe they're clean. However, if a guy is giving it up early he has little right to criticize a woman for doing the same. It'd be best to just avoid that type. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:42:47 AM | | Interesting question, however there isn't any correct or incorrect answer. You just have to go with your gut feelings, if you think it's right and you have feelings for him/her then do it. Should he/she not want to you will know that right away and you can then enter into discussion.. Sex just for sex is nothing a relationship will be based on, sometimes you are in the mood and really don't want a relationship with that person however you do have the urge and he/she is available, take precaution and go for it. Sex in a relationship should not be taken lightly, do it when you have feelings for one another and you are looking to build on this relationship, if the sex is no good, then the relationship will not last, I don't care what you say about how good he/she is, sex is a vital ingredient in any relationship, for if either party is not satisfied, then they will start looking elsewhere. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 11:51:51 AM | | I think a woman should wait for sex at least until she knows she can trust/commitment from him. A man pressuring for sex too early isnt good obvious he doesnt care about you and then he will be gone. If the girl wants a serious commitment honest relationship she should wait until she knows he is honest, cares about her, chemistry, emotional and commited to her. I think the mans should still make her feel beautiful, loved, wanted, cherished before the sex eventually does happen. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 11:58:20 AM | | 8 hours of actual human to human interaction, minimum. It doesn't sound like a lot, but after you've spent 8 hours together, you should both have some idea of whether it's worth doing. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 12:20:57 PM | | Since your going out on a date, I think as soon as he comes to pick you up you should drag him to the bedroom and get the equation out of the way and then enjoy your date... | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 4:33:20 PM | i dont believe there is a time limit or set amount of days/dates. That being said i dont think sex right away is a good thing. Get to know each other first and spend sometime together. Then the sex will mean more.
I can only speak for myself, so i believe i respect a lady more is she waits.
Sex is easy. A real connection/relationship is much tougher to get. But i am sure most guys are thrilled to get a shag right off the bat. I am willing to bet though that most dont stink around though. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 5:00:42 PM | 3 months was exactly how long it took me to find out I was being cheated on. And close to 3 months to find out another time that I was just a pastime until the old ex came back to her.
Unfortunately due to my past experiences, 3 months seems to be a magic number of death. The relationship would have to be rock solid for me to not get panicky. There'd have to be not one thing to give me suspicion that she was using me as a standby, or actually seeing someone else.
Sorry, but I can't deny my gut reaction to signals I've already witnessed that proved to be too painful to take any chance in repeating.
Am I wrong in feeling that way? | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 5:26:08 PM | Oh Vancer, you're much too hot to have been cheated on!
Back to the OP though, I think that a couple or few months is a good time to wait and get to know the person. It's all subjective though, maybe it's right in a few weeks or a year or never. Once you do it though, you can't go back. And I prefer to enjoy the giddy high school first stages before you've had sex for as long as possible. When it's still erotic when he brushes up against you, when you can kiss for hours and do nothing else, when you're yearning for him to put his hand under your top, etc. | |
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| how long should a girl wait before having sex
Posted: 6/9/2007 5:38:06 PM | Okay totally new to this whole dating thing and believe me it’s been a long while. I don't have a clue what the rules are however if I'm waiting there is not a chance in hell I could kiss for hours and not freaking implode. OMG you have some serious discipline.
I could maybe handle brushing up against someone. Once or twice. | |
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