| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 9:43:49 PM | Do any of you men believe that sex is better when it's with a woman who you're in a long-term relationship with and that the longer you're together the better it becomes??.....come on...there has to be a few of you who believe that.......give me hope!!!!
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 9:51:11 PM | | sex can be good with either short or long term partners.....there are pros and cons to both. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 9:51:50 PM | Are there any women who believe that sex can be good without being in a long term relationship??........come on..........there has to be a few women who believe that........give me hope!!!!  | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 9:57:58 PM | sure it gets better. you get to know eachothers bodies really well! but it should be comfortable by at least the first 3 interactions. sometimes it takes a while to get on eachothers "patterns" so to speak. you get to know what eachother LOVE , and what will bring eachother to total and silmutaneous orgasmic bliss.
just be steady. but if it isnt progressing. then you better count your ducks and see if you want to continue.. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 10:16:04 PM | msg.1
Absolutely it does! But the key is comunication. If the partners doesn't know how to invoke the pleasure of their partner, because the other doesn't "just get it" or "do it just right" or intuitively grasp that both figuratively or physically, then what have you got?
Less then your sexual pleasure, and uncomfotable vaginal pressure. ;)
And good sex is how you make it, but good lovemaking involves communication. Before, during, and after the physical intimacy. But this is not a question of being so intimate about your desires, that your partner remains "clueless". Also reciprocation is essential, for the expression of fantasy then turned into the reality of ones loveplay. This of course, is only possible, based on the "moral" restrictions of ones current partner, and what they might consider as a healthy expression of love, or if absent, emotional comfort level, during the sex.
Experiment and enjoy!
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 10:33:32 PM | | OP: When I was with my ex of seven years, our sex did get better because we were comfortable with each other, and I knew what she wanted and how she wanted it.. There is hope 4 you | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 10:52:40 PM | the more mad you get at your partner the more you want to hump their brains out so....well....you decide on that one ..... | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 11:26:13 PM | I am not a man but I was in relationsnips and of course it does.
You know your partner a lot better so you are able to please better too! | |
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Posted: 6/11/2007 11:37:32 PM | Upallnite,
I believe that sex can get better in long term relationships. First off it takes a while to learn your partner. Then there are the boundaries that we all start out with. From there, we tend to really want to please our partners and may find out how fluid the boundaries are as we try to fulfill each others fantasies with the added levels of trust that comes from long term relationships.
Assuming there aren’t antidepressants that remove sex drive or blood pressure medications that cause impotency or the relationship issues causing resentment in the partnership, sex can happen long term.
I have noticed some tendencies that seem to inhibit great sex in a marriage. First off, once the contract is in place, a younger woman says no way to often for the man’s sex drive. Rejection becomes a big part in losing interest in sex. Then there are the kids and time issues and she isn’t feeling sexy. After years of limited sex, it becomes sympathy sex and it just isn’t good.
After long term marriage sex is good sex. Long term relationship, (post-marital) is the best sex, IMHO. With mature women reaching or even exceeding the men sex drive as well as the barriers being stretched due to maturity, sex can be quite a work out. Without that contract, each partner knows that the other can end the relationship if not sexually satisfied with out reprisal. Now sex becomes one of the major issues in keeping the relationship healthy along with communication, kindness, compassion and the other values that hold the relationship together. Add all the cool stuff from paragraph one, and there can be some great sex.
Just one guy’s opinion.
Jonny Mac
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/11/2007 11:41:56 PM | i dunno.. the best sex i had was a one night stand.. i've had good sex with people i've dated for a year, and terrible for the same amount of time. it all depends on the person. i don't think its gotten better over time though, maybe more comfortable, but not better.... sometimes boring though. the same 3 positions in the same order every night doesn't do it for me. maybe it used to when i was younger, but not lately... not to be graphic or anything, but i want a girl who's completely insane, biting and scratching....yeaaaaah.. otherwise, eh.. if i'm not leaving it with a few "love bruises" then whatever..... but it'd be nice hahaha
i feel like long term sex just gets repetitive unless there's something more there. but most of my relationships lasted way too long for the wrong reasons, so the sex suffered the same fate. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 1:03:08 AM | I believe it does. It takes time to get into someone’s mind, in their heart, and ultimately their soul.
The best sex is so much more than just physical.  | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 1:44:45 AM | | That's generally been my experience, as it has allowed for more time to figure out what both prefer. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 2:10:26 AM | | It can. As they learn your rythems and your "good spots", it can become easier to please you. They have to have the desire to please you and learn from the begining though, it won't get better if they can't be bothered to make it better. The same goes for you too though, if you try to make things better for him, maybe he'll get the hint to try harder too. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:19:29 AM |
Do any of you men believe that sex is better when it's with a woman who you're in a long-term relationship with and that the longer you're together the better it becomes??.....come on...there has to be a few of you who believe that.......give me hope!!!!
No, it does not get any better. I have never been in any situation where it has. If is starts out crappy, it remains that way. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 6:30:37 AM | The premise of a long term relationship seems illusory to me. I might consider marriage to be intended as a long term thing, but nowadays people break vows and get divorces on a whim. To me a long term relationship is what a woman calls it when she wants to control how it ends. That is, she wants to be the one who decides it is over when it suits her, and not find herself dumped by the guy. So she won't have sex with him until he goes along with it. He plays the part. She plays the part. They have sex. There is no real belonging or commitment. There is only a temporary agreement to call it long term.
The benefit to having sex with the same partner is you get to know each other. If you want to. It is always an option to remain aloof and just use each other without anything resembling intimacy or connection, well, besides the obvious.
I think when sex gets better or at least stays as good, people stay together. It's when the trappings of a so-called long term relationship become more trouble than the sex is worth that things fall apart and it ends. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:38:16 AM | Yes I believe so. The longer your in a relationship the more the comfort level and communication should open up as well as your feelings for each other growing. Good Sex is good, but better sex in my opinion is intimacy and comfort with someone you really care about or love.
C~ | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:50:49 AM | | Sex gets better over time. Then it plateaus. Finally, it gets stale and eventually dies off altogether. At some point in a relationship, there is a point of diminishing sexual returns. In some cases, that point occurs after several years or decades. In other cases, it's far shorter than that. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:55:16 AM | From experience, upallnite, I would say yes, it's true. I've had one who was incredible from the start, but it still got better as time wore on. I would suppose that it's because you learn more about what "hits the sweet spot" for each other as time goes on---just as long as you learn enough to vary the experience so you don't become "bored" with each other in the bedroom
BTW, too bad you're not down here, and moving's not an option, heheheh
Best 2 U~Nicebluiz | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:14:48 AM | | i believe sex is for SURE better when it is with a person you've been with a little longer | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/12/2007 8:34:46 PM | I don't believe that when two people are connected with a deep, emotional, passionate love that the sex can get boring!! It's that passion for your partner that fuels the physical desires....NOT the variation in positions, etc.  | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/17/2007 1:59:00 AM | | I feel that it gets better,anytime I was in a relationship with someone ( at which i have always been relationship oriented) it usually took several times to build a comfort level with that person,learn what the other person likes and dislikes, so yes for me I would say it definately gets better over time. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/17/2007 2:06:44 AM | | In the absence of love it is rather meaningless. I would rather sleep with the one I love then a hundred whom I lust. I am unique in such a view, just the minority. Not that I judge someone who goes the hundred route, just not my thing | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/17/2007 3:29:09 AM | If sex is important then yes, it does get better.
If sex is not important or there are ulterior motives then no, it only gets worse. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/17/2007 5:28:34 AM | | I know from past experience the sex can get better. If there is true love and sexual attraction present in that relationship, then your sexual love life will be good. It takes time to get to know the sexual likes and dislikes of someone. The important thing is to not do the same thing over and over. Don't let the sex get boring, experiment once in a while. Try different moves, different positions. Go for that "nooner" once in a while. Take a few hours and explore each others bodies, even after years together. The orgasm shouldn't be the best part of sex, the journey to that orgasm should be. | |
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| Sex gets better?
Posted: 6/17/2007 6:01:00 AM | Yeh, it gets better, but not that much better.
First few times I was with this guy he would get nervous and finish too quickly then start apologising for being crap and not 'pleasing' me. Four months later we would spend weekend mornings doing it for 4 hours. It was better, but time consuming. He was very happy and thought it was the best thing that ever happened to him. But I still was looking forward to there being something better out there in the future. Unfortunately it hasnt happened yet. | |
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