| question for the guys
Posted: 6/12/2007 7:31:01 PM | | ok.my question is why do some women write say there intersted and send there email or even the cell and after talking to them for while they say i will call u and no call they say i will im you and so on ,i would to realy like to know if it is just a game for them to see how far they can get to the man or what well i know from my past i had women who say there interested and talk and thats ok but when months go by and they say well i would like to meet you and when the time comes they will say i just want to be friends,or i have found some one new or sometthing like that dont they realize it can hurt the other mans feeling dont they care i am not asking forr pitty i just thought it would be a good topic to see if other men have been through this and how they feel about it | |
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| question for the guys
Posted: 6/21/2007 6:39:35 PM | Ok let me let you in on sumthing, do you remeber when you where a kid and the first time you had a girl hit oyu or say sumthing mean to you , or your dad or mom said to you "Be a man"!! Which translated really meant dont cry , be tough, this shouldnt hurt you . Women have just like men in this society and many others have the same thoughts as they get older!! as we become men we are told time and time again in movies with actors from john wayne to clint eastwood.. wesley snipes etc. that grown me dont cry or atleast we shouldnt show it it makes us look soft or not manly. Well your right it does hurt when you think you form a bond with women and they walk right out of your life as they walked in . But its the stereo type of womens thoughts of men unless your gay!! and of women we think if we are honest with them about our feelings if we are honest about anything with them that they will take it wrong..Women lets admit are weird!! and no matter how much you think you know always realize theres only the tip of the iceberg. I mean to say there is a whole side of her shes actualy in alot of cases keeps hidden away . Lots of guys dont realize this and they say all the right things they make all the right moves but you in the end loose her Why you fell in to the trap you trying to make her like you not being your self.. your giving your self to her, gurls women hate that .. they like to chase as much as we do they like to know you dont agree with her .. they like to hear you contradict yourself . Its weird dont be there for them when they call women like to brag like to feel . I dosent matter what it is some are confussed of what they want thats why they are here!! We as guys have to be less available especially if your a good guy.. If the woman is really good for you ..and if you want her let her fly ...most love to know that she had to use what she had to get you .. your aprize.. As guys we have to look at our selves alittle more closely what am I saying am I always there for her am I sexy to her, am I to available . In my experience the most saught after men are the ones that are already taken or romantically involved with another woman as girlfriend or wife!! Have you ever noticed that when you have a girlfriend or your interested in a gurl all the old flames come up and all the ones you might have emailed and talked to without there being any kind of great ending or meeting or date , call you back or hit you up with a message!! Have something to do other than waiting for a gurl to write you back... yes be attentive be understanding but be YOU!!! If you dont like what she did or said say it dont take it!! It dosent mean be confromtational or abrassive b ut be different.. if she wants to chat at 500pm your busy use that time to improve on your self work on things you feel you need to improve on yor self.. find a gurl who is just your friend and have her ask her "hey telll me for real what do you think I could improve on with this or that or will you go shopping with me have one pick you out a new look ( make sure she has some fashoin sense ) better yet go to like nordstroms and ask for a professional shopper and have them pick out the latest styles the latest stuff spluge for once on your self.. feel good about you it will give you more confidence. Women have very kean senses.. they can smell despiration on your breath in your typing etc.. its unattractive thats why they finally walk away... I know we are guys we dont even realize it .. Good example of that " I remeber in junior High school I had the biggest crush on this gurl I mean I really wanted to just hear her voice jus be around her I was soo nice wrote her poetry , etc. but I wasnt quite sure she felt the same so I did it anonymously good thing I did !!! This girl sat behind me in spanish class and she spoke to me in class often , so the day after I sent her roses and wrote this poem that I wil tell you was a great simple poem nuthng drab etc. I mean I was soo romantic.. ( I know this for years later I showed pics of my first crush to this really hot model babe from Russia dated her for aminute It was the biggest tuen on for her wanted me to write her one I did butfor a kiss) this gurl the next day had some guys on thesoccer team real azz hole bullies make copies nad post them all around the school she laughed adn laughed and even in class she was like " I dont konw who the lil basterd was who wrote this but hes so pathetic.. do you know after that I realized that sh4e was sooo phoney , by highschool she was still in the it crowd and was llike she was the shyyt more beautiful than ever actually she look like mishca barten from the OC, but I was smarter I didnt hang out with anyone i n schoool and wasnt one of the in guys actually I was a nerd like guy but I was alstate in soccer...anyhow to make a long story short I left my town on weekends went to clubs for teeens worked out and met girls friends outside of my town.. one day word got out that I was kool , that I could dance and had a lot of gurls chassing me well " by then I was adifferent kid. one weekend the IT crowd went out to one of myspots not knowing I was there.. I was like one of the in guys there .. I mean it was sooo kool by monday I was the shyyyt in school I had the guys cutting there hair like me I got invited to all the parties and guess who dumped there boy friend and was calling me everyday cheering for me in the stands.. what did I do .. I didnt go to the parties if I did I left and went to my spots .. the girls didt date any in my town.. and was polite but not very nice they ate it up.. and till this day .. when I do go back to my town the guysrespect me the girls all still crush seeing me and I am me.. not what they made me Im not in there crew they are in mine so I said all this to say be you.. be confident and check your self and your feelings at the door until a girl is really serious dont get caught out as a friend to them its a game and even after you get the girl dotn forget if you put on a show to get her whenyour true self comes out cause it will she will loose interest!! One more thing , times have changed even back n thedaysz women had more than one suiter.. and she had to pick one .. now adays they still do and you will never know.. they turn down a hundred guys aday for dumbest reasons.. some good some dumb but in the end they just thinnk " Be a man "!! Hes a man!!
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| question for the guys
Posted: 10/15/2007 5:56:49 AM | There's some good advice in the posting above. But it missed one of the issues in this thread.
It took me a while for me to realize some things in on line dating.
We are not all here for the same reasons. That seems obvious, but its easy to forget. Just like in off line dating people view dating in very different ways. Some are here for a committed relationship. Some are here just for sex. Some are here to play. I find even women who are looking for a real relationship sometimes play games because its the only way they've ever dated.
There are women that love the game and that's their focus. I think it may be a power thing, particularly with the prettier ones. They like to string men along and play with their heads. Don't let this go on for more than a couple weeks. Confront the issue and come right out and ask if she's interested in more than is already happening. If she is, it won't mess things up. If she isn't she'll become more evasive or angry or if she is on the more healthy side she may just say she's met someone else.
Another issue here is it's very important to close the deal quickly. If you have a girl's interest, set up a meeting as soon as possible. If you want a second date, set it up at the end of the first. If she's pretty she's talking to multiple men and if someone else grabs her interest and is working quickly, you're out. As they say- strike while the iron is hot. | |
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| question for the guys
Posted: 9/2/2008 3:49:58 PM | | its alot of email tag..... some problem here and im a decent looking guy.. their phobic about meeting... or they do 4-5 emails and they vanish.. true? kevin | |
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