| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:13:27 PM | Ok, so here's my deal. There's this girl (there's always a girl), that I met a while ago. It was the weirdest thing, meeting her, but after only a couple days, I felt like we could talk forever(We ended up talking for hours and hours and hours) and that would be awesome. Eventually, things got physical (Not telling how physical, mind your own business) one night.
For a full week after that night, she had completely hijacked my brain. All I could think about was seeing her or talking to her again, but she wasn't returning phone calls or messages(Apparently she's just like that). Eventually, she started messaging me again and talking with me again, but the feeling was gone.
My problem is simple. Those two weeks were filled with me acting like an angsty fool in love, and now she's starting to hear about how I was acting and thinking I'm a loser.
So if I tell her I fell in love with her but it's over, think she'd believe me? Honestly, she's still fun to talk to, and it'd be a shame to destroy a friendship over the insanity of a few days where I was a fool in love. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:21:27 PM | | She would see it as a challenge if you tol dher you fell in love with her and anymore, why would you give her that empowerment? I think you could tell her that you once had feelings for her but since she used you as a convenience, then you moved on. But why would you want a friend that doesn't call you for weeks on end, and then all of a sudden calls you. You deserve better than that, and you'll find someone who is fun to talk to too, just dont' let her use you as a convenience. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:29:00 PM | This is too easy. You see it wasn't 'love' you felt for her, it was lust. Love hangs around a little longer than two weeks, lust comes and goes.
Why did she suddenly stop conversing with you? It sounds to me that she really had no intention of having anything serious with you right from the start. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:31:29 PM | Honestly, I've lost a lot of friends, good friends, loyal friends, more friends than some people will have in a lifetime, to the road. I hate it when people I care about disappear like that. It's the worst feeling in the world.
If I can help stop someone I consider a friend, a rare person who has some idea where I've come from, where I am, where I might be going, from disappearing, I'd gladly sacrifice to do that. They might not be a great friend, but it's better than watching someone disappear when I can stop it. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:37:02 PM |
This is too easy. You see it wasn't 'love' you felt for her, it was lust. Love hangs around a little longer than two weeks, lust comes and goes.
Why did she suddenly stop conversing with you? It sounds to me that she really had no intention of having anything serious with you right from the start.
That's so cute, the lust/love thing, but I'm not 15. The thing going through my head was because of our conversations, and existed before physical stuff ever came into it. She's not a looker, this is pure Cicero action at work.
Anyway, I'm also not an idiot. Why do you think I'd detox and lose the hijacked brain in a week?
Either way, you don't spend hours and hours and hours talking with someone you just want some physicality with. That'd be silly. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:45:57 PM | You might consider the fact that most good friends don't just disappear. Good friends will continue to have contact even if their lifestyles change or you live a long distance apart.
This "girl" doesn't sound like much of a friend if she doesn't return phone calls and messages. I wonder why you think that's all you deserve? The fact that you think you're in "love" with someone in such a short amount of time concerns me along with the fact that she doesn't seem very nice to you.
Just my humble opinion, but it sounds like you're going to get your feelings hurt again. I do wish you the best. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 10:59:24 PM | | And who says she's disappearing, she may not disappear from her other friends, just disappears from you? If she was into you as you were to her, she'd call you often. Just move on, by accepting her calling you whenever she wants, you're allowing her to abuse the friendship. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/12/2007 11:03:41 PM | Getting hurt is all part(a painful part) of the adventure. I'm witnessing springtime, and there will sometimes be horrible cold and snowstorms that will test my strength, but also some of the most beautiful sunshine. If I wasn't strong enough for that, I never would have gone out the night I started to really meet people, and despite the days I've just sat back and felt like the pain would last the rest of my life, I wouldn't have had any of the awesome times I've had.
There's a thin line between trying to keep someone in your life and trying to make them a central player in it. Not wanting someone you like to hate you with venom is definitely diff...
You know what? I just realised, she doesn't hate me with venom. I'm not going to do anything. I don't need to. Thanks for the advice! | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/13/2007 6:39:15 AM | I once kissed a guy once, and it was nice the first time, but the next time nothing. I told him about it, because I was just being honest. He felt it to. No big deal.
A lot of the times between the days new things come up, and make people rethink things. So the next time its not the same. (It isn't love, its is a hormones rush.) Love is what comes later when you keep connecting on other things as well. | |
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| Would she believe me? Would you?
Posted: 6/13/2007 9:48:29 AM | I have the answer.
OP I've been there. I was flipped over this girl that I could talk to non-stop for 8, 10 hours at a time. I told some friends of hers and it got back to her and she shy'd away. I have the answer for you. Back off from her for a while. No contact for at least a week or two or until she contacts you. She will come around trust me on this one. Backing off will show strength on your part and will rekindle the attraction she had towards you.
The above method also works if you got into a squable with your SO. Send royalty cheques to Braindrain22 Care of POF> | |
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