| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 2:47:37 AM | So here it is.... Average looking fella with more than average humor, creativity, intelligence and smile doesn't want to settle for less than he deserves. A friend of mine tells me I'm too picky....that I'm like a Jerry Seinfeld. I'm 33 yrs old, so I'm a little long in the tooth for getting into relationships I think aren't really going to fly. I need to feel a spark! Am I crazy not to want to settle for less than GREAT? Let me know what you think ..... and if you are great  please get in touch..... Have a great day all | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 2:55:24 AM | i am totally the same as you. when i get with someone, if there's no spark there, i want to be single again, and leave whoever i'm with. i get bored. but then when i'm single, i want to be with someone. i don't think there's anything wrong with settling with "great", if we settled for second best, we wouldn't be 100% happy so what's the point.
i've settled for second best forever and now i'm out to get with someone who makes me happy and not someone i'm going to stay with just because i'm fed up with being single.
i also don't think you are too picky, i am so the same as you, there are so many men out there but only a few that i would like, i guess i'm picky but i don't see it like that, i see it as i'm waiting for mr right and all those second best people i meet, just aren't the ones for me. the same with you, you aren't being picky, you just haven't met the right person.
i'm sure we'll both know when we meet that right person. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 3:00:00 AM | | Cheers Ruth..... I guess I'm worried about being 34 35 36 and still waiting..... Funny thing all the girls I feel a spark for shoot me to the friend zone right away grrrrrrrr.......what's up? | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 3:04:27 AM | LOL...sry. Don't settle! But what have you been passing up if you're not settling? Have you left someone you love?...or has it not gotten that far? It is my impression that you are still on a somewhat supperficial level and need to get past that before any REAL progress can be made.
You are the only one here who knows why you ended the relationships you have been in. Do you think you're as bad as Seinfeld? (no-one can be that supperficial!) If you are, you need to get more involved....invest a bit more time, before ruling someone out because of something STUPID.
Many, me included, have had great relationships (not the end all be all) with those you would have first not considered.
Open your mind, broaden your horizons....oh yeah, and get real! | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 3:13:00 AM | | I think you might have got the wrong impression 35 going on 25 ..... I'm no Seinfeld, and to be honest its been a year since I had a date.... I don't really meet too many new people.... I don't really like the bar scene ( dangerous for a guy who likes beer as much as I do ) I am the last person to rule someone out for minor things, but I either feel it or don't. Do you really think that makes me a dreamer? | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 3:29:40 AM | You said it,,,"you feel it or you don't."
Someday you will "feel it" and she will too. It may be well beyond the age you initially pictured, but life is very good at surprising us.
Keep the faith buddy....you will find yours....but you need to get out there......she might be someone rather unnoticed but close!
rock on | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 3:37:15 AM | | Thanks 35 going on..... Hope springs eternal..... These night shifts make it a little hard to be " out on the scene " though. I sure do like my neighbour LOL Are you psychic???? | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 4:25:10 AM | Shit, think most of us need to feel that spark or connection no matter what age. I for one can normally tell pretty fast, either its there or not, its not be picky at all and one should never settle. For me that statement is stupid as hell, most people who say it wouldn't settle for a job if there is another one out there that is better for them or a house if they don't like it, want to slap someone when they say crap like that.
I figure if it happens it happens, not going to go worrying about being 50 and single, to much to enjoy and experience be it alone or not. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 4:27:40 AM | | Why settle? It isnt fair to either concerned if you "just arent into her/him" Now if you find little bitty things wrong and look for an excuse to run then well....I sure as heck know that he is going to be it for me...i want that canteatcantsleepoutoftheballparkintorightfieldkindoflove I am 37 and feel at this stage of the game that maybe i will wake up 47 and still waiting!!!! Lord help me....lol | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 4:51:39 AM | To the author:
what is it exactly that you want and need in a person? define it to the letter T.
What is comprisable for you and what isnt?
Just curious | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 4:54:12 AM | | and agreed no one should settle for less then they deserve .. I prefer to say less then they "need" or "desire" because truely some people deserve shit...lol.. or at best deserve in return what they give. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 5:01:44 AM | | DGW haha I guess I have to put my money where my mouth is now. Essentially I am looking for a woman who is a friend, alluring (not to be confused with beautiful), is an optimist, can hold her own in a debate, smiles more than frowns, doesn't take things or herself too seriously, is honest, loyal, and unwilling to compromise. I could go on and on but I think you get the gist..... I'm not looking for fairy tale..... just a WOW | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 5:28:18 AM | | well mandrake...i think the problem is geographical...maybe if you moved to ky...hehe...you sound like u got a great head on your shoulders, and the fact that you're not settling, well...that just makes you more worthy, in my opinion...did i mention how ruggedly handsome i think you are? | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 5:30:44 AM | yeah lets blow this pop stand and go straight for the china ....lol
yeah Mom2... ur tooooo kind..lol saw that post earlier ..  | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 5:36:44 AM | | Ruggedly handsome....... Is that like creatively intelligent??? LOL Kentucky is a beutiful state.....and speaking of Geography....50 or so more years of warming and it'll be like I'm living in KY LOL. | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 5:37:58 AM | | Computers blah....... I'm all for the china DGW.....I hope your dress matches a Kilt LOL I'm not even scottish....but Damn it all I want to wear a Kilt | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 5:43:30 AM | | LOLOLOL at Keely......I drive a Big Ford truck if that helps! 4x4 and everything......I think you're right they'd probably hunt down the crazed ruggedly handsome skirt wearing guy like a dog | |
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| Too picky? Just don't want to settle
Posted: 5/2/2005 6:42:29 AM | | naww...they'd just throw a bon-fire in your honor and take pics for the whole communtiy to gasp...as for the wedding...does that mean i have to wear the overalls? cuzz i'd prefer the chaps...hehe | |
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