wafta
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Joined: 6/14/2007
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 6:53:45 AM | Is it just me or is anyone else out there feeling the absence of their Dad on Father's Day?
My Dad has been gone 12 years this year, but I still miss his larger than life personality and the laughs we had. Not to mention the lessons I learnt from the wisest and most intelligent man I've ever had the pleasure to know.
Anyone else feeling something missing today?
Let us remember those Dads that are no longer with us and make sure they are remembered along with those still living on this special day  | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 7:05:29 AM | Agreed Wafta.
My father died when I was six, so my memories of him are hazy...but I have always missed having him in my life, and I am sure had he lived I would be a better person. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 7:19:34 AM | miss my dad, drove past his grave last night with the intention of going down, couldnt face it. he has been gone 5 years, time passes too quick. 
we were thick as thieves, always in trouble together.  the saying you dont know what you have till its gone is so true, i treasure every memory, and lucky for me there are too many to count. 
must admit, i have struggled to get my kids dad something on fathers day ever since though.
PF x | |
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wafta
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Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 4 | |
| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 7:27:24 AM |
i have struggled to get my kids dad something on fathers day ever since though
I absolutely agree with that. Picking out Father's Day cards is a nightmare, even now, cause I feel like I should be buying one too.
On the subject of kids, my oldest was only 7 months old when my Dad died, so never got the opportunity to know him. My youngest is only 7 so never knew him at all. I do everything I can to keep him alive and to let them know what a great man he was and what a great Grandad he was too - he lived for his Grandchildren and its sad that my kids missed out on that.
I find talking to my kids about him helps because there are so many happy and funny memories to share with them.
True, I miss him on days like this, but I am so grateful for what he was and I consider myself very lucky to have had the honour of being his daughter. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:03:28 AM | 2 of mine were born, 1 was due a year to the day of him dying, unplanned pregnancy too, pretty sure she was a gift for our loss, well given the first 2 were after fertility treatment. the last one, god knows how he came about.... 
we still talk about him alot, even the little ones look at pictures, vidieos ect, when we pass the cemetry they wave hi to grandad.... he was a coal miner, he always had cough syrup, one day he took a mouthfull of one and passed me the bottle to taste he thought it was off, i looked at the lable, it was surgical spirit...  that bottle is still in the same place on the shelp in the kitchen!
you know when i think about it it could start another thread.... we did some wierd things when we were in mourning, we slept in this huge church in the middle of february, just so he wouldnt be alone, he was in his coffin uncovered, so we covered him up to his chest in a blanket too...... ok, i will make an appt with the psychiatrist for tomorrow... | |
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wafta
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Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 6 | |
| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:11:18 AM | That was the point of this thread, to laugh about the stupid and funny memories we have. You don't need help, we all do stupid things like that 
I remember going to see my Dad in the chapel of rest. He was so sarcastic and such a joker, he just looked like he was about to sit up and shout "fooled ya!". I still laugh about that today and imagine him having a good laugh at us and some of the stupid stuff we get up to sometimes | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:11:30 AM | Yes, I miss sending a card and phoning my Dad up on Father's Day.
Now, my brothers are both fathers, so they may feel the sentiment attached to this day.
My Dad died two years ago, next month and today, I will raise a glass of wine to him and wish him a Happy Father's Day, wherever he is.
Although, I can't see him, he lives on in me and my memories.
HAPPY FATHER'S DAD. ALL MY LOVE.
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:40:55 AM | Yes I miss my Dad.
Its been 20 years and I still feel there is something missing on this day. It has gotten easier over the years but the feeling is still there. And I get the same feeling on Mothers day. (5 years)
I think of them and visit were they was laid to rest. I was and still am very proud of both of them.
Thanks for this thread. | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 8:44:03 AM | I lost my dad on tuesday (12.6.07), ive just got back from seeing him in the chapel of rest, he has his fathers day card in his hand now, even if he cannot read it. My son and i wrote it out the day before he was suddenly rushed into hospital and died.
Happy Fathers Day Dad wherever you are, i miss you, the only consolation i have is knowing you are no longer suffering.
Sandra
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Posted: 6/17/2007 10:55:53 AM | my dear old dad died at xmas last year, so its the first fathers day in my life where he hasnt been around, i miss his look ... you know the look only dads can give when youve done something wrong.. he didnt have to say a word... just the look was enough to mark his disapproval. Went down to the garden of rememberance with my sis, and just had a quiet moment remembering him, left some cream roses, which he loved.
a great dad, i will miss him forever. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 10:59:17 AM | San, im so sorry for your loss, recently losing my dad to, i know how your feeling...
and it is very hard the first few months, but you know your dad loved you, and like mine , will always be in your heart.. | |
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wafta
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Joined: 6/14/2007
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 11:24:44 AM | I just want to say how sorry I am to Sandra for your recent loss and I apologise if this thread has upset you in any way. It must be very difficult for you right now, but it does get easier and the tears are soon replaced by fond and happy memories
I'm going to throw in a few more of my own that have been going around my head all day today. He always remained sarcastic, right to the very end and the last time I saw him smile (laugh even) was when my Mum and I got stuck in the lift in the hospital. Up until that point he could hardly move or speak, but a big belly laugh meant being cramped in a lift with my Mum for an hour was well worth it
The smile on his face when my sister and I arrived from London two days before his death with our kids "Lollipop" and "Micky G" (he nicknamed everybody), was priceless and will always be a fond memory to share with our children.
I have a video of a family barbecue where my Dad insisted on cooking (of course) and, though he could barely stand properly, the smile on his face when the food disappeared from under his nose so fast, is thankfully something I get to look at and show my kids whenever I feel the need. He went into hospital the day after and never returned home, but this is not sad, because his last day at home was a day surrounded by his family all being daft and having a good old laugh !!! | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 11:34:28 AM | Hi its been over twenty years since my beloved dad died
i always think of him with much love and affection and often wish he was still with me and my children he was a joy to know and love he always said he was a Peter Pan but alas this wasnt the case he died aged 57 of a massive heart attack. Today i wish him and all dads including my childrens father....lol a Happy Fathers Day | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 12:24:26 PM | I lost my dad 7 years ago. We used to fight a lot but he was my dad and I loved him. He died suddenly so I didnt really say goodbye but if I could just speak to him one more time I'd tell him how much I miss him. I talk to his photo all the time. Sorry about your dad Sandra | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 12:33:44 PM | | You ought to go and see Colin Fry, Sprite? He's touring between Sept and December, and he is doing a night in Bournemouth. (Nov 9th) One of the most gifted and genuine true mediums out there. I'm hoping to catch him myself when he comes up to Huddersfield in October. | |
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wafta
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Joined: 6/14/2007
Msg: 17 | |
| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 1:44:00 PM | ^^^^^^ Not sure I believe in the medium thing but I have been tempted a few times, especially as my brother died 2 years ago too. My Dad and my brother were huge personalities and, I'd like to think they'd push their way out if I went to something like that 
It frightens me a bit cause I'd worry that I'd been a naughty girl and I'd get a telling off
Another memory just happened for me, I was taking my kids to bed and said "Up the wooden hill", my little boy who's 7 and never met my Dad, said I shouldn't say that cause it reminds him of Grandad. Good to know they have memories even if they are only from what I've told them
I have to thank my Dad for my knowledge of c0ckney rhyming slang, I was often asked as a young girl to bring him his "almond rocks" and his "four by twos", to pass him the "uncle walt". Not forgetting the fact that he had to go for a "pony" every night at 9.55 on the dot before going to bed - funny that's exactly the time he died too 
Edit below : That's good to hear San cause I was worried that I may have hit a raw nerve and I didn't want to do that. Sympathy at a time like this is not a bad thing, there's a lot of people here that can sympathise with you, especially today. Everybody here has my heartfelt best wishes and I want to thank all of you for recognising that these Dads are not forgotten today or any day of the year. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2007 1:45:07 PM | Thankyou to everyone who sent me their kind words, im overwhelmed at how so many people that dont even know me are so thoughtful and caring .
@Wafta...I never once felt this thread was upsetting me, i was already upset, i found the thread a lovely gesture to ALL the dear sadly missed dads of fellow forumites. I didnt post my comment looking for sympathy i just needed a release and i logged on here and saw the thread at the top and immediately i knew i had to post on it.
I lost my mum in 84 so i know my tears will fade and the fond memories will always be with me.
Thanks again everyone
Sandra
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Posted: 6/17/2007 5:07:56 PM | I remember my dad every day.... he was the person who introduced me to most everything... cars, motor bikes, sidecars, bicycles, fishing, model building, camera's, radio, tv, recording machines, target and game shooting, boating, cruising, flying, gliding, touring, tailoring, politics, family values.... he died aged just 62.
Today I took my grand daughter swimming and it was truly amazing! It was filled with men and their young children.... I'd never seen that before, it's usually mainly women and children with just a few men!
She is just five and she lost her grand dad two years ago, earlier this year she lost here dad, just this month she lost her other grand dad... but she is such a vibrant and cheerful little person. | |
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cargy
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Joined: 10/13/2006
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/17/2007 6:15:30 PM | My heart goes to all those who are missing their Dad today whether many years or just a few days.
I HATE fathers' day. I lost my dad on Fathers' Day 2000. Not the nicest way to remember the day I'm afraid, but not enough to make me hate it because I remember him with a lot of love and affection and that won't change EVER. He had his faults but he was a wonderful dad.
So, why do I hate it? far more poignant reasons. I have 2 children who I love dearly, that became victims of a nasty divorce, and now hate my guts for all the wrong reasons. I haven't been able to see them for 18 months and haven't had a card of any sort, birthday, Xmas, Fathers' Day, post card, or even playing card (nor a text, email, or letter) for 2 years now. It breaks my heart every day.
Being a sentimental sad git, I look at the 15 years of old fathers' day cards I still keep, and wonder how the beautiful children who sent these cards, my world, my raison detre, were brainwashed into the way things are today, and wonder how much part I played in it.
I hope one day to find out, but in the meantime, it sucks big time!
Sorry about the whinge. Tired and a bit of self-pity. Normal service to be resumed ASAP | |
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Posted: 6/18/2009 11:58:24 AM | | I know where you're all at. Lost my Dad two years ago. Boy was I angry....I was angry at the world, angry at my Mum as I could talk to my Dad even if sometimes we would wind eachother up, angry at my sister, angry at shops selling cards with 'Dad' on them knowing that I'd never be buying any ever again...now its resignation and just loss. | |
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Posted: 6/18/2009 12:01:40 PM | Thanks to whoever found this and resurrected it, I did do a search but it didn't come up for some reason.
I apologise cargy if this is a sad time for you, I hope this hasn't made it worse | |
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| Father's Day - Memories of Dads No Longer With Us
Posted: 6/18/2009 12:12:25 PM | Carl, sending u a massive hug darlin...........(((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))))).........you are one of life's truly wonderful guys and I am priviledged to know you, hoping that Sunday is not too difficult for you xx
To everyone who has lost their Dads, my condolences to you all. I hope that this Sunday brings back fond memories without too much sadness. | |
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