| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/17/2007 9:01:08 PM | | In this day of cell phones and instant email and the ability to block people if needed, why would anyone stand someone up instead of cancelling in advance ? (Assuming we're not talking about standing up a suspected stalker...) | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/17/2007 9:05:53 PM | 1. They lied about who they are.
2 They never we're really interrested.
3 they chickened out.
4 maybe they were not around a phone and not 100 percent of people have a cell phone.
5. maybe they we're called at the last minute for an emergency to go to the hospitial..
that has happened to me and honestly in the commotion of people crying and so on you trully do loose thought if it is in fact someone close to you or simply an aunt who is loosing her child or a car accident. One never really knows how another can handle crisis.
Well I could name a million reasons........ But below is the one I think most often. | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/17/2007 9:08:05 PM | I think most people stand up people because of them self not the other party.
Maybe scared you would not approve of thier looks.
Or maybe they were hoping to loose a few lbs before the date came along.
Or maybe just plain butt holes. ya really never know what one is thinking in their own mind, However I would not say just forget about it. I'd ask maybe if they would like to try again and tell them they can take time to set the date themself.
If they infact are more comcerned of them self. Than maybe assure them of these things as well as long as they showed you the pic of the real them.
Other wise I have no clue.............................................Never stood an actual date up But know some of my friend whom have because they were concerned more about how they looked... | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/17/2007 9:42:23 PM | | I had a guy stand me up 3 times. First time he said he just didn't feel like it. Second time he said he slept in, and third time I didn't get a reason. My thought was that he was insecure and didn't want me to think badly of him. I've met people for the first time and found that they either didn't match their pic or they were an ass or something. But I always finish the date and then email them and tell them how I feel. Part of life is dealing with it. So if someone can't call or email me to tell me they can't make it to meet me, then I don't want to be with that kind of person anyways. | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/17/2007 9:55:37 PM | because you walked in and passed them by three times and did not recognize them.....and that they were 50 pounds heavier, and much older or younger then claimed or looked?
But then again.....I would stop once they stopped me because I look like my pictures, and sit down and say......why??????? Thank you but no thank you.......never the age.......just the looks as stated compared to the reality of what is once you meet......the question is......Why?????
Just my opinion......   | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/17/2007 10:59:18 PM | I've never stood anyone up.
My friend stood me up once cuz she didn't believe me about where I live... There's a big field by my house in the middle of the city and I live in an odd neighborhood. She got to the field and turned around while calling me to tell me she didn't believe where I live! Since then I got a map to my place from mapquest and send it to anyone who needs directions..... | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/18/2007 12:41:17 AM | Thy .... keep those ideas commin' in ! Its way too bad if someone would be a no shopw because they think they aren't attractive, after all, they DID get asked out!! | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:39:40 AM | 1) They had an emergency operation, and they are unconscious.
2) They have amnesia. They don't remember who they are, let alone the date.
3) They are a secret agent, and have just been sent on a mission with no warning whatsoever, and are not allowed to contact anyone.
4) They have no respect for you.
If they have to cancel at the last minute, why can't they phone you?
Ever heard of a cell-phone? If yours goes dead, you can usually borrow one for a few quid/dollars. You could look for a public phone.
'Nuff said. | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/18/2007 1:06:12 PM | | OK I accept there are valid reasons for not making a date, even not cancelling in advance... its the ones who don't even call AFTER that burn me up ! Thanks for the com,ments !! | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/18/2007 1:21:37 PM | | OP, barring an actual emergency where one couldn't call to cancel right away, there could be various reasons why someone does this, but they all boil down to the person being selfish and only thinking of themself. Whether they were insecure, lied about their looks, etc....by not showing up and not calling to cancel, they're saying that the person sitting there waiting doesn't matter; that they're not important and not even due common consideration as another human being...So I figure, who would want someone like that, and why would I waste my time wondering why they did this? If they can do something like that, then they're not worth even a few seconds of my time. | |
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| In General, Why would you stand someone up?
Posted: 6/18/2007 1:31:49 PM | Have to agree with scorpiomover. The only real acceptable reasons for not showing up and not calling are a serious emergency, like being in an accident or situation where you're unconscious or both your arms got chopped off or something.
As a side note I once had an emergency come up an hour before a date (my mom was taken to the hospital in an ambulance from work). I tried calling him but his phone was off and his voicemail was full so I sent him an e-mail explaining the situation. When I got home from the hospital fully intending on trying to call him again (for the third time, I tried calling him again from the hospital) to say sorry and explain the situation I found a nasty e-mail calling me rude and a liar and all sorts of stuff and him going on and on about how he waited for over an hour for me to show up.
My mom was fortunatly fine, she just slipped on some ice and had a concussion, but when my dad called me to say my mom had been taken to the hospital in an ambulance and he didn't know what was going on, but that he was on his way there and he'd stop by to pick me up on his way, I had to cancel. I mean what if my mom had been in a serious accident or had a heart attack or something else serious and potentially fatal? | |
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