| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 2:28:47 AM | I must admit, in my hay day, I drank more then I should have, but now at my age, I'm lucky if I have one a year. I have nothing against drinking, if done without going over board.
What I see in the 45 group profiles(men only because I don't look thru the woman's) that there appears to be many who put drinks 3 times or more a week. I ask you, how can this be.? LOL
I know what I feel like after a nite of a few c*cktails, I feel like death warmed over, and have this fuzzy, ozzy feeling all the next day. But coming from a family history of a drunk, then I married one, don't figure, that is the last thing I want in my life.
So my question is, how do/what do, you do when you run across a profile that states plainly they are a drinker? | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 2:59:27 AM | yeah i know the feeling claypot,
i see nothing wrong in a light, social drinker.... but nothing overboard
who is the smeghead that crawls over the posts and uses the 'Reason for Requested Deletion: Redundant subject'
who are they to say what is redundant, maybe its them. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:26:05 AM | | I don't drink at all anymore. Had my fill. Gave it up. So when I see 3 times a week I move on. My problem is most put "social" drinker. I have no problem with someone who has a couple of drinks. My problem is with the fellas who define social drinking as: when they are with me they get blasted! I've lost all tolerance for this behavior. I care more about this then body weight/shape, education level, and all the other blah blah excuses we are using to weed out potential partners. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 3:49:51 AM | Oh heck! What'll I do in the next couple of weeks without my forums to be "hooked" on?You have a great point, claypot,I dont think the monitors realise this is a good topic,even if it comeup alot...
I check pretty good before contacting anyone,if they are honest and say they drink heavilly,I pass.If they say social drinking, well, it sounds fine.Still, this is online dating,and it is not unheard of that people gloss over truths in profiles. If you date someone from the site,it's pretty simple...just observe how much they drink, or if they "down" something rather quickly.True,they might be nervous,and want a drink to reduce tension, but at our age, if we can't manage certain basic emotions such as being "that" tense, it is a red flag,in my opinion.
Sheesh, and hear I am, still smoking...Like I am such an expert on tension...oh well,I am moving house in 2 days... | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 4:13:12 AM |
What I see in the 45 group profiles(men only because I don't look thru the woman's) that there appears to be many who put drinks 3 times or more a week. I ask you, how can this be.? LOL
I can easily have a drink at least three times per week. This is not outrageous and I am not a drinker either. I like wine mostly, though now with the hot weather, down at my house at the NJ shore, I always have a few six packs chilling in the refrigerator.
As far as the wine drinking goes, I use it in all my cooking and look at it as just another ingredient. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 4:15:33 AM |
I don't drink at all anymore. Had my fill. Gave it up. So when I see 3 times a week I move on.
FirstLight,
I dont blame you... however, suppose the chap is a wine expert? And can match any wine with food? | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 5:12:59 AM | My Grandmother used to have 'a touch of brandy', every night before bed... so that would put her in the more than 3 times a week. I fit there as well, I like to lay in bed, read and have a beer most nights. As a single male this about as much excitement as my bed sees.
I think it's more about the amount you drink in one sitting than the number of time per week. I can still recall my last hangover though it was many years ago, and really have no plans, immediate or long-term, to relive that particular adventure. I tend toward moderation in most things. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:26:24 AM | Three drinks a week really isn't that much. A lot of people will have a glass of wine with their meal. If someone drinks every day and gets drunk, that is another thing, but of course that is not one of the options, and they may be too drunk to remember anyway  | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 6:53:00 AM | I use to like wine, beer, you name it...but my tastes have changed and so has my body. Did you ever have that mornin' after feeling, and you never ever partied? I'm not talking about the fact that you can't remember , just one of those mornings where your head is aching and you feel like you did when you were younger and partied all night.
That feeling is my constant reminder and while a 'cooler' now and then when it's hot, tastes great...that's about it! As far as what anyone else does, as long as everything is done in moderation, that's fine with me. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:45:06 AM | I never was much of a drinker. I figure I can get a headache, and vomit without the aid of alchol, and I hate vomitting.
There is a big difference between having a glass of wine with dinner 3 x's a week, and getting drunk 3 x's a week. Yes, I do ask. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 7:52:20 AM |
So my question is, how do/what do, you do when you run across a profile that states plainly they are a drinker?
First, I open my eyes as wide as saucers, in pretend amazement.
Next, I unbutton my shirt so I can reach my hand to my bare breast to feel my heart pounding in mock astonishment.
Then I slide down from my chair to my knees and shake my shoulders as if I was sobbing uncontrollably.
Finally, I act as if I am pulling myself together, resume my seat, button my shirt back up, and go on to read the next profile. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:44:00 AM | I don't usually look at profiles, unless a man has contacted me. If it say's he is a drinker 3 times or more a week, I just write back letting him know I'm not interested. I do the same with smokers. I think that at our age, we basically know what we want, and a heavy drinker, or a smoker, is just not for me.
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 8:49:11 AM | | well, 3x a week or more isn't a heavy drinker. You need to define "or more" I like a glass of wine before bed. does that make me a heavy drinker? Or just sleepy, LOL | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:00:05 AM | | Bayrab: The new health guidelines actually say we should drink a glass of wine everyday. I wish I could, but I just don't like the taste of any alcohol. I just assume that if a man says that on his profile, it means he's a heavy drinker. Another one of those profile questions that needs another category! | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:00:17 AM | Hi Clay,
I've had my fill of drunks as well. Once I realized that I was attracted to them, I wasn't anymore (go figure). Anyway.. If I see a profile pic of someone with a glass of wine, I skip them. Sure, some people look sophisticated hold a glass of bubbly, but I picture them with "drunk eye" and they don't look so hot all of a sudden.
I'm not against drinking, my SO enjoys a glass or wine with her steak, but it's a glass or two, not a BOTTLE or two. I'll have the odd glass or corona, but there's nothing like an ice cold Pepsi and a baloney sandwitch with way too much mustard. Yum.. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:07:31 AM |
The new health guidelines actually say we should drink a glass of wine everyday That's hogwash. When ever something like that surfaces, Health Canada has to jump all over it, yet again, to tell people it's BS. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:16:47 AM | | I collect fine wine and state it in my profile - doesn't mean I drink it every day - in fact I hardly ever drink during the week - the category of "social drinking" is really hard to define and the definition is in the eyes of the beholder - the only way to find out is by going out with the person and observing their drinking habits | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:24:47 AM | Drinking more than 3 times a week isn't limited to the over 45 group. Most of us just can't figure out how they do it and manage to function. Years of practice I guess. Many function at less than optimum capacity. Makes for a hard life I expect.
The drinking question in a profile is like any other.....subjective.
Social to one may be habitual or abusive to another.
...Somebody who shoots pool twice a week and has a 1 beer each time.. and bowls or plays darts on the weekend and has another or a beer when mowing the lawn, answers truthfully at > than 3 times a week and many assume .."problem drinker".
...Someone who gets plastered every payday answers drinks socially and it doesn't get questioned.
All things must be looked at in the perspective of the one giving the definiition. Ask what it means to them. Otherwise, it's anybody's guess.
I choose to not spend time with people who drink to exsess [and I have my own definition of excess.] That is my right and my choice. It is thereby, my responsibility, to ask the right questions of anyone I may or may not choose to spend time with, so that an informed decision can be made.
[Same for smoking. In my opinion, you either smoke or you don't. What is with occassionally? Simple question.. a yes or no would be good.]
Options provided give rise to a need for clarification. Best way to get clarification...ask the friggen questions.
Doesn't appear to be all that complicated . | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 10:57:59 AM | adman.....now THAT was funny!! Have you considered comedy writing or have you done it already. Your posts are always amusing. Thanks for the levity!
Here's a quote from the centre for addiction and mental health guidelines:
Low - Risk Drinking Guidelines
Maximize Life, Minimize Risk
0 : Zero drinks = lowest risk of an alcohol-related problem
2 : No more than 2 standard drinks on any one day
9 : Women: up to 9 standard drinks a week
14 : Men: up to 14 standard drinks a week
One Standard Drink =13.6 g of alcohol
ie. 12oz beer, 5 oz wine, 3oz fortified wine, 1.5 oz liquor.
and its not hogwash that wine drinking has some health benefits. Another quote :
Over 400 studies worldwide, many of them long-term and in large populations, have concluded that most healthy people who drink wine regularly and moderately live longer. The single group exception, whose members should not consume any alcohol, is pre-menopausal women with a family history of breast cancer. The keys to the beneficial aspects are regularity and moderation. Overindulgence can be considerably more harmful than total abstinence. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:08:57 AM | I guess I have wrongly assumed that drinking 3 times a week or more means drinking to excess three times a week or more.
A wine expert who could match any wine with any food would probably be an interesting fella in many other ways too.
As for the occassional smoker......guilty. I know I am bad. I know I shouldn't smoke at all. I am going to quit. It is on my list.
Just sometimes I want a cigarette!  | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:12:21 AM | | I didn't drink, even when I was in college, but now at age 48 I don't drink just as much. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:17:27 AM | | I rarely drink, although I'm not adverse to having a couple of drinks in social situations or some wine at dinner. I do, however, watch carefully how much alcohol a potential partner consumes and how it affects him. Someone who is continually into the sauce or has to get drunk to enjoy himself is not someone I want to be around. I, too, tend to pass over any profile which says that he drinks 3 times a week or more. To me, that means every day. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:18:06 AM |
When ever something like that surfaces, Health Canada has to jump all over it, yet again, to tell people it's BS.
Considering what a joke health care is in Canada, Health Canada is hardly a credible authority. | |
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| Drinking over 45
Posted: 6/18/2007 11:23:58 AM |
and its not hogwash Of course it is.
"There is considerable anecdotal and epidemiological evidence that dietary anthocyanin pigments and polyphenolics may have preventive and therapeutic roles in a number of human diseases. Through the much publicized “French paradox”, the public has become aware that certain populations of red-wine drinkers in France and Italy have much lower rates of coronary heart disease (CHD) than their North American and Northern European counterparts. It is widely accepted that red wine phenolics contribute at least partly to this beneficial effect. A number of studies have shown that mortality from CHD is inversely correlated with intake of flavonoids in the diet. Flavonoids may also help prevent strokes. While some flavonoids have been shown to inhibit tumor development, some experts have concluded that compounds other than flavonoids must be responsible for the anticancer effects of dietary fruits and vegetables."
Note that it's not the wine per sey, but the pigments, that can also be found in tomatoes and other fruits and vegetables that provide the benefits. I had a gig at health canada for a few years. Since it's topic of interest for me, and there was a lot of confusion in themedia at the time, I took advantage of the army of researchers and got my own answers.
BTW, I'm not an AA member, but I spent time on the Al-Anon team, so maybe I'm too biased and inflexible to be convinced of any health benefits.
Now a nice glass of Pinot Noir with a rare steak? You won't have to ask me twice for a fill up. Is it good for me? About as good as the smoke I'll have after.
Occasional Smoker This is a few smokes a week. If that. If that's a smoker, so be it. | |
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