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Posted: 6/24/2007 7:32:25 AM | | met a few ,just found no one was really interested in me ,some say right words but actions speak louder than words at times ,good idea and i know site worked for some ,just not for me i guess ,good luck all | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:04:47 AM | Well I hear what you are saying and periodically I give up but once I get over my snit I'm back.
Have to give a good look at your options. Some don't have options. Oh my got the too short message thang again. | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:17:18 AM | I think you really have to sift through a lot of sand to find that gold nugget. It would seem that too many guys want the "perfect" woman, but they haven't taken an honest look at themselves. I've met guys with a paunch and more hair growing out of their noses than on their heads. Yet, they dump me because they want someone sexier or with bigger boobs. How about the guy with a profile that says "save your boo hoos for someone else". Now isn't that sensitive! I think that too many men want a woman they can call up for a date on the weekend so they can have a romp in the hay, but make no emotional investment. Fellows, that's called a hooker, and a good one doesn't come cheap!
Do I sound negative? No. Disillusioned? Yes. I am a very positive person, but my experience with too many of the men on this site has not been great. Fellows, how will you feel ten years from now when you have even more of a paunch (but hopefully the hair growing in the most undesireable places has fallen out along with the hair on your head) and you're lonely? Will you admit that you are in the position you are because you looked just at the outside of the book instead of reading the inside? I think the disposable attitude you take today will come back to haunt you tomorrow, | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:20:35 AM | | i know exactly how you feel..actions speak louder than words shame the blokes dont realise it..... been on here too long and yet to find the one..what are we doing wrong? expectations too high? | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 8:34:00 AM | Whoa - this person is leaving the site, stating why they are, already deleted their profile and 4 people have already voted to delete this post?
There are posts and threads that definetly need to be deleted - this is not even close to one of them.
Are there people on this site who have nothing better to do before Judge Judy, Sally, Montel, etc. comes on then stroll these threads and voting to delete?
Holy armchair critics batman! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 9:25:01 AM | | I agree with Smiling! I will say this as being a BBW, that I feel at times men only want barbie! Yet if you look like SHREK think again darlin cause Barbie only wants Ken. I give up every week on finding some1, yet here I still am. I am NOT asking for some1 to pitty me or nothing, nor do I want a man below my standards. Because we all have our own standards. And for any1 thats looking for the "perfect" person good luck on that, because no1s perfect! | |
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Posted: 6/24/2007 12:20:21 PM | Hopefully the person has not left, has only hidden their profile for some time to think!
The point is that this dating site is not really any different from all the others, even the ones you pay for.
DON'T GIVE UP, it doesn't cost anything to leave your profile, ignore it and do other things and it always seems to happen, no one contacts you and then several contact you at the same time. The problems really appear to be that too many people have far tooooooo short attention spans, a grand lack of manners, consideration, feelings and imagination.
BUT I WILL NOT SETTLE, I don't mind me, I want to add to the equation so that I accomplish caring, sharing, companionship, etc.... with someone I like and find interesting. This exercise is not about finding anyone, its about finding what to the best of your ability is the 'right' one. Time and effort take care of the rest. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 10:13:05 AM | Well Deb, I'm Derrick. I just want you to know that you are a extremely beautiful, radiant woman......I don't want you to ever give up on finding that 1 man that will melt your heart. As a matter of fact I only wish that I could have the pleasure of at least getting to know even more about you. When and If you receive this message .....please respond. Talk to you soon beautiful! | |
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Posted: 5/31/2009 5:06:07 PM | | I am on the verge of just giving up. I really do not know what the woman are looking for. Just remember there are men out there that ended up with little to show for years of marriage,as there are women in the same boat. What is wrong with a person that appreciates the other person,treats them with respect, does things together and really does look toward the inside. In my experiences they are playing dating black jack. Normally if you have 17 you would stay. Some women would have 20 and take another card just to see if there is anything better. This goes for men also. Take the 17,you could be a winner. | |
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Posted: 5/31/2009 6:56:01 PM | Until I stumbled on this thread, I thought I was one of the only ones.
I know what you guys mean. I've been rejected by every single person I've approached. It's not like I target 18-year old supermodels either - I'm more attracted to normal blokes who seem to have a good head on their shoulders.
I really don't get it. It's not like I do the single-line "hey" message, or include any perverted /offputting thoughts. At best, I'll see that the message was read and deleted. Sometimes, it'll be the "unread deleted." To add insult to injury, the person read my profile - so what does that tell me? It tells me that I'm the problem. Especially when it happens every time.
I'm really on the cusp of giving up. I'm 24, and I've never even had a girlfriend. It's funny too, because every time people try to say reassuring things like "you'll find someone" I just don't believe it. Mostly because its told by people who, by my age, were married and had children.
I'm the problem. After two years of being on here, this site made me realize that. I guess I should be grateful. | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 5:27:18 PM | I agree with you! Guys truly see themselves in a different mirror than women. They never seen to see the pouch, and they don't seem to see women other than skin deep.  | |
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Posted: 6/1/2009 6:02:55 PM | What a load of nonsense, seacool.
I'm not in the least fussy. But I have found that women are VERY shallow when it comes to looks. They're fine to talk when I do not have a picture up, but as soon as I show them a pic...they suddenly "disappear" or "lose interest". EVERY single time.
I'm at the point where I'd be happy just, for anyone to message me lol. Sad, I know, but out of the 3000+ women I have messaged, I do hope at LEAST 1 will have the decency to talk :) | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 11:19:49 AM | This isnt the best site to meet people. Facebook and nexopia are way better thats how i met my current bf.
but anyways.... This site isnt really working for me either. Just a load of over exaggerated B.S
Dont really need it. | |
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Posted: 6/3/2009 7:15:20 PM | | thankyou....I agree with sexyangel. It sucks more than suckers can suck | |
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Posted: 6/4/2009 7:39:15 PM | | thissites done nothing for me since i joined | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 12:21:51 AM | I want to say that my heart goes out to all of you (((Hugs))) ...
I'm rejected for the fact that my body from the neck down isnt perfect anymore, I had children very young to the wrong person and it messed me up bad, which I cannot help, and also left me with a weight problem with my metabolic system that I'm still fighting ...
Every time a male has contacted me, it's the same paradox.. I get upset because know it's coming around again, because I'm 100% honest in everything, I end up having to tell them about me physically and some health issues...poof they're gone again :( like they never have any problems and why should those of us be stereotyped when anything can happen to anyone at any given time...
So no male wants me, because they can't look beyond the outside to see who I am on the inside.. you would think that a male would want someone who is faithful, honest, devoted , loyal, trustworthy,loving, affectionate, intelligent , funny... but they don't...
Well may God have mercy on all of us , and grant us the one who doesn't look on the outside of a person as He doesn't and who will love us and be faithful to us.
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Posted: 6/5/2009 12:47:34 PM | As the Millionaire Matchmaker on Cable TV which is in California says that men (not just in California) think with their "FLAGPOLE" rather than their BRAINS!!!...when they see a pretty young thing..the FLAGPOLE goes up, and their decisions are directed by their FLAGPOLE...when the guys see an average woman, their FLAGPOLE doesn't stand erect and at attention...Do you get what I mean? It's very obvious that for most men, they don't use their brains because if they did, they would read a woman's profile really carefully to actually understand what the person is trying to say...rather than looking at some young sexpot throwing her boobs out atcha!!! Looks aren't everything if a person has the personality of concrete. You boys need to think with your brains and not what's beneath your beltline!!
This is one of the reasons why there this site as any other dating website and dating in general is not going to work for the majority of people....Think of the movie, "Shallow Hal"..that's how most men think.....and will end up being totally alone when they get up well into their 50's, 60's and beyond.
I do believe that women can be just as crude...but for the majority of women, we have a softer side...and we are the ones that are EXPECTED to bend and change our lives....for THE MAN!!!...right ladies, keep thinking that way..and you will not only lose your self-esteem but you will lose YOU! | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:24:21 PM | This is what I'm trying to convey manforrent.. you shouldn't even have to feel that way about your hair loss... I understand how you feel...
People have to stop looking at the outside of other people... thats not who they are... it's just a covering for the real person inside...
I understand what your saying about being hollywood picture perfect ... I used to wish that all the time.. but thats where it's at... thats not love ... I was one of those from age 12-17... and during the time I was a bodybuilder.... don't have the time atm to go into the details .. but can tell you of how everywhere I went males wanted me but that was lust not love..
Lust and love are diametrically opposed to each other... look at all those movie stars how many of them look so called perfect even and yet they still cheat on each other and flit about to however many partners...
This world has it all backwards :/ | |
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Posted: 6/5/2009 1:25:55 PM | | Correction Thats "NOT" where it's at... missed that important word there | |
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Posted: 6/6/2009 12:26:02 PM | I entirely agree with manforrent. Peachycream's tripe indicates how much daytime TV she watches...
and we are the ones that are EXPECTED to bend and change our lives....for THE MAN!!!...
No, US MALES are expected to bend over backwards for what> for.. you women to just sit there cultivating messages from us guys? And not reply? | |
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Posted: 6/9/2009 1:07:23 PM | Pretty negative thread here. It's understandable when people get on here expecting to meet someone of the opposite sex and find only rejection.
I figured my chances on this site were slim but that came from experience on a paid site. To me, this is more like a lottery. It's not wise to invest too much hope on the slim chance of finding the right person but I still play the game. Like the lottery ticket, its not so much the chance of winning as it is to feed the dreams of what could be. The reality is that most lottery tickets are worthless and rejection without response on POF is the norm. I worry that people put too much hope on this medium and don't open their eyes to the real world.
The lottery does have one advantage: The numbers on the ticket are real. | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 9:24:40 PM | | Maybe u just didnt talk to the right person. They say there is someone out there for everybody. So dont give up. Give it another try | |
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Posted: 6/13/2009 10:43:27 PM | They say there is someone out there for everybody
Exactly. They say there is someone out there for everybody. This theory hasn't, and never can be, proven correct. | |
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Posted: 6/14/2009 10:03:08 AM | Almost just gave up....
I have only been on this site a few months but am also very disoluioned.First it is very hard finding someone geographically,and then there is that CHEMISTRY..
Met 3 guys nice enough but did not resemble their picture and no chemistry.
Finally ,I met someone l was interested in and yes lots of chemistry . He had listed as looking for Dating .After a few dates l realized something was wrong . He would only see me throught the week ,with no explanation . When l pushed for answers and asked directly if he was seeing someone else as well he admitted that he was .
I felt so used . I slept with this person because l was genuinally interested in him and thought he felt the same . He tells me he does not want any relationship just friendship. Does that mean guys looking for friendship are wanting just sex no commitment and no relationship .YUK> How shallow.
Beware girls if the guy is advertising for friendship , They neglect to put with fringe benefits .
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Posted: 6/14/2009 10:15:12 AM | here we go again.
So now, all guys on here who are just looking for friends JUST WANT SEX?
Nice. 
I'm too tired for this bullshit tonight lol. | |
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