| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/24/2007 11:26:36 PM | When you see a profile that you like and maybe would like to email them then see down at the bottom that they have 0 roses to send, is that a red flag to you? Yellow flag maybe?
Does it make you think twice about emailing them or maybe click to another profile and forget about it?
How about if you have exchanged emails and they were good, exchanged phone numbers and possibly spoken on the phone, and you noticed they sent someone a rose because they had two the day before, does that make you cautious? Take a step back and wonder about it maybe? | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 12:50:51 AM | Actually, I do notice, big time.
If a man has 1 or 2 roses missing, then I figured he sent them to someone else and there must be a budding relationship happening. Or he's really into someone so I usually won't bother.
Likewise, if I have known of a man who has gone through 6 months or more and the holidays, valentine's day, and mother's day and is always online and NEVER gave out a rose...that is a red flag as well. Some people are selfish.
One person was giving them out as a joke because the concept was cheap and idiotic and it was all in good fun.
It has caused problems.
But now with the points you accumulate to give out fake gifts...wow, the sky's the limit! lol...
I think the rose thing should be private as the gifts are. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 12:54:12 AM | | soon as i get my roses i send them to a friend that it either down or i want them to know that i care... i do not send them for romantic reasons... because i am not here for that... but thats just me... it is just the same, when you come across a profile and they have lots of fans... don't be put off.... you may be the one for that person.... if she/he had found the right one, they would state it on their profile.... | |
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Joined: 11/15/2006
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 1:17:02 AM | Are you really that paranoid that you can read into someone's mind, or someone's intentions because a virtual emoticon is used? Let's be honest, unless the roses are real, from a real florist, then they are quite meaningless.
Do you really believe a girl is going to say "Oh My God - He Sent Me Free Fake Roses; I Love Him!". Come on now. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 1:20:32 AM | Yup... I've been fortunate to have met some fantastic men on here... regardless of what is written in their profile, or how many virtual flowers they've sent out, I would have sent mail to them... and I'm far richer for having done so...
Why step back and wonder? If I'm curious... I'll ask... but in the long run, it's absolutely none of my business... | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 1:28:02 AM | | Of course not! I have friends here. I often will send gifts to them because they are having a rough week. None are meant romanticaly. Plus it's a stupid vurtual rose. A digital rose by any other name would still be a digiatal rose. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:07:22 AM | I don't pay any attention to those goofy roses OR the "gifts" we can purchase to send. It's just silly. Unless I get them. Then they're not quite as silly.
I'll send a gift or a rose occasionally. Usually as a joke. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 2:18:36 AM | | It's a virtual rose. That means IT'S NOT REAL! It's not an issue. I'm trying to see how long I can keep mine without having to change the virtual water....... Pffft! They don't mean a thing. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 3:56:27 AM | UR4ME? I totally agree with you. I have had men send me 'gifts' in an email and they actually ask me about them later - "Did you get your gift I sent?" I just sort of laugh at it. I think they are actually hoping for brownie points for doing that! That sort of thing is cute when it's your 4 yr old bringing it home from Pre-K, a drawing of a rose. But let's get real the idea of a man's hand holding a bunch of tulips - are we really supposed to get excited or turned on by this?? I think a good come back at that point would be "Yes I received your gift and they are beautiful, I can't wait to see what you bring me in PERSON!" ~meow~
Man this online dating stuff is getting weird! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 4:31:58 AM | Roses are for friends that are down. Now potential dates...nah....they get the wine, beer and choclate....get 'em all liquored up and relaxed....
Cheers! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:21:21 AM | Well...
the roses come with a "Be Mine" written on them!
So, when I see they have 0 roses I think at first "hmmmmm, how many people are they asking to "Be Mine"? haha
But then I remind myself that many don't even know that it says "Be Mine"! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:27:30 AM | | I've come across a few profiles where women state right in their profile..."if you've given out any or all of your roses don't bother contacting me". I guess having less than 2 makes them feel like they are not your (our) first choice. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:30:16 AM | I got the teddy bear the other day from a man who wanted to IM...it says "I Love You" on the note beside the bear...um, okay. We emailed back and forth a bit, before I noticed the note with the bear. I don't think he realized the note was there, either...I don't think for one second he was actually in love with me. When I told him that I don't like when guys IM looking for cyber sex, I haven't heard from him since.
The gifts and roses don't mean much if they're just being handed out by someone thinking it will get them into your virtual pants. I would only take it seriously if it was from a man I had corresponded with a lot, one of my favorites or someone else that I've had a rapport with through email. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:30:57 AM |
Roses are for friends that are down. Now potential dates...nah....they get the wine, beer and choclate....get 'em all liquored up and relaxed....
I sooo agree! Well said! beer:
A lot of people do not realise that there is a "be mine" logo next to the rose and send it as fellow poster said. I do too. sometimes.
Conclusion: Some people overanalyze and raise flags without a cause! lol : And that IS a red flag re them! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:41:27 AM | I think those virtual gifts that you can "buy" with your points are silly. It is a BIG turn off when someone sends me a virtual gift. Especially the guitar. What does that mean?????? You think I should take up music lessons?
However those 2 roses that you only get 2 of in every 30 days, those actually do convey a meaning. They say "Be Mine." They mean you are seriously interested in someone. They shouldn't be given out if you don't mean to convey to the recipient that you are seriously interested.
That stated, no I don't wish to talk to someone who doesn't have his roses. I realize that he is trying to get serious with someone else.
I hate it when a guy sends me one of those and we have not been talking very long. I was on this site previously and that happened a lot. I used to post my photo. I do not do that now either. I include it in e-mails when I want to talk with the person. The roses however..........those mean you are talking seriously with someone. If you gave those to someone else then why are you talking to me? | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:43:02 AM | I agree Rick R,,,
My roses go to friends who are having a bad day, a bad week, nothing romantic.
I never bother to see if guys have sent their roses or not,I am one not to get paranoid over s stupid vurtual rose... | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 5:49:40 AM |
Does it make you think twice about emailing them or maybe click to another profile and forget about it?
They mean nothing- really this stops you from contacting someone .
Listen, a couple times I have sent emails to someone and the rose mysteriously
attached itself to the email. I have no idea how.
So I am telling you that maybe, just maybe sometimes its done by mistake and
means nothing. Really- they mean nothing. Dont let it stop you. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 6:06:25 AM | Havent sent any roses myself, not sure it matters to me at all.
If I have questions, I am not shy about asking. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 6:21:20 AM | | I have sent one rose and wasn't aware it had "be mine" on it but what he heck. I only send ROSES to someone that I have been out with and am interested in pursuing a realtionship. Now the bear .....I send to friends to let them know I am thinking about them. I don't think it really matters either way. To each his/her own. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 6:45:29 AM |  Roses from the Online Dating Florist.
Digital flowers which, astutely used, can avoid a potential thorn in ones side.
Shrewd weeding improves cultivation
Paranoid partners are partial to paroxysms.
Best avoided | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:09:11 AM | Have had that happen. No, I wouldn't e-mail them. It means that they have someone else under serious consideration, at least. You never know why the subject of the profile does what they do, but that observation alone makes me prefer to look for someone who's actually available.
As for the second scenario (noticing one of the "be mine" roses is missing after you've started talking/dating---and it wasn't sent to me), It'd definitely make me cautious, to say the least. I'd prefer not to ask about it, because it's an invitation to be lied to. It's not really any of my business WHO she sent it to, but the fact that she sent it to someone else speaks volumes. Never give too much attention to someone who obviously thinks of you only as an option---which is exactly how she sees you if that's going on. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:21:25 AM | | I very seldom message anyone first, but that probably would stop me. Especially if it's someone who's looked at my profile first and decided to not write. The one thing I find REALLY annoying about those roses is you begin talking to someone and they've got two roses. They tell you you're the ONLY one they're interested in and next time you check, they've got zero roses left and you didn't get either of them. But then again, I don't put a whole lot of faith, time or energy into any of this. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/25/2007 7:36:37 AM | I don't think it's very relevant. What if a couple of guys she talks to sent them to her, and she just felt compelled to do the same? She might then still have very little interest in them, but no roses.
At the end of the day, with few exceptions, until and unless I'm in a relationship with a woman, what's been going on between her and other men just isn't my business.
Exceptions would be for things that could affect the new relationship. Examples could be promiscuilty, which could end up affecting me, or baggage, or an ex who is a stalker, an inmate, ruined her credit, etc. Otherwise, it just doesn't matter. | |
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