| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 10:59:17 AM | hey. yeah, surprise surprise. I'm on antidepressants. Have been for two years now. I'm getting off them slowly but it's hard, ok?
just curious, how many men think antidepressants are a deal breaker?
i know a lot of guys out there are wary of 'crazy' females...but isn't it better if we have it under control?
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 11:04:39 AM | | If they keep you stable then they are certainly not a deal breaker. In fact I would think most guys would shy away from untreated bi polar or manic depressive girls rather than those on medication. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 12:00:30 PM | For me, it would depend on the medication and the dosage. If someone is taking 150mg or less of Effexor, as an example, who cares. As long as the person understands the medication and is compliant, most medications work well.
Now, if the person needs heavy mood stabilizing meds that, if a day is missed, I will be dealing with some pretty serious emotional fallout, then I have no interest in getting involved. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 12:12:55 PM | heh heh; you wouldn't like me off my meds. As my 18 year old told the 12 year old the other day, relax, mom only gets mad about 4 times a year; this is three, we only have one to go.
I'm on Welbutrin, and I can tell when I go off of it for a week or so; I've never told any of the dudes I was hangin out with that I'm medicated; it never came up. But then again, they've never seen me be the weepy overemotional mess I am without em. I KNOW I need them, so I take them; no reason to subject the whole world to the fact that I go batshit crazy every now and again....
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 1:25:34 PM | well, if you were a diabetic, would the guy get pissy and want you off insulin?
I take wellbutrin also. Trust me, you wouldnt want me without it. I don't even want myself without it.
If your brain chemisty is f..ked up and needs adjusting, that's no different than someone who needs insulin cause their pancrea isn't working. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 1:34:16 PM | | Did you know that Welbutrin is the only antidepressant that doesn't zap your libido and make you gain weight. Been taking it for years for fibromyalgia...if I get off it for a few weeks, i start hurting all over | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 1:40:16 PM | Not a deal breaker for me.
Anyone that has a medical problem needs something for it.
I've known several women on anti-depressants, including members of my own family, and believe me, some of them NEEDED it!
The problem I have with dating a medicated woman is lack of affect.
They don't get real emotional about anything, up or down, so you really don't get 'The Big Picture' until you are with them long enough to see them off medication...
I also hear lots of women complain they just can't meet a man that really 'Trips Their Trigger'...
It's the medication.
If not for the medication, they would be over the moon for some guy.
Probably a good thing so brain chemistry doesn't trick them into doing something stupid right away...
Sex is another issue. Lots of women complain about no sex drive or inability to orgasm, or they just don't enjoy sex as much as they once did.
On the other hand, I just read where Paxil is being prescribed to guys for premature ejaculation problems. 10 to 20 mg. seems to do wonders for quick shooters.
Seems it slows down the male orgasm to more than three strokes.
Now, if they can just get the dope makers to put viagra and paxil in Jack Daniels...
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 1:45:14 PM | I know you asked the guys but I couldn't resist throwing in my 2 cents. If the medication fixed the problem it wouldn't be an issue, but 90% of the time it doesnt.
And thus it would be a deal breaker for me dating someone who is on anti-depressants.
I went through all that over 14 years ago and have never taken medication since - the medication numbs a person and makes it very difficult to deal with the issues that are creating the deperession in the first place. It took 2 years to get all the drugs out of my system and another 2 years to resolve the issues and move my life in a positive direction. I will never let myself slip that low again and it is something I can absolutely do something about!
I realize there are some legitimate uses for the medication but I think we as a population are way too overmedicated in general. The medical profession (espcially in Canada) just doesn't have the time to deal with patients so they medicate them to the point where they can vaguely function then move on to the next case never fixing the problem that caused the depression in the first place. To fix depression means to re-examine who we are, to get physically active and to begin taking daily steps to move beyond the darkness - it can take months - it can take years - it isn't a quick fix.
For anyone who is dealing with depression at this time please no that you CAN do something to help yourself. 30 minutes of walking every day at a moderate pace will reduce depression in 95% of cases within 30 days. There are also many other things you can do to begin the healing cycle.
I do hope this post will be taken in the light it is shared... everyone is going to go through depression at some point in their life (that is a given), its how we handle the depression that defines what kind of future we will have. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 1:53:21 PM | girls,boys...it is all the same....
It is my OPINION that anti-depressants are over prescribed. Just as ritalin is for children.
My sisters and mother (when she was alive) use anti-depressants...My cousin, who assists with heart surgeries, told me the other day that over 50% of the patients he has taken medical histories from (thousands) are on anti-depressants. So ask yourself this.....Are you taking them to make life easier? Do you take them because you don't want to discipline yourself when you are down? Do you continue to take them because they change you into a person everybody can live with? Have they become "mothers little helper"?
Depression is indeed real....It can last from days to months and maybe even years....Some people may actually NEED anti-depressants, but I believe MOST do not. Most people WANT them. I have been depressed for periods of time up to 8 months....it's not fun...it's not easy...it is draining and confusing...no sleep...BUT...if you can recognize the symptoms.. That is the first thing in arming yourself to do battle with it. I think after coming out of even a short depression you are a stronger person. Your mettle has been tested and you are more aware....You have thought things through and made decisions...You may now discipline yourself to control your emotions and conquer the opressive nature of depression. Why can't people choose to deal with their problems and overcome them without drugs? Personally, when I know a person is on anti-depressants I wonder who they REALLY are...even my own sisters!
I know I am about to get torn to bits by posters who need to rationalize their dependency....I've already been ripped by my sisters....who are both nurses... This is my opinion...I was asked for it. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:15:14 PM | Hello prudegirl,
There are people who understand just how pervasive and irrational depression is. I tried antidepressants for about a month. And i began to notice some odd mental disturbances like lightening going off in my head all over the place at random times. So i stopped taking the meds immediately, it took 4 months for the random neuron firing to stop.
I've suffered with depression all my life however its manageable and not constant. It comes and goes and I have to ride it the best i can when it does come. I spent most of my life hiding the fact i was depressed. Now i'm with someone who understands and suffers from it as well from time to time. We both understand and nurture each other through those times without pressuring each other to change anything. We both know it will run its course and things will be back to normal.
No one understands depression unless they have suffered or are suffering of it. I don't believe it is something that can be controlled but one can recognize that they are suffering and not feed into it and ride it out. Being with someone who understands is important because it means i don't have to pretend or be something i'm not and my best differs from day to day depending on what i'm going though. I hope you find someone who understands and accepts you for who you are without needing to change you at all. There are people out there.
Wish you all the best,
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:15:20 PM | Lady Kay....you are sounding a little Tom Cruise-ish :)
everyone is going to go through depression at some point in their life
i disagree with that. sure, everyone goes through highs & lows...THAT is a given....but not everyone suffers with life altering depression.
personally, i'm as sick of the people tossing around the word "depression" to describe a sad mood as i am of the doctors that prescribe meds without counselling.
as to the OP, unless you are more involved than just casual dating, i don't think it's anyone's business. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:30:56 PM | Depression is indeed real....It can last from days to months and maybe even years
I appreciate the sensitivity you are putting into your post, butI think you are confusing a person who is depressed with a person living with clinical depression.
A depressed person is dealing with emotional issues that is often short-term and can be managed with counselling, change of environment, change of circumstance, etc. A person living with clinical depression, or "major depression disorder" (DSM-IV), is dealing with a brain chemistry issue and while counselling helps, only medication can balance out the chemical misfirings.
However, with the right meds, and the right level of meds, a person living with clinical depression will feel and act much like everyone else. Sadly, it sometimes is a long road of try this-try that for someone to find what works for them. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 2:32:04 PM | | Prozac is my drug of choice. Sometimes it is for seasonal depression (Oct- April),sometimes it is for clinical depression. The bonus for me is it helps with severe pms and insomnia. I would rather be on one medication that helps with multiple issues, than multiple meds for each issue. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:41:35 PM | | I was on them for a couple of years while I sorted out some stuff with my life. They were an enormous help in keeping me stable when I reckon I would have completely lost it otherwise. I'm off them now and feeling great but I would never begrudge anyone some chemical assistance if they needed it. | |
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Posted: 6/27/2007 2:46:01 PM | i agree with ur4me and disagree with ladykay.
btw, welbutrin is also sold as a smoking cessation aid called zyban. i tried it to quit a few years back and didn't sleep for a month.
if the meds don't address the issues or cause side effects it's because you're on the wrong o nes or wrong dosage. they are over prescribed mainly because people that have symptoms often want quick fixes. many forms of anxiety or depression require therapy not drugs. i believe they are the only way to address brain chemical issues but not situational depression.
i'm not a doctor but i do role play one in the bedroom if asked nicely. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:49:32 PM | A lot of people are taking such meds. For me, that would not necessarily be a dealbreaker.
I think it's a good idea not to be too casual about bringing it up, though. When I was an undergrad psych student, co-workers used to insist on discussing medications, and no amount of discouragement seemed to turn that off.
There are other treatments which can be appropriate, depending on the circumstances. But I think that addressing the problem effectively, ranks for the good. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 2:50:29 PM | Because their doctor recommended it or they lost the ability to cope with their lives.
Has anyone noticed the explosion of people who are taking pills? It was sad enough five years ago when I noticed that every kid I met was diagnosed ADD now a large group of adults are now taking meds for their ADD. Also, Bi-Polar disorder which is absolutely crazy....I am at a loss to figure out what is going on?
The question is no longer would you date somebody who is taking meds, you have no choice because everyone IS taking meds for some social or emotional condition. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 3:00:31 PM |
Depression is indeed real....It can last from days to months and maybe even years
I appreciate the sensitivity you are putting into your post, butI think you are confusing a person who is depressed with a person living with clinical depression.
thus the people who really NEED them.
You do make sense UR4me | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:01:53 PM | I actually take a bit of medication myself; I was diagnosed as being mildly schizophrenic earlier this year. I've come to have a bit more compassion for people who need medication as a result. Personally, if it keeps the mood or mental disorder in check, it's all good. I've learned that as one get to a certain age, I guess we all have our baggage. It just depends on what baggage you'll accept in a relationship. Me? I couldn't handle someone who already has children just because of the third wheel involved and I'd never want to be a surrogate father to someone's kid. But that's just me.
Question I actually have is when do you drop that you suffer from a disorder? I don't go around really annoucing the fact (well, usually) that I have one, but at some point you have to be honest. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:07:10 PM |
Question I actually have is when do you drop that you suffer from a disorder?
I agree that this is very sensitive and personal information and should only be shared with people who you care about and that are invested in your well being.
However, if you are in the midst of a med switch while dating, or are currently experiencing some form of "episode" due to illness or medication, then I think you need to let others know so they can help, if needed. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:48:01 PM | Proud member of the Zoloft club here! I'm not a bit shy admitting that I deal with depression and anxiety. If you ever met me, you probably wouldnt guess that I deal with these disorders. I figure if a person wants to judge me because I take antidepressants, thats fine with me. I havent been shot down yet.
I do have to agree that antidepressants are overprescibed. You tell the doc that you lost some weight and cant sleep, and they wanna pop a pill in your mouth! But at the same time, theres others that cant help from suffering from depression, and need extra help besides counceling. No need to judge. | |
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